Comments on: Online Terror – 21 Of My Favorite Mistakes

By: Occam

Occam — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 13:24:16 +0000

Kelly — all that is on top of having had kids by someone from whom you are now divorced because it was an unhappy marriage —- which involved YOUR judgment of character, YOUR attracting and relating to and marrying and staying with AND having children by this person — *and* — of which YOU were one half of the equation.

By: Occam

Occam — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 22:04:22 +0000

Kellly, there is something wrong with *you*. Seriously.
First, you attacked David. Next, you said you were 42 and had been writing for 30 years.
Then, the writing in that first attack looked like you are still 12 — or at least writing that way.
Then, you said you were “raised to be kind. I am as happy as possible. I force myself to be.” Force yourself some more. To be nice, that is, not to be happy no matter how rude you are. You did attack David in a rambling rant that did not make much sense.
Taking pride in being a freak would be good, if you were taking pride in a good quality. You’re not, though; too many rude people are taking pride in how rude they are.
There is something *wrong* with you if (well, not “if”, I guess it’s “since” – because you actually did!) you not only met, and not only dated, but *continued to date* 8 people long enough to be serious, long enough for them to propose. You apparently are incapable of being a judge of character. This includes the 8 (eight!) men, and it includes yourself. You said you ” have lived and learned ” but it appears by your actions that you were a VERY slow learner.
You are half of the equation in each relationship. You *were* half of the equation in all 8 (eight) of them.
Based on your inability to perceive or admit that, I would not consider your “writing” to be credible.

By: Occam

Occam — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 21:49:09 +0000

Kelly, you are 42 and have been writing since you were 12, and really – some of what you wrote looked like you are still 12.

You were “raised to be kind. I am as happy as possible. I force myself to be.” Force yourself harder. To be kind, I meant, not happy no matter how rude you are.

There is truly something wrong with you if you were dating and getting serious with 8 people who proposed marriage. Something wrong on *your* end of it, not only to have so many bad mismatches — after all, YOU attracted them! — but also to stay with them that long – *and* to do it so many times with so many people! You are half of the equation. You were half of all 8 (EIGHT) of the equations.

By: AoDlightwolf

AoDlightwolf — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 10:25:18 +0000

it would take me a day to read all the way down to here so no more useless crap plz

By: jo

jo — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 21:26:57 +0000

Hi david, just wanted to say love the emails you send. They make me smile through a tough time and have helped me a lot.

As for online dating.
Scammers, first guy chatted to me for about two weeks then went abroad on business. Emailed me the firstday he was away and said all luggage lost could i lend him five hundred quid…. dumb Not. hadnt even spoken to him on the phone.
Ten years younger guys, a guy told me tonight he loved my eyes and my smile and had been thinking about me a lot, oh did i forget he also told me he would marry me…!!
One guy emailed me and it just said come and get me..
Just frustrates the heck out of me.

By: VeraNika

VeraNika — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 07:00:59 +0000

Dear David. Just wanted to thank you for your free bog and your fee valuable advise here.

After a bad relationship I did not know how to begin dating, not only that but how to
avoid the horrible mistakes people make in dating that can effect them forever. Your advised helped
me avoid some of the mistakes while I am dating.

I read pretty much all of your work, and some of other great coaches..I was actually asked
to coach someone, a young man who told me, that I had sound advise for men and dating.
But with all the knowledge and experience…I’m still a good looking (some say very, I say, after how many drinks) single woman.(((
I know valentines is quite some months away..and you would look funny in a cupids diaper…but.
Have you thought about being a match maker.

By: stella

stella — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 01:01:04 +0000

This world is changing, and it’s picking up speed every day.
The males (particularly older) who were dragging their feet in the past are now being forced to run to catch up. It’s uncharted territory for them and the old ways no longer work with the women they meet.
It’s uncharted territory for women, too. Because we have no previous role models for this new world, we are having to make it up as we go along. Some of us (myself included) have made the same mistakes the men have made (in particular, aggression) with the same unfortunate results.
The men I’ve talked to are confused, angry, and feel like women are out to “emasculate” them. They resent what we women call a “level playing field”.
The world is changing, and not on their terms.
Guys, no matter how strong we seem to be out there in the career world, we are still looking for a man who is strong enough to handle an emergency when we are falling apart that day.
We still love being protected, having doors opened for us, we will always be a sucker for flowers and compliments.
I am not a conventional woman, am very much a soldier, and yet, when a man hands me a flower, I’m red with embarrasment (did I spell that right?)
The new order is a benefit to both men and women. Men no longer have to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, thus shortening their lives.
women will no longer have to feel the conflict in their hearts because they were forced to “keep their place” when they are capable of much more.
True mutuality will help us both to live longer and happier. Lets make it safe for both sides to soften up our stances, and see each other as an asset, not an adversary.

By: Stevie Mac

Stevie Mac — Sun, 15 May 2011 12:09:16 +0000

Online Dating nightmare for me was when I received a message from this, granted visually stunning girl that was simply “hi want to chat?”

A quick trip to her profile revealed a stack of photos but absolutely nothing in her profile other than 4 rows of “X”s (as in the letter and not a list of her past partners – that would be really weird).

I replied, trying to be polite thanking her for the message but explaining that I was looking for someone who had something to say about themselves and didnt just rely on their looks.

A couple of days later I logged on again to discover my inbox had 10 messages from this girl, each about a minute apart with the title “NOTHING TO SAY?????!!!!!”

In hindsight I wish I hadnt just deleted them without reading them… I might have been able to use them in court lol

By: Maria

Maria — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 18:40:06 +0000

“One idiot sent me the exact same email at least 15 times. He was obviously cutting and pasting the same letter to all of the women to whom he wrote. ”

I read that in the above posts and god is that so true LOL I get the same. Guys keep emailing the same thing and my friend got the same email. Then i had one who once a week would email me ‘how is your weekend”… i tried starting a conversation but it gets no where, i get the same email next week LOL…what’s up with that??

By: stella

stella — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 02:22:45 +0000

Wow has this blog been pushing the envelope!
I have faked it. Lots.
Now I just cut to the chase: I don’t like giving oral sex more than just a “hello there!”.
I don’t like getting oral sex. The vibrator works just fine, or for that matter “uncle woody”(that’s YOU, dude!;-D) in a pinch. How about both? Havent had any objections when I tell ‘em what works.
This is PRIVATE and no one should tell you that you’re wierd for liking something else.
Let’s get back to the original article. I think it’s great. It’s a checklist to ensure that you have a good time out there in online dating land.
I will add one other, which was said by a simply beautiful man I “met” online:
“Dont have high expectations.”
That way you won’t be disappointed.
Finally, pickings are about the same online as they are in real life; some ya like, some ya don’t.
If you’re having fun, people will catch your “vibe”

Thanks for reading!