Set Your Intent In Life
August 6, 2009 
25 Comments
Let’s talk a little bit about setting an intent. I’m going to share a story with you, one that is very personal to me.
The other night I was kind of just sitting around, and I started reminiscing a little bit. Then I started thinking to myself, “God, it’s amazing.” I read all your posts on the blog and on YouTube. I see all of you struggling so much either trying to meet someone, to work on aspects of your relationship or to work on aspects of yourself. What I realized was that I think a lot of you are missing the point.
Here’s the story I want to share with you. When I was nineteen years old, I was really skinny. I know I’m not exactly the bulkiest guy in the world right now. At nineteen, though, I was really thin. I was a ‘tall drink of water’ — tall, lean and thin.
Then I saw the movie Flashdance. As most of you know, Flashdance was a hot, sexy dance movie. After seeing it I thought to myself, “I really want to be in that type of shape where I can just rock it at all times.”
The minute the movie ended, I went into the basement of the house I was renting in college and I started working out. I haven’t stopped since that day.
I have been working out since I was nineteen, and I’m now 47 years old. I’ve been working out consistently for 28 years. Â
When I was in my 20s, I was a big guy. I was bulky, big around the neck, and had big arms and shoulders. Now, at 47 years old, I’m more lean again.
The one thing that will never change about me is being in shape. I will always be in shape.
Why? Because I work at it every day. Every single day I do something.
last night a took a long walk on the beach after we had dinner. The day before that I did weights. Â Tomorrow I’m probably going to go for a bike ride. Â The day after that I’m probably going to go do some more weights, maybe do a little bit of stretching and Pilates. Â
No matter what it is, every day I’m doing something. It might be for half an hour, 45 minutes or an hour. It doesn’t matter. The reason why I do it every day is because I believe there is no reason for me not to look good, and not to feel good about who I am and what I’m all about.
Why should I look flabby? Why should my woman look at me and think to herself, “God he looked so much better six months ago. Why doesn’t he look that good now?”
That’s the message I want to get through to all of you. The message is that if you want to achieve goals, you’ve got to painfully do something every day. Â
Do I enjoy working out? Â Some days I hate it. Â Do I enjoy taking a long walk? Sometimes I love it, but other times I just don’t want to do it. Â
I do it not only to look good, but also because it makes me feel good. I like to feel tight. I like to feel ripped. I like to feel my body.
I don’t like to feel flabby in any way. I wouldn’t want to see myself with a big belly.
Is this all ego? There’s probably a little bit of ego involved, but a big part of it is the way it makes me feel. I feel great. Â
All of you need to realize that in order for you to get good at something, you’ve got to do the work. You’ve got to drag your ass out there every single day. You’ve got to drag yourself out there even on days you don’t want to drag yourself out there.
You have no choice but to drag yourself out there and get things done. Â If you want to become good at something, then you’ve got to do it every single day (including on days you don’t want to do it).
So even when it’s cold or raining, you’ve got to get to the gym or get out there and meet people or do whatever it is that you have set as a goal for yourself. If you want to become a good conversationalist, for example, you’ve got to talk to everybody . . . and you’ve got to do it every day.
So many of you will get so frustrated — so painfully frustrated — while you’re working on a goal. It will drive you up the wall. It will drive you crazy. You’ll get so frustrated, it’s ridiculous.
You’ve got to work through those frustrations. Â I was so proud when I had that realization the other day that for the last 27 years I’ve worked through my frustrations and therefore can look in the mirror today knowing I’m in as good shape now as i was in at age nineteen.
Do you know how that makes me feel? I’ve got a herniated disc. You would never know it by looking at me . . . ever. I move well. I’m strong. That makes me feel great!
I’ve got a blown shoulder. Â I can move through that pain, and I’m strong as can be. Â
How about getting blown off by a woman once in a while. That is a frustration that I know many of you face. All of you can blow right through all that stuff. I know you can. I know every one of you can.
You’ve just got to persevere. You’ve just got to drag yourself out there every day and work on the things you need to work on. You can do it. I know you can do it.
Today’s video will help you understand women’s intent.
Thanks for the wakeup call David. I’m trying to start a band, get in better shape, and meet more people in general. This particular blog really puts things into perspective – we have to make our own luck. Thanks!
fuckin right dave
Amen!!!!
xoxo~
Hey David, great topic. I think a lot of us sometimes focus on the end result too much, and think to ourselves ‘if i do this, i expect that’. The problem is that we do not enjoy the work that goes into it, we have these great expectations as if we are owed something if we do certain things. If we learn to enjoy the process more, it would make the whole experience much better. Thanx David.
Yes AMEN! I had a guy text me, I responded, then it took him 4 days to text me back on that 4-day old topic. Makes me think the guy is a bit off his rocker or something.
I also love when a guy makes plans for the next date ahead of time before the end of a current date. Last Minute Mos don’t seem to respect your time.
I am amazed how well you kept yourself at 47!!!
And great words of wisdom today.
very funny youtube video today.
I agree there is no instant pill we can take to improve, its a ongoing process.
I think you give more than enough free videos and I thank you for that, rally enjoyed watching today video, nice to get female perspective.
I have been working out consistently for pat 5 months I got to agree the pay off is great. I am more of a skinny guy, who is trying to pack weight. So far my gain is 15lbs. I am so proud of myself.
hey clint,
i have been working out recently too trying to get in better shape.
I am basically trying to eat better first and lose the weight then gain it back in muscle.
how did you put on the 15 lbs.? carbs, energy drinks? tons of meet?
oh, I am also trying to stop drinking sodas. those things are deadly and they make you feel strange sometimes.
thanks for the message David. it’s great to hear! it seems as if everyone has a gimmick or an angle. good to see someone tell it like it is, and be themselves as they are doing it!
-David
Why is is that in your other youtube videos & products you talk about not chasing women and not “CHASING THE NIGHT AWAY” but yet in this video you mention pursuing???
Pursuing & Chasing is the same thing,theres no slight difference between the two..I dobut im the only one percieving this as a contradiction
Anthony you’re missing the point. He’s not talking about chasing of women, but the exercise of intent to do something positive with one’s life, whether that is keeping in shape or attracting women. Having intent to attract is not the same as chasing.
Anthony,
C’mon man…I know you know better. I know you know the difference between chasing and romance, pursuing a woman and courtship.
I can’t stand the way that men have been brainwashed by pua’s and other things into not going after what they want. Any relationship you’ve ever had, you’ve pursued the woman. You’ve courted the woman, you’ve followed up, you’ve called her back and you’ve talked to her.
Dude, when I say ‘don’t chase,’ what I mean is this: If a woman doesn’t call you back after you’ve gone out with her and you call her three or four more times, that’s chasing. If you go out on a date with a woman, have a great time and then ask her out again at the end of the date, that’s romance. That’s pursuing. That’s smart.
A guy who waits for a woman to pursue him? That’s a guy who sits around with a bottle of hand lotion jerking off all the time. If you like someone, go for it! Women like romance and they like to feel pursued. Shit, the cavemen pursued. A caveman would go into a cave, he’d find the woman he wanted then he’d drag her out by the hair.
You literally watched the video, listened to one word and came to a complete misconception. You missed the whole point of the video! It’s like you didn’t even listen to what the woman said. You’re in your head WAY too much.
I will never chase a woman. That’s what I teach in my programs. I call a woman and she doesn’t call me back? Fuck her. But if I’m out with someone I think she’s amazing and we have a great connection, I’ll ask her out at the end of the date. It’s called momentum. It’s called romance. It’s called being a man.
Sometimes because of the fears and excuses you guys have, you focus on one word and miss the whole message. I hope this clarifies this for you and for anyone else, cause I’m off to grab my girl by the hair and go to a concert.
Oh, and one last thing… Pua’s always teach men to follow things almost line by line. It’s like getting a fucking invoice on an order. It’s ridiculous. Ask ten women what they want, and they will all tell you they want to be pursued by a confident guy. Because if you pursue a woman, she pursue you right back. The problem is that so many guys chase women who are not interested in them.
It’s really that simple. I don’t contradict myself at all and, if I do, then I’ll write a blog all about it.
Yes! Hooray! Excellent podcast. No more games!
Wygant Fan- diet is a huge, and like David mentioned so is consistency.
Drink lot of water, eat well, try to stay away from Junk food and you will be fine.
If you are skinny like me, you got to eat more protein, or just more calories.
Anthony-
I would like to hear from you do you really understand the power to attract vs. chasing. What David is teaching us is powerful, it gets the women to chase you because of your lifesytle!
Kelly- never seen you here welcoem to the blog:)
where are you from?
David
First foremost I want to announce that NO i was not attempting to throw dirt on davids name, in no way shape or form was i attempting to be an asshole. I wil simply admit that i interperted his video in a different manner. David if you feel that i was being a disrespecful dick(in which i was not trying to be) then I aplogize.
Oh and as far as this PUA nonsense, I was never acknowldged of it until david mentioned it
Amthony
I was just answering your question feel free to challenge me anytime!!
That’s what I am here for and anytime you are confused by all means post away!
David, love the video. Thanks for the free content. But Im a little insulted that you had your phone on during the video especially after the last blog. Walk the talk man!
Fenomenal post. Yes, there is many times a lot of frustration and confusion.
The process is full of up and downs. Doing sports is fantastic and keep you in good form and mind state, and your EGO is behind it, but it is for a good purpose, for a purpose that makes you feel good inside. I think that the most important thing is to get that state of mind that makes you feel good with yourself all the time and sports helps and is healthy.
damn right!
youre so right david women love masculine men who pursue them. its downright demeaning and degrading if a woman chases a man.