Let’s talk about single mothers.
I was with the guys today (“the guys” are Rey and Rich – Rey the assistant and Rich the intern.) We went to Whole Foods today, and I started flirting with this single mom in line while we were checking out. She was very pretty, very sexy, and very nice – and attached to a five-year-old.
The five-year-old was great – really cute and amusing, but he needed ALL of his mother’s attention. When we left the market, one of the guys said, “oh wow, that mom was really attracted to you! Why didn’t you ask her out?”
I responded, “well, there really wasn’t the time – her kid was pulling on her arm!” It was really hard to talk to her, and you also have to respect the fact that she is with her child. But she was definitely vibing me and I probably would have asked her out if I would have had the opportunity – when her little boy wasn’t pulling on her.
I also don’t particularly want to ask her out if she’s not a single mom! I wouldn’t want her kid to go home and say, “daddy, daddy, guess what happened today? Mommy got asked out by this guy in Whole Foods!”
So I’ve got some advice for all of you single mothers out there: if you are out with your kids and a guy starts talking to you, he is exactly what you want because he already knows that you have children!
So many single mothers have this issue about dating – “how am I going to date? How will I meet someone? Nobody wants me when I have a kid!” But it’s not true!
If we are flirting with you and we see that you have a kid attached to your arm, we don’t care! We don’t care if you are a mom; we want to date you – plain and simple.
If you’re a single mom and you’re out with your kids, you have to lie down some clues and hints for the guy you’re flirting with. You have to stop for a second. Obviously, don’t kick the kid out into the street – “hey, mommy will be right back!” – nothing that blunt, but maybe say something like, “yeah, he’s just lacking male attention,” or “he just gets jealous when his mom talks to another man” – something funny.
This will let the guy know that you want to be asked out. We’ll ask you out very quickly once we know that you’re open to it, but you need to say something that permits us to do it.
We totally understand that you are a mom, we understand that you’re hanging out with your kid; but we don’t want to ask you out if we’re not sure that you are single.
We don’t want the kid going home and being scarred for life after seeing his mom getting hit on at Whole Foods. You never know what could happen – he could end up with pure approach anxiety or turn out to be some seducing ladies man after watching his mom get hit on all of the time.
Lay down some clues for us! Clues are always good. We need them once in a while. And do you know what? If I ever see you without your kid, I will definitely ask you out. But the next time I see you with your kid, give me a clue!
I’m gutsy, and I’ll ask out everybody – but I’m also very respectful of a lot of things.
Todays video is all about how to listen to that single mom or single woman. If you listen you will be able to close her.
Have an amazing Saturday and check out the challenge I put out on Thursday post……..The pickup post.
Its a good one.
Ahh yes… gotta love the milf’s!
Good point there Dave on not asking a woman out with a child with her without knowing if she is single or not. Last thing I would want to do to someone is cause drama in there life.
Women that have children I still will ask out. My exwife at the time we met had two boys age 9 monthes and 3 years. We had a great life together for ten years and had one child of our own.
Shoulda, woulda, it sounds like somebody needs to go back and listen to his “what’s your excuse” cd’s. From what I read, it sounds like you were giving yourself excuses on why you shouldn’t talk to her. It’s ok David, it’s nice to know your not perfect. At least you talked to her, I would have said nothing but I am improving on that. I think I need to listen to that cd right now.
haha Jason, he tried pretty damn hard to make it work, but it just didn’t. Just a reminder to all of us that we can only do so much sometimes, and we shouldn’t put added pressure on ourselves.
It probably is incumbant upon the single mothers out there to show clear signs they are interested if they want to meet guys while they are with their kids.
I don’t have kids myself, but I take my neices and nephews places with me, and my experience is that you may get the polite smile but rarely any affirmative conversation initiative from men. I used to think that men would talk to you if you weren’t wearing a wedding ring, but I don’t think, truthfully, that most men notice that one way or another.
Frankly, I think we women should be glad that men won’t just hit on women not caring if they’re married or not – so I think we need to give them a break and if we have kids give them definite indications of interest …
I think that if they hint re a kid, just show you care it show you don’t mind. Accept the kid as part of the deal.
Good advice… but I’ve found that most single moms want to seperate that part of their life in the beginning.
I’ve slept with many moms who wouldn’t let me anywhere near their kids…
But then again David… you’re a bit older and probably send off a different vibe to a single mom than I do…
Either way… i agree with your advice to the women out there with the rugrats
Being a single mom and dating is hard. But try it when you are 52 and your kids are 10 & 12. Guys in my age range expect the kids to be grown up and gone. They talk about weekends away and trips. I would like a date, here in town, 2 to 3 hours tops! So I can get home and make sure the little darlings didn’t burn down the house.