Hey man, now you can’t say that you didn’t go in there. After a while, if you just keep going in there, you’ll become less nervous and have more things to say. Try it again with her and see how much easier it gets. And I bet you’ll have more to say too.

Nice!

Please let me know any advice you got for me from my previous blog

Thank you for sharing. I wish I was as strong as you. I just can not imagine someday sitting across from that guy I have feelings for telling him I have a virus that he could get.

I don’t know if the sorry excuse for a human being (man) that gave this to me knew he had herpes or not. I’m assuming he knew because he had something like a rash… I said what is that… he said it was from having to much sex. I was definitely stupid and uneducated at the age 21 about safe sex and STDs.

As you, I never want to give this to anyone! You have to agree this hurts people emotionally and physically. Remember back when you 1st got it. I am positively sure you didn’t have the acceptance and confidence about being infected that you have today.

Stress, I deal with that very well. I don’t have people around me that want to add stress to my life. I have less than 5 flare ups a year if that. I think its because in the beginning I was REALLY sick for months. I have been taking L-Lysine for years. I read for some people the longer you have it the less break outs you have.

It’s not that I don’t enjoy myself. I have 2 boys (not from that guy) who mean everything to me. After I got infected I was depressed and started thinking that I didn’t want to be alone forever. I wanted a child so, when the flare up was over I got pregnant. I didn’t tell the guy I was seeing I had herpes and no he didn’t get it…the relationship ended after he knew I was pregnant. My second son is from a guy I was engaged to…yes he knew I had the virus. Telling him was awful!!! It was at the wrong time… in the heat of passion, I stared to cry and blurted it out before it was to late. After a few days of him thinking about it and us it didn’t matter to him. I never married him for other reasons. I don’t know if he has it.

Its been so long I am afraid of men. I am done with me/men relationships.

This is truly a big step for me just to write about me having this without crying. Ok, just teary eyed.

You have FUN for me

I have had herpes for 30 years. I got it in college before they knew very much about it. It was scary and painful but after this many years, it is no longer physically painful – thank god – just annoying.

I always tell up front when things are heading in a more “personal” direction because I would NEVER do to someone else what was done to me – to give a virus (even accidentally) to someone else that lasts for a lifetime and has the potential to flare up and then pass it on to others. I have never had a man stop dating me because of it but then I refuse to date jerks in the first place. It seems that being honest and informing others of how I deal with it in a careful and informed way gives them the confidence to trust me. To this day, I have never infected anyone else (and yes, I know that for a fact). I have still never met someone else who also has it (besides the guy who gave it to me, and he didn’t know what he had until I got my diagnosis). Go figure.

Flare-ups are caused by stress and most stress is self-induced. Quit making yourself crazy and get out there – no pity party allowed! Do anything and everything to reduce the stressors in your life – the rest is about HOW you respond to them. Exercise, meditate, laugh uproareously…and flirt! Life is too short not to enjoy yourself and others. And by the way, don’t pooh-pooh the long distance relationship either. I had a long distance (150 freeway miles one-way) relationship that lasted for 7 years – it worked very well for both of us and got both of us workaholics back into dating and having fun instead of working all the time. I work very little overtime these days and enjoy life more than ever. And I am sooo NOT done with the fun! Your turn!

when will the Forums be up and runnin? I wonder what’s your excuse for that…hahaha i’m just kidding about the excuse thing..I guess at least I kinda didn’t go out of topic for posting that curiosity of mine..lol

but seriously, WHEN? I can’t wait….

PS=looking foward on your monday blog..

Point taken, will make sure i’m not such a wuss in the future! i do give a good raised eyebrow

Women like when guys check us out.
So, look smile, wink, raise that eyebrow at women u find attractive.
Maybe even wave or say hi
No harm done that way.
Just don’t do it in a gross way.

You could be right there, when i like a girl i’m very conscious of not getting busted checking her out so i tend to look away when they look at me (thats bad i know). I’ll try to make more eye contact, thanks.