Is It Possible?
By David Wygant

Over and over again I get email and people asking me this question: Is is possible to find someone with whom you have earth-shattering sex AND who is also a person you can love and have as your best friend?

It seem like a lot of people have just one or the other. They are either with someone with whom they have AMAZING sex that blows them away . . . OR they are in a relationship with someone where the sex is good (usually not great) and after a couple years together they end up being more like best friends/roommates than a couple. So, is it possible to have both?

Can you have an incredible and amazing connection with someone both mentally and physically so that you get to wake up next to your best friend every morning and get to have unbelievable soul-connecting sex every night? Is this possible? Can you have both?

I have always liked to believe that you can, because nothing in life is better than being able to fall in love with your best friend with whom you can also be everything you want sexually. It seems like a lot of people (myself included) have had one or the other but never both at the same time.

Last year I dated a few women with whom the sex was good. Once we got deeper into who we were, we stopped connecting. So while on the physical side it was good, on the emotional side it just was not going to happen on a deeper soulful level in the long run. It was not that these were not great women . . . they were just not great women for ME.

Great sex is REALLY hard to give up. Once you have it, it’s like a powerful drug addiction. Being able to walk away from that is one of the toughest things to do.

I would like to have both. I would like to be able to be so deep with a woman in EVERY way (mentally, physically and spiritually). Nothing is better than looking deep into a woman’s eyes while you’re making love to her, and connecting so deep into her soul that you feel like you’ve become one with her.

Now that we’re about 48 days into 2008, and every one of you have already broken all your New Year’s resolutions, it’s time to set a new resolution: Why don’t we all embark on this journey together and not settle for ANYTHING but the best. Let’s all look as deep as we can inside our souls and go after exactly what we want.

So if you have a connection with someone and it’s just physical, enjoy it for what it is. If you have a connection with someone that’s just mental, also enjoy that for what it is.

Realize, though, that you can have anything you want as long as you put your mind to it. It’s going to take a lot of dating and a lot of talking to strangers to get what you want, but you CAN do it.

So make this your post-New Year’s resolution goal setting blog. Now that you’ve fallen off the wagon and broken your original resolutions, it’s time to get back on track and keep this new resolution to get exactly what you want.

So the next time someone asks you “Is it possible to have great sex with someone who is also your best friend?” you’ll be able to look that person in the eye and say “When do you want to meet my new relationship?”