Everybody is so caught up in what the celebrities are doing – and this weekend seemed to be a celebrity-filled weekend for me.
First, when I was out looking for a new house, I ran into Donald Sutherland. Apparently he was checking out a house he wanted to buy for Kiefer Sutherland – this really cool townhouse in Venice by this famous Southern Californian. I was looking at one myself when I ran into him.
It was interesting – I was doing my usual observational chitchat, and I looked at him and said, “great view!” He agreed, and smiled, and that was about it. He had great energy and a good persona, but it was obvious that he just didn’t want to be bothered.
But even more interesting is that my friend Hope and her friend Danielle were at Roberto’s Tacos (a famous taco stand in Encinitas) and they ran into Owen Wilson. Owen Wilson was checking out this girl Danielle, and then she said, “hey, what’s up?” – from a distance, she thought it was a guy she’d once dated.
Then she realized it wasn’t that guy, but Owen Wilson, and she played it cool. So he looked at her and said, “where am I right now? It’s beautiful! Where exactly am I? What’s the name of this place?” So he used the observational prop – really bonding with the environment and asking, “where is this beautiful place?” and just starting a conversation in that way.
They start chatting back and forth, and started flirting a little bit, and then she went inside and some little kid asked her if she knew who that was. She said she did, and the kids were awed. She went back out and to the other side of the restaurant – just like a woman, she ran from the scene!
He kept looking at her, and she kept looking at him, and what happened next? He walked over to the other side of the restaurant where she was eating her tacos and said, “hey, what are you doing the rest of the day?”
She responded, “I don’t know, I think I’m going to go back to my house and relax.” He said, “that’s great. So do you know any good beaches around here?” And she told him about a few beaches, and that was it!
She laid out the “going back to my house to hang out” kind of routine, he asked if she knew any good beaches – looking for the “sure, let me show you the best beach!” type of thing, and what it all boils down to is that Owen Wilson can’t close!
It doesn’t matter who you are in life – you might be a celebrity, a rich man, a poor man, a beautiful woman, a sexy woman, a chubby woman – it doesn’t make a difference. When two people are attracted to each other, many times both of them are afraid to take a step. Here is Owen Wilson, who makes tons of money, dated Kate Hudson, is full of confidence, and yet he couldn’t close a simple hot San Diego woman.
So once again – it’s time to stop thinking about and obsessing over celebrities, because they are just like you and me. Celebrities are just regular people with regular issues. They might act for a living, but that doesn’t mean that they know how to close a woman they are attracted to!
Are you going to be like Owen Wilson and not close, or are you going to be like somebody that I coach – someone who knows how to close when they hear an invitation? Someone who takes action – do you want to be a man who takes action?
Or do you want to be the woman that flirts a little bit harder and doesn’t run away from an opportunity to hang out with your Owen Wilson?
The choice is yours – but it all depends on how you want to handle it. In reality, life is all about closing. If you are a woman, life is all about letting the guy know – maybe one more time – that you’re interesting in him closing you. You never know unless you try!
It doesn’t matter who you are – you can still be Owen Wilson. And Owen Wilson can’t close!
Todays video is all about how to get her thinking about you and it will also teach you how to never be like Owen Wilson.
It seems to me that her response was an open-ended invitation (of sorts), and something that she wasn’t committed to and could easily have been changed, had Owen Wilson suggested anything. So David, in this instance, if you were Owen Wilson, how would you have closed her?
David,
Why do you say that Owen Wilson cannot close as if it is a solidified fact? It seems he did an ok job based on the conversation but simply she wasn’t interested. What should he have done differently?
With Love & respect, Dan
Hah! Too bad for Owen
Maybe, he got up close and changed his mind but still had to be who he was and acted nice. Or he was having a bad day. Or maybe he thought she was someone he knew and when it turned out it wasn’t, he tuned out.
Seems like there’s lots of situations that could have happened.
Dan, he should have asked her to come to the beach or to show him which beach to go to once she told him that she was just going home to chill. It was obvious that he was interested. They followed her to the other side of the restaurant and they talked for about 30 minutes. He should have asked for her phone number so that next time he comes down they could plan something. He could have asked her what she was doing later that night or if she ever comes up to LA. (She used to live there and goes up all the time).
On the other hand, she could have said, “I was planning on going home and chilling. Why? What do you have in mind?” She just started dating someone so she didn’t. She’s also not the type to ask a guy out. I have no qualms if I like a guy I will either ask them to do something or make it extremely clear that I am interested.
Celebs are people like you and I!
We put them on such a pedestal that at times we forget that they have issues and problems.
I know the woman who shared this story and he had the hots for her he was not able to close!
It happens to everyone celebrities to regular folks
Oh and as hope states all the signs were there!
Hopes friend is very hot and not someone that Owen Wilson would not be attracted to.
A man who invests 30 minutes is into someone.
And as hope states women need to give clear cut signs.
It is a 2 way street!
Hello everyone.
I have been busy with my sister’s wedding and my cousin recently came back to United States. I think I like her alot. In our religion, we can marry with our cousins. Long story short. She used to stare at me. Day before yesterday she teased me too. But yesterday at the wedding, she ignored me totally. She even igored my other cousin as well. She is 21 and I am 23. She is leaving in about 2 weeks. I really can’t tell her that I like her because I wanna get to know her first. What should I do. How do I get her email address so I will keep in touch wit her. she is ignoring me and not even talking to me. Any ideas.
Tariq
Yes, people have fantasies of celebrities, and unrealistic expectations of them.
It’s only an image we have in our heads about people, and it can be about your friend, neighbor etc. It doesn’t have to be just celebrities.
The lesson to me is to not objectify the opposite sex OR the same sex! We are all people, imperfect people.
I wonder… do you think Owen Wilson put Danielle on a pedestal?
Celebrities or not… they are a lot like us. Sometimes, they don’t know how to take it to the next step. If I was him, I would have suggested an activity right then and there. I’ve met Danielle. She’s quite the looker… and she’s definitely fun to flirt with.
Maybe Owen Wilson is still in love and not himself. Broken hearst take time to heal.
Maybe, maybe, maybe or just maybe Owen Wilson is just another guy like us.
Seriously why are we all putting a celebrity on a pedestal? he may have the fame, the money, but in the end they are just people.
I think it is wrong for us to put celebrities on a pedestal, because they are no different than us.
Our society make celebrities look like people with special power, and they’re not! It puts us all in a spectator mindset, like they can do something that we can’t, just because they are on the press more than us. Which is complete BS.
The point is Owen Wilson wasn’t on his game, and like everyone else, when you’re not closing, you’re not going to get anything!
Celebs are just people, and most of the ones I’ve interacted with (mainly musicians) are way more messed up than the average person is. Since they don’t often have normal interactions with people they often lose their ability to communicate in a way that most of us would consider normal.
Wasn’t Owen Wilson the guy who tried to kill himself with pills last year?
If that’s the case then he obviously has issues, and not being able to close surely isn’t the biggest one. It all comes down to confidence and I’m guessing if you’re the kind of person to try and kill yourself you obviously have some confidence issues as well. I hope he’s getting better for his own sake.
Off. Naughty,
I didn’t think of it that way, good points. Do you think he could have blown her away even though she was dating someone already to the point where she actually would have given/taken a phone number? What else did he do wrong? From what you said he basically just didn’t close right?
cool, thanks! Dan
I’m confused. Was she into him? (sorry I’m slow)
These damn signs women give off are so vague. sorry women it’s tough bein’ a average male guy.
Yeah, celebrities are just people! They can’t go around talking to girls and getting numbers like they’re some kind of super human ladies man. Oh, wait…. Nevermind.
He was in the wedding crashers, and he still didn’t learn anything. What the hell is wrong with him;)
Stupid!
Maybe that lady is a lesbian?
She isn’t a lesbian; although she and I get it on every once in a while. In fact, she spent the night last night… David you should have come over!
Hope
You should have called me!
it would have been hotter than our last threesome. Next time!
u should have called me!
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Jim, what’s the “ZZZZ’s” referring to?
Jim, are your zzzz’s about some of the comments above? David referenced his “deeper bragging” blog yesterday …
From the comments above, it’s clear that men aren’t the only ones who are guilty of this …
…so in that respect I would echo your zzzz’s …
I assure you I wasn’t bragging. My comment was directed to David. I was merely suggesting that he and I hook up with Danielle. I know it would be fun. He likes playing with me and my friends. Don’t want to put anyone to sleep….just to bed
Hope,
I love how you are open and comfortable with your sexuality. But shouldn’t you keep your bedroom antics to the bedroom?
It’s not fair to let people know you are having “parties” all the time and not invite anyone else. That’s just rude!!! ^^
Wow, what a story, I wish that happened to me! If I had been in Danielle’s place, when he said “do you know any good beaches around” I would have said : “yes, sure, do you want me to show you my favorite?” I think that maybe Owen didn’t want to be too agressive, you know, meeting someone at a bar you don’t know that person’s values. In this case, I think that Danielle having just started a relationship might have had something to do with it. If she really wanted to be with him, she would have played better cards. I also don’t know what she expected Owen to reply when she said :” I am just going back home to relax” did she expected him to say: “can I come with you?” for some people, that might feel rushed, and maybe that’s why Owen wanted to go to the beach first.
Owen Wilson is one of the smoothest guys out there. Maybe he didn’t want to push things, maybe he just wasn’t into her. Let’s say he didn’t close this time, how then is it fare to say ” Owen Wilson doesn’t close” when we know not even the smoothest man on earth closes every time. To me it seemed like he did good with the observational tone and that she gave him an open ended response to where Owen could have taken it 1 of a few ways, to where he chose to let it go.
Much Love
Omar