Comments on: Stop Trying To Be A Clown http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Wed, 23 May 2012 11:16:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Lily http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18287 Lily Sat, 20 Sep 2008 00:19:51 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18287 It just goes back to stop trying to impress and just be who you are. And think before you actually speak. It just goes back to stop trying to impress and just be who you are. And think before you actually speak.

]]> By: David Wygant http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18215 David Wygant Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:34:03 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18215 Jaimie Ca Kaa Right back at ya!!! Jaimie

Ca Kaa Right back at ya!!!

]]> By: Khiem http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18214 Khiem Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:33:10 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18214 I'd like to think that no matter whether you are meeting a man or a woman, that person wants to be able to imagine themselves both have fun and be real with you. If you just want to have fun, you have your social energizer bunny type of friends. If you JUST want to have "that" kind of fun, you have your booty calls. If you want to be real, you have your close friends. But if you can be real AND have fun with a person, you have yourself a romantic connection :) It's about finding the balance between having an arousing/exciting and a comfortable/rapport building type of relationship. I’d like to think that no matter whether you are meeting a man or a woman, that person wants to be able to imagine themselves both have fun and be real with you.

If you just want to have fun, you have your social energizer bunny type of friends. If you JUST want to have “that” kind of fun, you have your booty calls.

If you want to be real, you have your close friends.

But if you can be real AND have fun with a person, you have yourself a romantic connection :)

It’s about finding the balance between having an arousing/exciting and a comfortable/rapport building type of relationship.

]]> By: vern siang http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18213 vern siang Wed, 17 Sep 2008 09:59:08 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18213 hey david, you know what i have to admit here, no lie, no hidden, no more drama and most of the time in my mind THINK "how am I going to open up this woman? or "How do I get her to talk to me? that really suck. i try not too but it happened over and over again. i mean it's not consistent. it's really true what you've said "You don’t have to be funny. Just look for the obvious every time. If you calm yourself down, the obvious thing will always present itself. "WOW !!!!! that's relieve.i need "Practice" :) hey david,

you know what i have to admit here, no lie, no hidden, no more drama and most of the time in my mind THINK “how am I going to open up this woman? or “How do I get her to talk to me? that really suck. i try not too but it happened over and over again. i mean it’s not consistent.

it’s really true what you’ve said

“You don’t have to be funny. Just look for the obvious every time. If you calm yourself down, the obvious thing will always present itself.

“WOW !!!!! that’s relieve.i need “Practice” :)

]]> By: Infinity http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18210 Infinity Wed, 17 Sep 2008 06:10:22 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18210 Gabrielle - Thanks for pointing out that it's not only a man's issue. We are all the same. Some of us just have it easier than others. But sometimes, that random interaction IS what makes people's day. Spontaneity is a pleasure that we all love. Jamie - Congratulations on the bootcamp. I am sure that David and his friends provide great information and motivation in making yourself a better person. Just keep it up and it WILL become natural and eventually getting contacts will be just as natural. Gabrielle – Thanks for pointing out that it’s not only a man’s issue. We are all the same. Some of us just have it easier than others. But sometimes, that random interaction IS what makes people’s day. Spontaneity is a pleasure that we all love.

Jamie – Congratulations on the bootcamp. I am sure that David and his friends provide great information and motivation in making yourself a better person. Just keep it up and it WILL become natural and eventually getting contacts will be just as natural.

]]> By: Sapphire http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18209 Sapphire Wed, 17 Sep 2008 06:09:04 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18209 Such great advise David! A few days ago a guy was walking back and forth and back and forth in front of where I work, while attempting to discreetly leer in the window (just for the record, leering is never discrete) and talking on his cell phone (or at least pretending to). This continued for a half an hour, by which point he had already been dubbed the creepy guy on the phone. If he would have come in right off the bat and said something about our business that caught his eye (or even just hello), I would have talked to him. It was so obvious that he thought his opener (which we've heard literally hundreds of times before) was clever and it was so unnatural. In all honesty, he could have said anything and by then it wouldn't have mattered. The chances of saying something truly unique are fairly slim (present company excluded of course), but saying the same thing with sincerity or a genuine intrest makes all the difference in the world. Such great advise David!

A few days ago a guy was walking back and forth and back and forth in front of where I work, while attempting to discreetly leer in the window (just for the record, leering is never discrete) and talking on his cell phone (or at least pretending to). This continued for a half an hour, by which point he had already been dubbed the creepy guy on the phone. If he would have come in right off the bat and said something about our business that caught his eye (or even just hello), I would have talked to him. It was so obvious that he thought his opener (which we’ve heard literally hundreds of times before) was clever and it was so unnatural. In all honesty, he could have said anything and by then it wouldn’t have mattered.

The chances of saying something truly unique are fairly slim (present company excluded of course), but saying the same thing with sincerity or a genuine intrest makes all the difference in the world.

]]> By: Jaime http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18207 Jaime Wed, 17 Sep 2008 03:19:45 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18207 I just got done with the bootcamp and up until this last weekend I was always the clown, I always knew how to make a situation funny and entertain people, but I lacked almost completely any emotional connection. When I was meeting girls I had so much of an agenda, I would hardly know what to say in a real serious conversation. David pointed this out to me and I have taken his words to heart and not think of bullshit to say and just be natural, and genuine. I can see that I do this naturally with people I already know, or people I genuinely care about. Almost never with the mindset of I got to get this girl's number! That is where I fell flat everytime, and always wondered why I never made any connections. After this weekend's Bootcamp I have a totally new perspective and such an amazing breakthrough with being the real me. Khiem, Jack, Kim and Taras, these guys and girls are awesome, anyone thinking of doing a bootcamp, do yourself a favor, JUST DO IT. You will make quantum leaps in your ability to attract and connect with almost anyone. An awesome weekend with a buncha great guys, building relationships and memories that will last is worth the price alone, but the skills David and his guys teach you priceless! Thanks D. and Ca-Kaw! I just got done with the bootcamp and up until this last weekend I was always the clown, I always knew how to make a situation funny and entertain people, but I lacked almost completely any emotional connection. When I was meeting girls I had so much of an agenda, I would hardly know what to say in a real serious conversation.

David pointed this out to me and I have taken his words to heart and not think of bullshit to say and just be natural, and genuine. I can see that I do this naturally with people I already know, or people I genuinely care about. Almost never with the mindset of I got to get this girl’s number! That is where I fell flat everytime, and always wondered why I never made any connections.

After this weekend’s Bootcamp I have a totally new perspective and such an amazing breakthrough with being the real me. Khiem, Jack, Kim and Taras, these guys and girls are awesome, anyone thinking of doing a bootcamp, do yourself a favor, JUST DO IT. You will make quantum leaps in your ability to attract and connect with almost anyone. An awesome weekend with a buncha great guys, building relationships and memories that will last is worth the price alone, but the skills David and his guys teach you priceless! Thanks D. and Ca-Kaw!

]]> By: Jaime http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18206 Jaime Wed, 17 Sep 2008 03:18:10 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18206 Rich is that you Ca-kaw? Rich is that you Ca-kaw?

]]> By: Jaime a.k.a "Tazmanian Devil" http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18205 Jaime a.k.a "Tazmanian Devil" Wed, 17 Sep 2008 03:12:58 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18205 Up until this last weekend I was always the clown, I always knew how to make a situation funny and entertain people, but I lacked almost completely any emotional connection. When I was meeting girls I had so much of an agenda, I would hardly know what to say in a real serious conversation. David pointed this out to me and I have taken his words to heart and not think of bullshit to say and just be natural, and genuine. I can see that I do this naturally with people I already know, or people I genuinely care about. Almost never with the mindset of I got to get this girl's number! That is where I fell flat everytime, and always wondered why I never made any connections. After this weekend's Bootcamp I have a totally new perspective and such an amazing breakthrough with being the real me. Khiem, Jack, Kim and Taras, these guys and girls are awesome, anyone thinking of doing a bootcamp, do yourself a favor, just do it. You will make quantum leaps in your ability to attract and connect with almost anyone. An awesome weekend with a buncha great guys, building relationships and memories that will last is worth the price alone, but the skills David and his guys teach you priceless! Thanks D. and Ca-Kaw! Up until this last weekend I was always the clown, I always knew how to make a situation funny and entertain people, but I lacked almost completely any emotional connection. When I was meeting girls I had so much of an agenda, I would hardly know what to say in a real serious conversation.

David pointed this out to me and I have taken his words to heart and not think of bullshit to say and just be natural, and genuine. I can see that I do this naturally with people I already know, or people I genuinely care about. Almost never with the mindset of I got to get this girl’s number! That is where I fell flat everytime, and always wondered why I never made any connections.

After this weekend’s Bootcamp I have a totally new perspective and such an amazing breakthrough with being the real me. Khiem, Jack, Kim and Taras, these guys and girls are awesome, anyone thinking of doing a bootcamp, do yourself a favor, just do it. You will make quantum leaps in your ability to attract and connect with almost anyone. An awesome weekend with a buncha great guys, building relationships and memories that will last is worth the price alone, but the skills David and his guys teach you priceless! Thanks D. and Ca-Kaw!

]]> By: Gabrielle http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/stop-trying-to-be-a-clown/774/#comment-18204 Gabrielle Wed, 17 Sep 2008 02:38:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=774#comment-18204 Rey - I definitely agree with you! I sometimes go over the top with my jokes and have people rolling but there wasn't any real interaction in that with someone you are trying to get to know. 'Cause usually when you are just meeting someone, they are wanting your info too and if you are just entertaining them the whole time you are interacting with them, they're going to think "is this person for real?" and they are going to want to get away from you and want to talk to someone who will connect with them. I catch myself thinking too much and then remember, "just getting information so be cool..." As you can see, it's the same for women trying to meet you guys. I love those random interactions with people on the street. Some have me wanting to hit EJECT especially if they are screaming curse words or are panhandlers in my face!!! On rare occasion I get the ones where I think - ok cool - I just connected with a homeless guy and it made my day! That was great improv, David. Ya'lls interaction had me cracking up! Really women are just looking to connect and share in conversation with you guys too. Rey – I definitely agree with you! I sometimes go over the top with my jokes and have people rolling but there wasn’t any real interaction in that with someone you are trying to get to know. ‘Cause usually when you are just meeting someone, they are wanting your info too and if you are just entertaining them the whole time you are interacting with them, they’re going to think “is this person for real?” and they are going to want to get away from you and want to talk to someone who will connect with them.

I catch myself thinking too much and then remember, “just getting information so be cool…”

As you can see, it’s the same for women trying to meet you guys.

I love those random interactions with people on the street. Some have me wanting to hit EJECT especially if they are screaming curse words or are panhandlers in my face!!! On rare occasion I get the ones where I think – ok cool – I just connected with a homeless guy and it made my day! That was great improv, David. Ya’lls interaction had me cracking up!

Really women are just looking to connect and share in conversation with you guys too.

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