Comments on: Stop Giving One Word Answers

By: David

David — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 23:13:45 +0000

That’s true my girlfriend is the same a one worder.But what I notice is that her friend does all the talking when we are hanging out with others and my girlfriend just laughs.I understand that they are close but at lease let her talk for herself.I know her friend does not like me and stops my converation when I’m with my friends by saying can’t you talk about anything alse.She likes people to lisson to only her.So I say it the friends that make good girl just boring.Because a one worder may have a lot to say but don’t know how to say it for themselves.If they do talk make sure to listen.O here a suggestion ask them to write it in a letter if it works tell me.

By: Yang

Yang — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 06:58:54 +0000

Thank you for this article! I’m currently going through a dilemma with this girl who is constantly givin one word answers, but yet she is very interested in me. I’m definitely going to direct her to this article cause in all honesty, ‘one word answer’ girls are very boring!

By: Shawn

Shawn — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 01:58:48 +0000

Taras said:
Yes, but the problem is two sided as well.

For one thing, every one of those questions could have been rephrased better.

“Are you having a good day?” -> “What kind of day are you having?”

“What are you having for lunch?” -> “How are you enjoying your lunch?”

“Do you like sandwiches?” -> “What’s your favorite sandwich?”

When phrased this way, the girl can’t help but eventually give a better answer, even if it takes a while.
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That’s not entirely true. I’ve known a few girls who, if asked “How’s your day going?”, will simply answer “Pretty good,” and not elaborate at all. This doesn’t give me any more to run with than answering “Yes” to “Are you having a good day?” It’s frustrating, and it has a tendency to make me think that a girl is trying to hide something. That she’s not being honest with me.

By: Nathan

Nathan — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 13:04:11 +0000

Well Steph I may only be 23 but I still think that text messages are for quick comments or questions.. Eg. Wanna do something tonight? Be there in 10. I forgot to get cream, can you pick some up on your way over? or if you do want a conversation, “are you busy?” and then call them.

It may be good for a few cheeky remarks or to get someone to open up AFTER getting to know them already but it’s not for deep conversations.

Just my view on texting.

By: Steph

Steph — Sun, 29 May 2011 23:00:28 +0000

You know, I totally agree with this post.. however, it happens to us girls too.

There are so many times I try to text/message someone and all I get after typing a paragraph or asking a question is either “lol”, “yes”, “no”, or “dunno”. It’s annoying as hell when I really want to have a conversation with someone.

Also, why is it that people never go “how about you?” or “And you?” when they’re answering questions? If I ask you how your day is going, why not ask me how mine is? The issue is definitely two sided because guys do it just as much, or sometimes even more, than girls do.

Regardless, it’s absolutely annoying.

By: rae

rae — Sat, 07 May 2011 03:30:29 +0000

What I love about this is that… us girls do that when we…
a) don’t care
b) don’t wanna know you
c) you aren’t the person we wanna talk to at that point in time of our lives
! duh, fuckin idiots…

By: Rich

Rich — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 18:03:19 +0000

I hate when girls that so much! even my girlfriend will do the same thing to me, and considering we’ve been going out for 6 months, you’d have thought this “test” crap would be over with…really irritating!

Especially when you’re talking about something that happened…giving a really big description and have them say “cool.” its just like ARGHH >.<.

By: Jim R

Jim R — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 19:58:57 +0000

This was a great post, i can really relate because I’m talking to a girl like this right now. When we text or talk sometimes she always is giving me one word answers even though mine are full and try to keep the conversation going. I now realize that its not me but its her who is in the wrong. Referring back to a newer post that you’ve written, I’m not going to dote on if things don’t work, I’m just gonna move on, instead of this keeping me from meeting new women.
Thanks, Jim

By: Taras

Taras — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 06:18:32 +0000

Thanks Steve! I’m glad someone caught onto that! Though I should point out that it was never my intention to “school” anyone per se. Both David and Wayne have been wonderful influential mentors in my life and I find their individual bits of wisdom often times compliment the other’s. That said… if you’d like to help me bring additional value to the readers of this blog, by all means be my guest

By: Sam

Sam — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 00:41:51 +0000

Tariq

Your story was ok, but it needs more feel added to it. At the moment it just sounds like a dog had a go at you, and thats it. Maybe explain what happened to you in high school to give it some context. So the person you’re telling can understand why it was such a big deal for you. Also, if you’re talking to a girl (this is just my opinion) i’d drop the swearing. It depends who your audience is of course but i try not to over-do the swearing in front of someone i’m interested in. Hope this helps