Remember The Past
September 9, 2009 
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We’re all so consumed with meeting someone — with meeting “the one.” We try to get as far away from our past as we can so we can meet someone.
There are some things about the past, however, that can really help you in the present and in the future. They’re called lessons and memories.
A lot of us tend to repeat the past. We tend to date the same people over and over again. We tend to accumulate the same type of friends. We do these things without understanding how and why we do them.
Your past unlocks a lot of answers to a lot of questions you have in your mind. There’s a lot of great things in your past, including all the great friends and memories you’ve left behind.
The greatest thing about Facebook is all the people with whom you can reconnect. Yesterday I put up some old pictures from my childhood (like the one above), then spent a lot of the day talking to old high school and college friends to whom I sent them. I know that by posting those pictures, that I put as big a smile on their faces as looking at those pictures put on mine.
So let’s not forget the past for two reasons. First, it holds clues to your behavior — good and bad — that you need to acknowledge. Some people make the same mistakes over and over again due to bad programming they had in their past. Second, it holds beautiful memories of great things and people that have been part of your life.
In today’s podcast, I’m going to talk about the memories and the lessons of the past. Click here to check it out now:
David,
I agree about facebook. I was reluctant to join, but once
an old GF invited me, i hooked up with folks i hadn’t heard
from in 35 years. even had a great dinner date with someone
i knew in HS, but never dated. didn’t even know she has been
in my area for the last 4 years. we had a good time. it seemed
like we’d been in touch all along.
David,
That is what is nice about living in a small town. I’m actually hanging out with friends that I’ve had since I was a teenager! They know me…Sometimes its a great thing, sometimes not so good, depending on how they tell the stories.
I get what you’re saying… in a very BIG way. I’ve reconnected with some old friends and discovered, after all these years, they are actually the people I feel the most for (almost like siblings that aren’t related). I think I will always feel that way about them. I’m not judgmental, I truly care about they’re up to, and I feel like I know the real person/people that they are and they me. They also help to bring out all of the good stuff I used to have and thought was lost… and I’m mature enough not fall into old patterns. Problem I run into is other people (who may not have had that same connection to a group of friends) simply don’t get it. I’ve been accused of living in the past or having some sort of midlife crisis. Which isn’t the case. What’s your take on it?
I agree totally about FB. I also was reluctant and my grown daughter talked me into it. Have re-connected with many high school and college friends. A couple of high school friends still live in my hometown….which I didn’t know. When I went home this summer we had drinks and dinner….it was so fun. So true about how you don’t have to explain EVERYTHING to these old friends and remembering the same experience from a different perspective. It’s been fun.
Also agree with clues(good and bad) from past behavior. I have stopped myself many times and said, “You’re acting like dad!” Self talk helps alot. I see myself in alot of my grown daughters actions and behavior…..interesting.
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I think there is a lot more wisdom to remembering your past than even what you have even discussed here. For example, often as children we forget many of our loving memories because they are buried in within the painful once we are trying to forget. But as you said it is by remembering the memories and lessons past that can truly help us to live a better and more enjoyable present and future! Great post!
And to add onto what Mikko says…reconnecting to your past reminds you of who you are and where you come from. That’s why I love hanging out with old friends…they are the ones who really know me. That re-connection can help with relationships of all kinds because you come from a place of sincerity.
That really nice that you reconnect with people from the past, life goes by way too fast, it certainly feels great to catchup with people you went to school with!
For some reason i couldn’t listen to the podcast when i click play, it maybe my computer problem. Anyone having the same issues?
i just vote for her…Kimberly Dawn Neumann
Good Luck Kimberly Dawn Neumann
hey John- it works for me try refreshing your browser.
It works now, thanks howe for the suggestions!
David- Today’s podcast was really inspiring, the message hit home for me!
Clint- I agree as well, it left me thinking for hours.
I totally agree that our past shapes are life, and by looking into the past we see the patterns and or what went wrong.
Richard- i am not getting your message at all, what are you trying to say?
Hi Bertie, long time no see on the forum, how you been?
David- i just submitted my question hope you get it.
Like someone else mention, you hit the nail on that one, I can totally see the importance of the past, before i didn’t want to pay too much attention to it.
I also voted for her too, good luck Kim!
make it 3 vote:)
voted!
great podcast thanks!
Great finalist submission for the apartment. Just logged another vote for you.
reading this, it reminds me of when David said about people being in zombie mode. it’s because people get caught up with their little worlds and not living life.
I never do that. in fact, David, I took your advice of being more slower and taking time while shopping and it has worked wonders.
even in class, I started noticing some girls who have been giving me the eyes. this one particular I always see her in my classes, looking at me, and when I looked at her she would like hold it for like 5 sec and then look away. welllllll, yesterday, I grabbed my big “balls” and went to her. she looked kinda shocked that I came there, and I was formal in “hey, you’ve been in one of my classes before”.
interesting enough, she was reserved at first, and then she opened UP!!!!!!!
I was like in my head “David, is that all I had to do? LOL”. I challenged her to remember my name bc my name is kinda difficult that if she forgets, then she’ll buy me beer. Thanks David. ;D
p.s:I don’t have big balls. lol
Very down-to-earth and insigthful. Thanks, David.