long distance relationship davcid wygantGot an e-mail today from a guy that reads the blog.

He said:

Hi David,

Here’s the issue. I live in South Africa, and there’s an articulate Canadian girl now based in Malaysia who does similar public speaking to what I do. I could forward you her YouTube clip.

I sought to get in contact with her and conveniently set up a radio interview. We’ve had two so far.

I like this girl. I’ve never personally met her. How do I take it to the next level as I see her as potential marriage material? If there’s any cost to this, I will gladly pay.

Kind Regard,

Mike

. . .

Really—marriage material? How do you even know? You’ve never physically met her in person.

Not only that, but you live in South Africa. She lives in Malaysia. You’re continents away from each other.

This is what I’m talking about when I describe the “fantasy-derived mentality” that a lot of men have.

Until you meet somebody in person you’ll never know what her physical energy is like.

Sure you may think she’s wonderful; sure you may think she’s great; sure you may think she’s absolutely fantastic.

But until you are face-to-face, sitting across from her in a café, you’ll never know what her energy is all about or who she is as a person.

People are different in person. Anybody can give good phone. Anybody can give great e-mail or great texts.

But chemistry is when you feel the energy of another person.

Not only that, but Mike, you’re so far away from her. There are no women in South Africa that you can meet? Why chase a vision, a dream, somebody who is far away, somebody who you may never meet?

I think long distance relationships are really crazy—they really are.

Hunt in your own neighborhood.

There are plenty of women, who would love to meet a great man, an articulate, fun, fantastic man that lives right near you.

Look around.