….I remember being in deep concentration, and didn’t like to be bothered. I am very glad, I am no longer that way…..mostly,…anyway….

Thank you for your concern in trying to help me, but I think I am a cause, and certainly not a LOST cause

It appears from my admittedly limited vantage point that you sabotage your chances in these chance encounters as a result of having your ‘bitch shield’ up.

As long as you do, no worthwhile guy in his right mind will approach you, because only the most cocky, swaggering jerks can treat getting rudely blown off as though it were no big deal. Unless you’ve tried cold approaches of MOTOs yourself, don’t go preaching to us about how we should just “get over” the occasionally rude encounter. It takes a lot of courage to do a cold approach, and there is no better formula for destruction of the very confidence you say you are looking for that a strng of unsuccessfu approaches, or a rude encounter ofthe sort I mention.

I’m always looking for an IOI before I cold approach. No IOI, no approach. If you want to be approached, show it. If not, don’t complain when it doesn’t happen.

Teresa: Sorry, you’re not fooling anyone. Nice Guys DO finish last. Women force us to be bad boys/abusive jerks if we want to get laid (and you know we do). Which is why all your mags have agony columns (waaah, my husband/bf is suuuuch a jerk), and the domestic violence statistics are what they are.

I could always pull a Britney Spears and walk into Starbucks with a shaved head in a drug induced haze in order to scare away anyone from talking to me….(and I would still be smarter than some of the judges that I have argued before in the past )

But yes….I am not getting any younger and I agree that I should make the best of out these “chance encounters” even if it means going out of my way.

Theresa: You go girl !!

How I knew that you weren’t going to change your ways and stay on thread this new year. LOL LOL

However, can I make a suggestion to you. If you break up your post such into two post it will be much easier to read. I love to hear what you say, but since your posts are so long I just skip most of it.

S

19 guys in 6 months!!!!! Were these set ups or men you met and agreed to go a date with? Have you come to the conclusion yet that you are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to picky and looking for perfection?
I hate to say it, but you just contradicted yourself about the book you wrote. Sorry, but now that I know a bit more about you your book doesn’t sound appealing.

Steven,

Since I am a loyal reader of DW’s I thought of you instantly when Mystery Girl mentioned the part about “stammering” and “stuttering”. I was worried how you would take that. Just ignore it, she doesn’t sound like a winner to me anyway.

Mystery Girl,

I understand how you hate when people bother your when you are in a state of concentration on a case, but think about it this way. Even the baritsa that took your order has tons of orders on their minds and they still know that they have to give great customer service to the next order. I say this analogy to let you know that everyone out there has tons of things on their minds every second. So, you are nothing special in that area. However, I believe you may be missing great opportunities to have a quick chat with a potential date. Give the blokes a break and give them yoru full attention for those two minutes. It’s not going to ruin your case. I suggest you put in your ipod headphones and pretend you are listening to your iPod. It is a sure way to keep people from chatting with you.

S

Can u imagine living without electricity in your daily life? How would it feel like? Would u be able to adapt & improvise or u wd consider moving to another region?