Comments on: Relationship Manipulation http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:15:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Sandra http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29606 Sandra Thu, 16 Jul 2009 13:13:39 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29606 I am now getting caught up on the blogs...But driving in traffic just going through thoughts of the day. The ones I would like to dodge are the negative ones. I am now getting caught up on the blogs…But driving in traffic just going through thoughts of the day. The ones I would like to dodge are the negative ones.

]]> By: Horsegirl http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29566 Horsegirl Wed, 15 Jul 2009 07:50:31 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29566 I totally agree with being in the 'present' with your relationship. However, when is it acceptable to look at the relationship to question if it is going to progress? At some point a person needs to make a decision about whether to continue to wait on things to move forward or accept the fact it will not and move on - no matter how much they love the other person. My personal situation has been to date someone for 3 years and we have been at the same 'place' for approximately the last 2 or so. It's not going significantly forward or backward. I am ready to be his life - partner, not just his gf. We spend alot of time traveling between residences that could be better spent relaxing together if we resided in the same place. We eat dinner very late most evenings we are together due to duplicate responsibilities/chores that have to be satisified at each home. Instead of relaxing for a few hours together before going to bed, we are scrambling to get everything done and end up getting to sleep very late. As you can imagine, this takes some of the 'fun' out of the relationship. It appears to have a negative affect on our sex life, also. It's like being married, only seperate! - and without any of the benefits. So - at what point in a situation do you 'look ahead' in order to decide about your personal future? I want someone to be my partner and share my life with - not just be a gf forever. And, noone wants to find out they have invested years of their life in a relationship to one day get 'the talk' that the other person has decided to move on to something/someone new. Comments? Suggestions? I totally agree with being in the ‘present’ with your relationship. However, when is it acceptable to look at the relationship to question if it is going to progress? At some point a person needs to make a decision about whether to continue to wait on things to move forward or accept the fact it will not and move on – no matter how much they love the other person. My personal situation has been to date someone for 3 years and we have been at the same ‘place’ for approximately the last 2 or so. It’s not going significantly forward or backward. I am ready to be his life – partner, not just his gf. We spend alot of time traveling between residences that could be better spent relaxing together if we resided in the same place. We eat dinner very late most evenings we are together due to duplicate responsibilities/chores that have to be satisified at each home. Instead of relaxing for a few hours together before going to bed, we are scrambling to get everything done and end up getting to sleep very late. As you can imagine, this takes some of the ‘fun’ out of the relationship. It appears to have a negative affect on our sex life, also. It’s like being married, only seperate! – and without any of the benefits.
So – at what point in a situation do you ‘look ahead’ in order to decide about your personal future? I want someone to be my partner and share my life with – not just be a gf forever. And, noone wants to find out they have invested years of their life in a relationship to one day get ‘the talk’ that the other person has decided to move on to something/someone new. Comments? Suggestions?

]]> By: pua http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29438 pua Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:06:44 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29438 I dont live in the past... i dont live in the future. The reason why for me is that i believe that once you start down that path you let your present be less than you desire, for you are looking to something else anyway. Just my two cents <a href="http://www.puagathering.com" rel="nofollow">pua</A> I dont live in the past… i dont live in the future. The reason why for me is that i believe that once you start down that path you let your present be less than you desire, for you are looking to something else anyway.

Just my two cents

pua

]]> By: drd http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29435 drd Thu, 09 Jul 2009 12:29:18 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29435 wish i'd seen this one sooner! it could've been written for me. i tend to look back at what's already happened, and ahead expecting that to happen again. just had a conversation with someone i've been dating that seems now like a tape that's been played before. it just wasn't my tape that was played. our present has been good, then she seems worried about things in her past and how that should affect our future. makes now sort of disappear. i'm going to just not dwell on it & see if that doesn't make now better than yesterday or tomorrow. wish i’d seen this one sooner! it could’ve been written for me. i tend to look back at
what’s already happened, and ahead expecting that to happen again. just had a
conversation with someone i’ve been dating that seems now like a tape that’s been
played before. it just wasn’t my tape that was played. our present has been good,
then she seems worried about things in her past and how that should affect our
future. makes now sort of disappear.
i’m going to just not dwell on it & see if that doesn’t make now better than yesterday
or tomorrow.

]]> By: vern's http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29434 vern's Thu, 09 Jul 2009 09:10:22 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29434 I like the way you wrote this david " Every time you go back into the past, you’re not in the present and you will never make the present work." very true and real.. :) I like the way you wrote this david ” Every time you go back into the past, you’re not in the present and you will never make the present work.”

very true and real.. :)

]]> By: Peter Flatin http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29422 Peter Flatin Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:32:27 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29422 Hello, I've been following your blog for a while. I think its brilliant. I have tried some of your advise and I think you have some great tips. I own the blog <a href="http://datingadvicegathered.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Dating Advice Gathered</a> and I would love to feature you in it. Though I never add a RSS feed to my blog without a written consent. If it is okej with you that I add you please leave a comment on my site saying its okej. Or send me an email. Hello,

I’ve been following your blog for a while. I think its brilliant. I have tried some of your advise and I think you have some great tips.
I own the blog Dating Advice Gathered and I would love to feature you in it. Though I never add a RSS feed to my blog without a written consent.
If it is okej with you that I add you please leave a comment on my site saying its okej.
Or send me an email.

]]> By: Pizzabox http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29418 Pizzabox Wed, 08 Jul 2009 07:33:45 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29418 The past is history, the future is now. The ability to absorb and appreciate the beauty every second will amaze you on how much opportunity exists. The past is history, the future is now. The ability to absorb and appreciate the beauty every second will amaze you on how much opportunity exists.

]]> By: Coach Kimberly http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29417 Coach Kimberly Wed, 08 Jul 2009 05:09:18 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29417 wygant fan--well put. Yes, why project too much into the future when you have something good in the present. Sometimes focusing or projecting on what the future should or might be takes away from the present relationship and can even sabotage it. wygant fan–well put. Yes, why project too much into the future when you have something good in the present. Sometimes focusing or projecting on what the future should or might be takes away from the present relationship and can even sabotage it.

]]> By: kismet http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29416 kismet Wed, 08 Jul 2009 04:59:41 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29416 The best thing to help from past mistakes is self-awareness. Knowing what didn't work and why. That allows for new choices of actions, words and overall communication. I love the LOST metaphor :D And yes, Jackson have been distorted by the media and sought after from gold-diggers who saw an opportunity (although in the beginning he DID start his own rumours/gossip). Its too sad I didn't know the whole story and get the chance to relish his music while he was alive. The best thing to help from past mistakes is self-awareness. Knowing what didn’t work and why. That allows for new choices of actions, words and overall communication.

I love the LOST metaphor :D

And yes, Jackson have been distorted by the media and sought after from gold-diggers who saw an opportunity (although in the beginning he DID start his own rumours/gossip). Its too sad I didn’t know the whole story and get the chance to relish his music while he was alive.

]]> By: Wygant Fan http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/relationship-manipulation/1795/#comment-29415 Wygant Fan Wed, 08 Jul 2009 04:08:55 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1795#comment-29415 so if good chemistry is there you just keep up with it and not try and look too far ahead? that makes sense that you would try to take things one step at a time. so if good chemistry is there you just keep up with it and not try and look too far ahead?
that makes sense that you would try to take things one step at a time.

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