Comments on: Stop Being A Bully

By: Sammy

Sammy — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 12:19:03 +0000

I am a bully and I want to get help and tips on how to stop bullying people into thinking my way,i want to stop speaking nastily about people,i dont want to be known as a bully anymore. I have lost alot of respect from people because of my bullying beheaviour…..people hate me

By: Infinity

Infinity — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 17:55:30 +0000

I have always been my biggest critic. And in some ways, it’s great because I am constantly improving myself. On the flipside, I sometimes over emphasize my critiques when I should just chill.

Whenever I am in the moment of over-critique, I try to catch myself and just relax. It’s not a big deal. Just keep pushing and it’ll all come together.

Like everyone else said, accepting and rising above it is the way.

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 03:05:26 +0000

Yes I bully myself a LOT! Ever since listening to you though, I have really been trying to forget that monkey chatter and just talk. I keep saying “it’s just getting information.” That usually calms me down and I can relax and have conversation. It seems that when that chatter starts up – I deliver the words I wanted to say anyway and get good response from them – yay! Even if I don’t get a good response, someone else picks up the verbal batting and we keep going. Either way, it’s helping me halt the bullying.

Oh – one thing I want to share is something I’ve learned recently. We all probably did not get a lot of positive words or touch communicated to some or all of us in our childhood or adulthood. It really is up to us as individuals to put those positive words in ourselves. For me, I look at myself in the mirror (and really look – notice my features, look in my eyes) and tell myself that I am beautiful and I am sexy. Try it! This is building yourself up and you will start to feel good about yourself and believe what you say about yourself. This will show through in your confidence and other people will notice. Am I perfect? No of course not, no one is! It isn’t that bad though when you really think about it and you love your imperfections. It isn’t so bad! And its great when you can laugh at it too.

By: Adam

Adam — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 23:44:02 +0000

Quote:
“In reality, nothing in life is perfect. Your imperfections are the things you need to embrace and learn to love. If you don’t embrace and love your own imperfections, nobody else ever will.”

This is so true. Our imperfections are what make us unique and interesting. Like David said, embrace your imperfections. Don’t just tolerate your imperfections, love them, be proud of them and they will always make you a more interesting person. I must be a really interesting person then.

By: Taras

Taras — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 21:36:07 +0000

I like what Rich said there. I think it’s alright to bully yourself every ONCE in a while as long as it is a valid critiscism and not just more monkey chatter messing with your head. All in all, accepting it and rising above seems to be key.

By: Rich

Rich — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:59:00 +0000

Ya, I bully myself all the time. The mastery of life, whether it be money, women, or anything is firstly a mastery of your personal power, and then secondarily your “skills” in these endeavors.

And then you might say to yourself now “wow, I’m being so mean to myself, why?!?!” but that would only be another layer of it. Just accept it, because its the ego talking. Rising above it is always the best way.

By: Reynold

Reynold — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:46:37 +0000

ya, i’m definitely my worst bully. im constantly judging myself if i’m doing this right im doing that wrong, if im looking good, if i’m not looking good.

like khiem will say… “oh my gawd Rey, you’re so mean!”