Comments on: Solving The Boyfriend Dilemma

By: weixiang

weixiang — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:19:08 +0000

please bring back the Q&A!

By: Brad

Brad — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:11:34 +0000

Thanks for the feedback everybody. David, you’re absolutely right about the expectations concept. If it works for movies, why not with dating too?!

By: Tony888

Tony888 — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 18:57:34 +0000

So, DTO, Kismet & Justine, do you think it would be okay to call her Coppertone Girl as kind of a pet name just joking around? “Hey Coppertone Girl, where have you been to get such a great tan? I need to do something about my Snow White skin, whatdya think? I don’t want to look like that ‘I’m a PC’ guy.”

Or ” Do you think a super white guy like me could get a date with a deep bronze girl like you?” said with a wink & a smile.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 16:40:01 +0000

Happy Early B Day to you Dave!

I am in a similiar situation but this one will take time. What I did was this I allowed him the time and space to figure out what he wants to do but I will still remain his close friend no matter what good or bad. I do not go and tell him hey you need to let go. We talk about certain issues but others is when he brings it up and wants to talk about. DO NOT put down the other relationship for what I have been told if you then it will look bad on your part. Just let them know that you will be there for them and as a friend for now.

By: Justine

Justine — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 06:58:27 +0000

I agree with Dan about bringing up tanning with a tan woman. The best way to get a woman to share and open up is by listening and letting her talk. Being funny and playful is good too. Do it with a smile! Women love a funny guy with a big grin!

Btw, I’ve started reading David Deida’s book The Way of the Superior Man. Anyone read Deidas book?

By: kismet

kismet — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 03:23:55 +0000

Girls who go to tanning salons have an even tan color, whereas girls who are actually outside have a more realistic, uneven tan, I’d say. Making a generalization, girls who tan care alot about the way they look and are willing to spend money on a salon tan, so that should say something about their characteristic vice versa.

By: DanTheOriginal

DanTheOriginal — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 13:41:48 +0000

I would not ask that from a tanned lady…Maybe after you get to know her a bit but, I supposed, many may get offended…If they do go to a tanning salon they can obviously be very touchy about their appearance. Maybe you can say something like…”Every time I see you I think of you as the Hawaii girl with your great tan…You are not from Hawaii, are you?” smiling and being playful all the way…Then, you shut up, and let her speak and LISTEN to what she says and extend/take over the conversation from there.

Personally, I think the people who go to tanning salons have some issues:-)

By: Tony888

Tony888 — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 03:55:05 +0000

Question for the ladies here as much as the coaches. Of course, Coach Kimberly is both a lady & a coach, so this is for her as much as anyone. Lexi, Sandra, Julia & Marina give me some feedback too. Sorry to hijack this thread, but I need some female advice.

I see a lot of girls around town who look like the definitive Coppertone Girl with a deep tan and I don’t know if it’s “natural” as in actually being out in the sun or if they’ve been in a tanning salon like a tanning bed or gotten one of those spray on tans. Is it appropriate to ask a girl if she uses a tanning salon? Is that too personal? I figure a lot of girls probably want people to think it’s natural, but if it’s been raining all week or they have a job where they’re inside all day, you have to wonder.

What I was thinking about asking is:

“Hey Jen, I couldn’t help noticing you’ve got a great tan. Do you use the tanning salon next door? I’ve been thinking about trying one of their spray-on tans. I’m a little leery of tanning beds since I tend to burn easily, but I’m tired of walking around all the time with deep sea fish white skin. I need a good tan and don’t mind cheating a bit. Have you heard if those spray-on tans work?

Is that okay? Do you think she’ll think I’m questioning her tan or just asking for some honest advice? Which I am. Well, okay, maybe I’m questioning it a little bit, but still, I’m curious about whether I should try one of those spray-on tans or not. How many days do they last before they finally wear off or wash off? Anyone here tried them, men & women both?

By: Justin

Justin — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 21:09:09 +0000

David, A great topic to repeat every so often as its one of those things that needs drilling in more than once I find.

I was going to say “don’t let Jacob make you feel bad about turning 47″, but I know you don’t even care! You look about 37,you have more hair than I do and most people younger than you would swap places with you given the chance.

Like they say, you’re only as old as the woman you feel!

By: vern's

vern's — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 11:05:01 +0000

david are going to be 47 this year to be exact.