Sexual Healing: Music To Turn Her On By
July 28, 2007 
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Now that you have her in your bedroom, what do you do with her now? That is, what do you do with her besides obviously ripping her clothes off and doing some serious penetration which, by the way, without foreplay is the wrong thing to do.
But this blog is not about foreplay…at least not in the physical sense. It’s about foreplay in the music sense. Whatever your lovemaking skills are, either good or bad, all of us can use a little help when it comes down to setting the mood.
The first thing you need to do in your bedroom is to make sure she doesn’t trip over the wires of your Xbox on the way to your bed. Nothing turns a woman off more than Madden NFL 08 playing on the tv screen right before you’re about to do the nasty. What she’d rather do is walk into a den of iniquity. If you desire to hear her “ooh and ahh” before you get her naked, here are a few quick suggestions to get her really turned on to getting naked:
Make sure your bed has clean sheets. If you can see the outline of your body on your sheets, it’s time to clean the sheets. Also, invest in a good pair of 500 or more thread count sheets. You want her to feel how great it is to lay in that bed of yours. It’s all about creating the mood and, of course, getting her to come back for more.
Buy some really nice scented candles and light them before she goes into your bedroom, thus setting the mood.
A nice bottle of massage oil by the bed is always a nice added touch. Not only will this make her think she’s going to get a massage, but chances are she might massage you.
And, of course, MUSIC!!! You want to create a soundtrack for your sexual encounter. You want to do this because whenever she hears those songs when she’s not with you, she’s going to think of all the fun things you did to her in the candlelit darkness of your bedroom.
Let’s talk more about the music. Don’t be a cliché and put on Marvin Gaye, the seductive crooner who had a great run. You need to dig deeper and come up with something more original, thus once again distinguishing yourself from all the other guys.
So for instance, let’s say this is the first time you’re having sex with her. You need to play your “first date soundtrack.” Play something that you know she’s going to like. If you’ve been paying attention to the details in your conversations with her, you already know what kind of music that is. By playing music she likes, she’s going to be very comfortable in the bedroom. Remember, the first time she has sex with you she’s going to be nervous, so she wants something soothing. That’s why I talk about the sheets, the candles and the music playing in the background.
If this is someone with whom you’re already in a relationship and you want some “quickie sex,” the music you choose should be upbeat. Choose something like the music of The Killers. Do not play Paris Hilton singing if you remotely expect her to get moist. One last forget about it….Never ever play Brittany Spears. Look I can have a sense of humor it keeps me happy. Sing that last line out loud to yourself…It Keeps Me Happy….What TV show played that song over and over again in the 70s?
Think hard. Heres’ a hint: David Cassidy when he was the lead singer for Americas favorite bus band The Partridge Family. What a show! Who knew that Danny Bonaduce the fiery red head would later turn into a drug addicted hooker chasing crazy DJ. Then again what else do child stars turn into besides drug addicts and drunks.I always see Nicholas from Eight is Enough shopping at my local Whole Foods. He was once arrested for stealing drugs from a Longs.
Gotta love living in Los Angeles!!!
Anyway back to the music.
Let’s say you’re already in a relationship with someone and it’s the first time you’re going to have sex with her. I like to play either Buddha Bar CD’s or Hotel Costes music, i.e., kind of an eclectic mix of world music that’s relaxing and soothing. You don’t want to put on Kansas “Left Overture” or Boston’s “More Than A Feeling” the first time you’re having sex with someone you’ve been romancing.
So keep that iPod full of all types of music for all types of sexual encounters. When in doubt, if you’re a voyeuristic person hire a DJ to mix your next sexual event. And if you took that last line seriously, I know a few good swinger parties at which you can hang out.
Steve Halpern has two CDs – Music for Lovers, Vol 1 and Vol 2 for this purpose. Vol. 1 is pure sexual relaxation, tantra music; Vol. 2 is more energetic, was recorded with The Hot Shakra Band. I love both CDs!!!!
Oh yea! You go with your 500 thread count sheets! You are a man of detail Mr. Wygant!:) LOL Yea if you see an outline ladies—run like a bat out of hell out of there!
The candles, the music, the oil—-Thats what it is all about. When a woman walks in on that scenario, SHE will be ripping your clothes of wanting to pleasure you EVERY way possible!!!
Thats what it all about men! I guarantee you, if you have a room prepared for intimacy like Dvid has described here, your night is going to ROCK like never before, and if it doesn’t—find a woman who appreciates your efforts! I LOVE THIS BLOG!
This is how I go about it on our side too girls. Just add a little lap dance with a sexi lingrie and some sexy heels—MMM GOOD!
geez joan, i have a vivid enough imagination without you, mentioning lap dancing, sexy lingerie, and heels… although i’ve prefer boots, this what you do to that special someone on the phone you crazy gal… i bet he crawling at the bloody walls.
Cheers,
Joe
Some other great albums/artists that sets the mood and have gotten good feedback on: Zero Seven, Massive Attack, 60 Thompson Hotel mix. Having a bottle of wine handy in the fridge just in case is a plus too!!
LOL Darkpoet hello! I am the one blushing now;) Yea well you know—
He calls every night–sometimes EARLY morning so he must like something hugh?! LOL Kidding. I really think he likes me for me. The other is just the icing right?
You have to be creative and sexy with a man in my opinion. The same ol same ol gets really boring. Sex should be fun and alive! Don’t you agree?
If you don’t keep the surprises coming it keeps things exciting!
“Cheers To You”
ANZY Yes on the wine for sure and I know of 2 of those music choices.
DARKPOET; Is that thigh high boots? LOL No blushing now;)
I know—I am too much here, but there is another very sexy idea you can ponder thought of doing here.
It is very sensual to feed each other –say fruit with whatever or nothing on it. Sneak a little suck of his/her finger when you are going for the piece of fruit, looking in their eyes very sultry as you do it. TURN ON!!! If you haven’t done this—I highly reccommend it! You are mimicing and bringing to the forefront of your partners mind what is to come in your foreplay frolic! I don’t need to explain. That one word–”suck” says it all;)
Where is everyone????? Jessica—Steve Halpern is excellent. That is what I use at work for relaxing atmosphere. It is great music to get lost intimately! You just feel like your there, but there is only one purpose in life to exist, and that is to be passionate and sensuous with the flow of that music. Good choices:)
If David doens’t scold me today–lets just say there are 3 Joans on here. What a popular name. Hi Joan LOL
This is a GREAT BLOG PEOPLE!
It deserves attention and discussion!!!!!!!!
It has distracted me from my little database for now.
Ok pleasure poopers! i am going to go swim some laps to cool off! This is hot stuff!
enough joan enough! you’re killing me
i’m all about oral and foreplay, yes thigh high boots! awesome, one of my many fetishes.
you know what really good joan, no lie!, massaging your partner with corn starch, the feel is so smooth, soft and sexy. it’s hard to describe but, i bet you and your special someone would love it. the same old same does suck ( not in the good way) i’ve yet to find a woman adventuress and appreciative, sensual in and out of the bedroom, hopefully soon.
Cheers,
Joe
for music i like jazz or new age with my partner, little diana Krall maybe. wish i could write jazz better then i do now.
cheers,
Joe
Hey Great Somebody appreciates this blog!!!! Jazz is great too!
Hey insted of corn starch they have some erotic edible honey dust It is the same consistency as corn starch A big feather comes in handy there too! lol;)
darkpoet, I hope you find her as well. I hope the same for myself on this end of the earth! lol
Don’t you find it frustrating to know that you know that you KNOW what you are capable of in the realm of pleasing someone, but there are no takers?
All right, off of work now I hear there is some entertainment over here?
Ha ha David, love the sheet imprint comment. We could almost go there with my room mate ha ha Yea, this is how I would like to be locked up with that special someone for…an indefinite time period;) Yea, no David Cassidy. I am too young to have made that a regular, but i know it enough to know…leave that one to rest. Ha ha So, wow Joan! Darkpoet is right about the vivid imagination.MMM I like the lingerie, nighty whatever you call it. My favorite colors would be like pink and black lace maybe with some sexy black heels?:) or maybe pink lace and lime green with pink heels….so many pictures run through my head on that one!! The dance is gooood too! I think you have it all figured out sexy Cougar;) I would think you have “takers” as well as givers? Ha this is a great blog David…love it!!! Only bad thing..time for a really cold shower! ha I’m out!
Joan, are you serious? There are 3 Joans on this Blog? Did you mean Joan Version 01, Joan Version 02, and Joan Version 03? Which Joan is talking to me now?
I love Steven Halpern music. I think I have almost everything he wrote. I know that massage therapists are using his music.
And who is going help to Darkpoet? We need to invent a Super Digital Puma, Golden Edition for Darkpoet. Well, about Super Digital I am only kidding…
Jesica LOL I am triple personality. Saint Joan, Joan of the Art, and Jump his bone Joan! LOL
I am usually Jump his bone Joan! LOL
Yea, S. Halpern is great! Sometimes I feel so relaxed at work I want to get up on the table and fall asleep. My Massage room is very calm and relaxing.
I know—-the darkpoet–he deserves a good girl. Like he can’t read this. We think you need a super girl darkpoet!!!! Super digital could be good! LOL
I will spare my thigh high boots for her. I call htem my “Susha” boots. She used to be on TV and ALWAYS had on the coolest thigh high boots.
Hey we need to make me some kind of super something!
darkpoet, you need to come back;) I wonder where everybody is today??? This is such a great blog! I guess it is Saturday and people are out and about. I worked here at home, and WAS going to spend the rest of the day at the pool, but good ol Texas—-rained again. I cannot wait to get off that plane in California and breath the ocean air. i will probably cry tears of joy!!!! I hate Texas. The people are nice, but damn this weather stinks. Ok well, I think I am talking to myself, so bye for now all my invisible friends;))) I need to get my sexy on and go out!! This being alone to much is not so great. I go have a great time—then come home alone??? What is wrong with that picture? I could bring company, but mmmm Na1 It would have to be someone who really rocked my world.
David, if my old man follows this stuff I will think I have died and entered sex heaven!! I am always the one to make the romance setting. I recon I am glad it helps when I do light some candles and stuff. Joan I think you and Jacob need to try and get a meeting of the minds! ha ha ha You have good ideas Jacob. You seem to have some expereance with ladies and high heels. ha ha I like the boots idea. I think those might turn my old man on. Who knows with him. I am just glad we have sex at all! ha ha
Well speaking of the old man, it is past his supper time so bye for now.
i’m here joan, i went shopping, i guess we have something in common joan i hate texas also, i swear the only thing texans care about is texas! lol
how was getting your sexy on tonight? i had no luck tonight (not that i was trying) Joan i dont want a supergirl, i would like a woman 
i hadnt found anyone interesting yet? pretty bummed, joan i bet you rocked anyone’s world, so bollocks to thoses who dont want your company. “Don
Musica Relajante – Yoga – Relax – Steven Halpern – Healing Music
Inner Peace Pure Moods
Her ya go folks You want to relax and zone out play these songs
They are muti purpose! Good for the slooooooow passionate moments!
Good for just relaxation but great for getting lost in lust;)
Hey I ain’t got no shame! I love to spread good news! I wish there were other people on here to share it with in the moment, but it will be here when u get here:)
i’m willing to share joan, and listen and i’m here and bored rotten you have a AIM screen name? mines d3113 if you’d like to chat, i’m not on the messagener thingys often but if you want to talk just tell me.
cheers,
Joe
Are you still there darkpoet? i would love to chat? Cheers to you
darkpoet, if you should come back, I am here working on my computer so IM me: JL4passion if you would like to chat;) “Cheers to you”
What about after sex music? And what time of the year that is the best time to play what albums? I’ve given this a lot of thought over the years. If you guys are lying in bed at 5:00 in the morning, check out Closing Time by Tom Waits. If it’s late fall, early winter, a little Inspriation Information by Shuggie Otis. Early to mid fall, Van Morrisson’s Hard Nose the Highway. As for getting her in the mood, I recommend a afrobeat funked up album called Ghana Soundz you can get on Amazon. If you want her grooving her hips in the summer, try Expensive Shit by Fela Kuti–once song is like 26 minutes long. If you can make it through this with out release you are a rock star and we will send you on a free vacation. Kidding. There is also a great collection of CDS called the St. Germain CD’s like David’s Buddha Bar suggestions. They took old Jazz and mixed with modern sounds. It’s will invoke images of sitting at Left Bank cafes, smoking cigarettes, and making out along the Seine. Have I mentioned that all of these albums sound even ten times better after a good joint?
Joan,
I would like to get one of your super massages! LOL
LOL Jessica, I am not James Bond! lol
We are always talking about passion, sex…. this is just a little interesting fact I thought neat to share before I go bust buns, because I was talking to an Italian yesterday.
The word intimacy has its roots in Italian. It literally means, “In to me see”
All you Italians—give yourselves a pat on the back!!! Leave it to the sexy Italians to have claim on that word;)
I haven’t read the replies yet, but its funny cause I was just talking about songs that I find sexy on my date tonight (it went GREAT, btw). I used to have a sexual soundtrack of sorts on my old computer, which I really need to recreate now that there’s a chance I might have sex someday! *lol* I’m eclectic, so at least 1 song on my list should work on any woman. This is by no means all inclusive, just some off the top of my head!
Father Figure – George Michael
Crash Into Me – Dave Matthews Band (I know what its about, but it makes me horny, dammit)
Secret – Maroon 5
Stay – Jodeci
Butterflies – Floetry or Michael Jackson…your choice! *lol*
Destiny – Zero7
If You Love Me – Mint Condition
In Your Eyes – Peter Gabriel
You – Raheem Devaughn
Don’t Disturb this Groove – The System
Anything by John Mayer (but that might just be me!)