I want to take a moment on this Thursday to thank all of you people . . . whatever your names are. I can’t remember!
All kidding aside, that is actually what I want to talk about today. I want to talk about the importance of remembering a name and how to do it, and about the importance of being memorable.
Now I know I’ve talked (and joked) before on the blog about how it’s really not important to remember names (because so many of us are so bad remembering them). If you remember something personal about someone that they’ve shared with you, however, it will actually help you remember them and allows you to more powerfully relate to them.
Then the next time you talk to that person, you can say something like “Oh my God, the last time you saw me you told me about that ice cream store that was so amazing.” Incorporate whatever part of the prior conversation applies.
People want to relate to you personally. They want to feel like you remember them and remember things from when you met because, as I’ve been joking about here recently, most people do not remember things about people they meet.
I believe most men are just walking penises; they speak with their penis and not with their heart. Women speak with their heart and with their soul. This disconnect is a big part of why the sexes battle so much.
Today’s podcast is really going to impact you. It is going to teach you the importance of remembering names but, more importantly, it is going to teach you the importance of remembering a person.
If you remember people, they are also going to remember you. If you become memorable, they become memorable.
If you are memorable, the dividends that you seek in life will begin coming to you nonstop. When you are memorable, you are able to relate to everything in your daily life and all the people around you. You are going to be able to be able to meet all the people you need to meet.
You are never going to wonder when you’re going to meet people, because improving your memory is one of the most important keys to meeting people. If you improve your memory, you are going to be able to walk up to anybody you’ve previously met and blow them away.
You have to stop thinking about instant gratification and just about what happens today. You need to realize that life is like a giant stock market, and you need to invest in yourself today. Invest in your memory, invest in the details and invest in yourself.
Today’s podcast is going to go even deeper into this idea. You are going to learn to remember not only your own name, but also my name, Coach Jacob’s name and the name of my friend Mark from New York City. The reason why you are going to remember, is because we shared something with you.
I have an exercise I’d like all of you to do today. I want you write down and journal your entire day. Remember every detail about it. The reason you run out of conversation is because you spend your time thinking about what to say instead of just absorbing what is said, committing it to memory and reacting to it.
Life is about reacting to another person. If you want to get deep with the opposite sex, you’ve got to learn to react to what they say and how they feel.
Women say this to men all the time, and we hate to hear it. We freak out because we feel like we’re being reprimanded but, in reality, they are just letting us know that we need to learn how to listen.
If you listen and remember details about what someone says to you from the second you meet them, you are going to meet the most amazing people in your life. Click here to listen to today’s podcast where I go a lot deeper into this topic:
Also, if you want to learn everything about how the opposite sex communicates, and how to be able to cultivate amazing connections with anyone you meet, then be sure to check out my Men’s 20 Ways To Meet Hotter Women and my Women’s Art of Attracting Men programs.
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I am refusing to remember Jacob…sorry you will always be Yakub in my heart
When it comes to listening it’s also any kind of written communication, that when you write with the other person and they don’t relate or answer on something you are telling them about, is such a turn off. You end up feeling they don’t listen to you and it’s a total one way street. This more happens when I write with boys than girls.
By the way did I miss it but what happen to the competition on who got the closest to how you blog.
Hope your back is feeling better.
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I’ll remember everything else about them. But the names are the ones I forget. I really do want rember the names too. It gets bad sometimes. Like not to long after they there names. I don’t rember their names.
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There’s no link where it says click here in IE and I also reloaded it on Firefox.What gives? No link, no podcast!
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I’m having the same problem as Josie. Nothing happens when I click on the link. It shows as a box and a little x in it.
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You should try again now, I can listen to the podcast from start to finish.
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I always use some sort of mnemonic to attach their name to their face and some detail about them. Or attach something about them to some other memory I have, maybe a song lyric, a character from a book or movie, or another person I know with the same name. A trick I use when I meet some people is to ask them to spell their name. Ask them to spell it out loud, spell it out loud back to them and it will stick in your mind better. For example, the poster above me is Wei Ming. I am guessing that is pronounced “Way Ming”. So if I met that person I would ask them to spell it and probably ask if it was 1 word or 2 words. Or Curt posting up there, ask him is that Curt with a C or Kurt with a K. If they have a name like David, maybe ask them if they go by Dave or David. The act of repeating it out loud multiple times assists me in remembering. Little things like that will help it stick in your brain, of course being present in the moment is the biggest part of it. That’s my 2 cents, hope it helps.
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I have always been the type to forget names. Over the years, I’ve learned to make rhymes or stories that names fit into. Your… notes in the blackberry or phone is a great idea also. When I first met my former significant other, well common name Dave….to remember him the night I met him…it was Dave was the rave on Saturday night at (Restaurant or bar name)”. Making the individual feel like they made an impression on you and the look of delight on their face when you remember their name….makes it all worth while. Love the podcasts….looking forward to next week’s.
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From someone who used to call people dude, man etc all the time, the impact of remembering a name really is one of the easiest things you can do to improve your social life/likeability etc. I’m great with names, but terrible with faces on the street!
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Marina- i thought i would always be in your heart now i am very jealous that CJ got there before me:(
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David-
Life is so like a huge stock market investment love that line!
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David,
I’ll gladly make a journal of june 4th, cause it was my graduation day
I’m going to write down everything so I won’t forget any detail!
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Hey David,
I must tell you that i really love this blogs. It’s very real and special one i guess. Toally make sense
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