This a pattern that is repeated during dating, engagement, marriage and after

Can you imagine just how the advice you may give to your friend can impact their lives?

Imaging telling your friend because her husband of twenty one years is having difficulties that “go ahead and divorce him and start your new life.”

And she took your advice.

The emotional, financial and relationship consequences in this case affected the lives of more than 20 people. The reconcilable differences overnight became irreconcilable.

It’s very easy when you’re not a stakeholder and do not have to pay the price yourself.

Whether you’re dating, boyfriend-girlfriend or married, ladies stop poisoning the well-either positively or negatively.

There is a monumental difference between listening to your girlfriend and understanding how she feels and supporting her emotionally which is fine and helping her “make the call.”

Ladies, you don’t want any part of the “should I/should I not” decision; equally the “what is he thinking/not thinking” one. Because, you simply are getting half the story and do not know the other side.

And I agree with Deb, the friend is the mirror.

revababy made a good example. Growing up, you tend to be more dependent on people who actually care about the direction you go in your life. It’s a new concept when growing up.

These days, it’s different and realizing your “independent spirit within,” you get to appreciate your friends’ opinions while still being able to make the decision on your own.

And like Reynold, when you run into something like that, you get so annoyed because it makes you wonder, “am I dating this person, or a robot being controlled by his/her friends?”

David did also have a post about “stopping over analyzing.” Another good post.

Wygant you check it out?

In the other hand, If I say at first that it’s really not that big of a deal, she would just say Oh Okay and then she would talk about something else. Hahaha. I used to hate it when she does that, but I realized it was for my own good. She never allowed herself anymore to make decisions for my problems, and I learned to do the same. That way, we both get to actually solve our own problems by ourselves, and not just between us both, but also with others. I think that’s how friends should be to each other.

In my area we have a female am radio personality that has been blogging on the radio’s internet sight for a year now, telling of all her bad dates. She admits she’s barely past a bad divorce, and every blog either disses her X husband, X boyfriends, X dates, etc. I blogged her and mentioned that if she wants a date in her new city, perhaps she might keep all the negative past to herself, it was becoming so pathetic I felt embarrased for her. Three months later she is blogging as if she’s seen the light; after admitting no guy wanted to go out with her since every date was being “re-capped” not only on-air, but on blog. Made me rethink what comes out of my mouth at times. Keep it light and positive. No one truly cares, and why should they, I wouldn’t either. Now life is a lot simpler and a whole lot more positive. And when you are smiling and happy, you are the perfect billboard for a smiling, happy guy.