Stop Lying About Your Age
September 6, 2010 
6 Comments
So you meet this incredible person on the Internet. You go on a couple of dates.
Everything is great.
You think they’re a certain age because they listed it that way in their profile. Then, all of a sudden, you’re about to get close and intimate and they drop the age bomb on you. They say something like, “You know, I’m not really 39. I’m really 47.”
How do you feel about that? How do you feel when someone does that to you?
How do I feel when someone tells me they’ve been lying about their age on the Internet? I tell them to immediately stop lying about their age.
What that says to someone is that you might be lying about other things – and that you’re willing to lie in general. Nobody wants to start a relationship on a lie.
Relationships are tough enough, but starting one off on a lie just makes it that much tougher. It’s going to bring back emotional trigger points of all the bad relationships and all the lies that someone told them in the past. Then you’re going to have to start talking your way out of this, and convincing them that this so-called lie was a one-shot deal.
You’re 47. You’re not 39. If you desire to date people that much younger than you are then you need to go about it by showing people how young you are in person and attract them that way.
When it comes down to the Internet, you need to really be honest about your age. Actually even if you meet someone in a bar (or in any other place), you need to tell the truth about your age too. Once again, if you look amazing for your age then you will attract those younger people you want by your appearance and your demeanor.
Lying about your age basically will give you an uphill battle with any person you start dating. So be proud of how old you are, and realize that whatever age you are is exactly where you need to be.
David,
I will go one step further. Lying, no matter how innocent you feel it is, is never justified.
I agree with James. Great blog!
Great post Dave ! I’ll share a personal story.Three years ago, I met this man online who was 34. We had coffee together,we both thought we have no chemistry and ended it after coffee.
Three years later, the guy contacts me again, online, asking if I’d be interested to see how things would go with us this time ! Same profile, just one change. His age is now 31 ! I atleast had some respect on this guy, now it was gone !
I’m a little confused, because on your Online Dating product you stated that you yourself actually put 39 when you were 47/48 because you said you could date much younger women if you said 39 instead of 47. A change of heart?
Lol im young but what if a guy you like asumes your a freshmen but your not but you like him so you dont say nothing n it stays like that for a week. but he has a problem being any younger then that but i am the age to be a freshmen … im ashamed so i agreed to saying i was in highschool what know hes gona find out sooner or later ps i am a dumbass
what if you had told a guy that you were 45 and you were really 47 and you told him a couple of months later when you realized he actually might be serious about the relationship. I had this happen to me after he initially lied to me about a couple of things and when I told him he called me a liar and basically never heard from him again. I think the rule of thumb is Not to lie in order to protect yourself regardless of the dysfunction of the other person.