Comments on: Online Misrepresentation

By: Kristian Mattias

Kristian Mattias — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:11:27 +0000

Great article. There’s a lot of good data here, though I did want to let you know something – I am running Fedora with the circulating beta of Firefox, and the look and feel of your blog is kind of quirky for me. I can understand the articles, but the navigation doesn’t work so great.

By: Bertie

Bertie — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 00:28:39 +0000

I’ve only ever met one man under 5’8″ who told the truth about his height. If a man says he’s 5’6″, that means he’s about 5’3″ maybe 5’4″. If I have to tilt my head down to look you in the eye you’re not 5’8″. Its silly….Like come on’, you didn’t think I was going to notice?

By: Jaime aka Jmeezay

Jaime aka Jmeezay — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 00:18:20 +0000

Word to Big Bird! This blog is sooooo unbelievably on point.

I’ve done the whole online thing and I’ve always been honest. Age, body type, recent pictures, etc. I have been disappointed many a time by someone who lied in one way or another. Men are big on lyiing about height (every man under 5’10 claims to be that height at some point) and I just can’t stand it. If you’re going to lie about dumb things like this, then what am I to suspect if things go any further? Blech.

By: Bertie

Bertie — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 03:03:05 +0000

Dan,
I’ve looked around at what other women are doing and it is much more likely that a woman who is maybe thirty pounds overweight to misrepresent herself. I call myself a bbw though I’m not sure that is what I am any longer, however, I don’t care. I figure he might be pleasantly surprised by me. I have full length pics of me from spring time fun with friends. So no offense, but I’m calling BS on that one! I won’t say that we aren’t guilty of a multitude of sins, but I will say that I know a lot of bigger women who have profiles on dating sites and they don’t say they are slim and trim. They tell it like it is. What I’d like to know is why do men say you are so pretty when its all out there baby for them to see, and their profiles say they only want thin or athletic built women. I can’t be running into every guy just wants to get laid cause several of them I’ve dated more than once and haven’t slept with.

By: Dan

Dan — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 02:47:12 +0000

Wow, I just read almost all of the posts here and had to chime in. I have online dated for a long time, my career is one reason, my boyish shyness another… OK, I suck at making the approach, so online is a good way for me to go. I have an ex-wife I met online, and she was exactly who she said she was… I just didn’t listen LOL. I have had one other semi serious relationship and several dates from online and the number one reason I am still single is that women misrepresent themselves! I have done everything with my profiles on different sites even stating in bold letter that if you aren’t at least 50 pounds lighter than me (at the time I was 6 foot and 210) I am not likely to be interested. Women with 10 year old pics would reel me in, and wonder why I wanted to run to the bar instead of have dinner when we met. The article is soooo true, be honest, my profile says I have a few extra pounds…. I do, but I know that not everyone would see me that way, some would say I am just average others might say I’m a big fat guy, that is why I POST A PIC THAT SHOWS MY TORSO!!!! That way women can see who I am, and what I mean by a few extra pounds. There are a lot of men that want or like big women, so why play games with guys that don’t?

By: Suzie

Suzie — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 01:42:28 +0000

The biggest problem that I had during the 2-3 years I searched for dates online was that almost every man who responded to me was married… to which they’d never admit until after the first date, even though I made it clear in my profile that I was NOT interested in married or otherwise ‘taken’ men.

I eventually married a longtime friend whose personal history is an open book to me, and we’re happy as two toddlers in a sandbox. We didn’t meet online. We met the old-fashioned way — in a bar.

By: Super Amanda

Super Amanda — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 01:19:46 +0000

“Frankenberry???” YOUR age should be no mystery! lol Great blog

By: Bertie

Bertie — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 20:31:32 +0000

Those particular five?

By: Darik

Darik — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 20:26:10 +0000

Bertie,

I have read on the website that supports the book that the 10 can be a mix or match, but predominately the 5 are set to each sex.

By: Bertie

Bertie — Wed, 19 Sep 2007 17:36:47 +0000

Darik,
In this book, does it talk about different needs at different ages? Cause with the exception of good conversation and honesty/openness, I have guy “needs”. Last time I checked, I was still very female.