Playing The Percentages
July 22, 2009 
31 Comments
I woke up this morning to another sunny day in Southern California, and I realized that everywhere in the world except Los Angeles you have to play the percentages. On the East Coast, it may rain or be really nice, and you have to embrace both the sunny days and the wet days.
It’s really no different in meeting the opposite sex and in relationships. Life is about playing the percentages.
There is no 100% in anything in life, and yet when it comes to meeting people and dating it seems so many people want some kind of guarantee that things will work out before they ever even open their mouth. I could go on and on about this in the blog, but I’m not going to do it because it’s all in today’s podcast.
Not only do I talk about playing the percentages in your own life in this podcast, but I also share some very personal experiences of mine.
What I share is so personal that when you hear it, you’re going to realize that everything you’re going through (and have been through) are things I’ve experienced and felt.
Enjoy today’s podcast!
Also, if you want to hear my story and my personal journey to self-love, be sure to check out my Men’s No Excuses program and my Women’s What’s Your Excuse? program.
David,
Amazing podcast. You’re right man, we all go through the same things and they just teach us and allow us to grow
..thanks for all man
wow that was deep podcast, how can i get time of your life? thanks!
Today’s blog made me realize that I need to re-explore my past, and bring those stories to the surface, and I also need to embrace it, great stuff keep it going!!
you were right i felt like i can see myself in you David!
I am tired of the east coast now i want to head to the west and enjoy that sunny weather:)
really enjoyed today’s podcast actually all the Wednesday podcast are amazing!!@!@
I am curious if where would you like to move next David?
Today’s podcast reminded me of college for some reason, there was this one particular woman who i had a big crush on, at that time I feared women so much that I never asked her out, and what hurt me the most was a month later she was with a dork.
If I had the chance to go back, I would definitely used what i have learned from here and claim her! But that moment is gone, its just my story now:)
Harper- its part of the Mens mastery series, i think you would highly benefit from it!
cool thanks CJ I will have to check it out then, I hear a lot about it.
DonJuan-
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and its all about what you do today!
ahhahha like that quote CJ, that is so true.
I am afraid of rejection how do i get rid of it?!!!
Dan
Glad you enjoyed the podcast that one was from my heart:)
Jacob
Its all what you do right this present second and not even today,
Thanks for this podcast David. This one is a great help.
I’ll be listening to the podcast later tonight. I’m still fixing my stuff up in the room.
By the way David, cool new layout! As you said “When you evolve, life is evolves.” I dig the colors and the design. It’s too bad I can’t see your handsome face from now on!
Keep it up!
Miguel thinks you’re handsome, and he digs the colors and design….you may be attracting some fans from the bay area too, David!
I won’t call you handsome, but it does seem like you’ve put on some weight, from what I could see on your youtube clip. I’m self conscious about wearing shorts, but it’s not that bad and I think you and I have the same body type: tall and lean. Thanks for your free advice David.
I’m straight.
MAC
Hi David,
I bought Mens Mastery last year. How do I get your new part 9 without having to buy the whole lot again?
Jerry
PS.
I couldn’t advise everyone enough to buy this product. I have listened to it at least 5 times. And I am in the middle of listening to it again for the 6th.
I heard someone say on TV awhile back, “Rejection is God’s protection.”
There may be some truth to that, at least at times.
Sometimes it may simply be because you really messed up on the apporoach and first impression or that there was no chemistry between you and the girl. And with more practice and self evaluation and listening/reading what David & the coaches here say to do, you continually improve until you’re succeeding more.
At other times though, as DW has said, you can be doing everything right and you still get blown off or dumped. But when that happens, think of it not only as a learning experience, but as a blessing. There have been some girls in the past I had the major hots for. But I found out later from the grapevine or over-hearing their hapless boyfriends talk about how much sh#t and drama they were getting from the mega-hot chick who turned out to be a self-absorbed, primadonna bitch with major issues. It was then I was happy she blew me off months before.
I had a major crush on a girl a few years ago who blew me off, but then that was when I was socially retarded anyway, so I can’t blame her. But it was just as well because I later found out she had some mental health issues that would have made life difficult for us both even if I had had my act together. I since found someone else and became much happier overall.
In life what are the percentages of dating the dream person that we want…Lets see first have to meet someone and get to know them…Then as the relationship grows then there is a percentage are we going to live together or just plan on getting married. If our foresight was better than our hindsight then would our life be better. Then when you get to know each other throught the years what are the percentages that you two will become strangers.
“Rejection is God’s protection” very profound. Thanks for that.
MAC – I’m from the Philippines. Sitting here at the comfort of my room in the tropical place of Manila.
I’m straight. I just admire guys in a non-gay way. Besides, he is handsome! hahaha
I was teasin’ Miguel. Greetings from So. Cal.
hey is david deangelo’s a good dating coach?? A friend lend me one of his dvd’s to me
The part that was the most meaningful for me is how we get hung up on percentages. We start life getting graded in school and our numbers are always compared with others. Unfortunately, for some of us, the idea of achievement through high percentages gets carried into the world of dating. I’m especially grateful to Jacob for curing me of this very unhealthy and counterproductive idea.
David,
What I love about all your stuff is your positive attitude. You make me realize that when I walk around saying, “I never meet anyone…people aren’t friendly” it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Am I being friendly? The last couple days I’ve walked around smiling more, chatting with people in stores, asking the checkout girl “How’s your day going?” And, you know what–they tell you. They’re bored and waiting for someone to show some enthusiasm and to listen to them. My days of trying to play it cool are over. I’m not cool! But, I am enthusiastic and I’m a nice guy. And this percentages idea is great. I hate sports fans who bitch about every mistake their team makes. We’re all human. We all screw up. And we learn from it. And it just plain feels better to support your team when they’re down. Whenever I bitch about my team I feel worse. I had one of the worst dates ever the other night–but now it’s a pretty funny story! And I’m actually glad it happened. Thanks for reminding us to be enthusiastic and positive. If we give out good energy we get good energy back. One of the most helpful things I’ve learned from you is that I should just have a normal conversation with women–quit starting out with the idea of getting a phone #. That takes the pressure off. Instead of stepping to the plate thinking, “I’ve gotta get a hit” it’s better to say, “OK, what’s this pitcher dealing today?”–and observe and quit worrying about my success or failure…then I’m more likely to get a hit.
Nice Podcast Dave and thank you.
I’m wondering that even though it seems like a good belief to always see the abundance, and to believe that after a breakup that there is someone better, is there not a slight concern that ultimately you are only protecting yourself from getting hurt?
Certainly you have had some very painful experiences in your life. But are painful experiences — the loss of a loved one — necessarily bad or unhealthy? The comments that women say to you after having broken up with you, that they “knew it would be easy for you” is some cause for self-reflection. It may indeed be a healthy attitude for the present circumstance, but it also may an indication of a deeper reluctance to experience the vulnerability of being in a loving relationship.
MAC – hahaha. Greetings from Manila
Listened to the podcast. Great one!
Percentages, percentages, percentages… I think if more people really learned about that simple principle, they’d realize meeting women really ain’t that hard!
Don’t take rejection personally but if a man goes out on enough dates… let’s say once a week… and considering that a woman usually gives it up around the 3rd date… most men should get laid at least once a month! LOL
Rob – I don’t know about you but… I was obsessed with David DeAngelo… And now, I can tell you that his teaching is abusive to women and it never really worked anyway, because his method is all about taking and not giving back. I’m glad I actually bumped into him though… Because without him, I wouldn’t have bumped into David Wygant!