Can you believe that it’s already January 2009. It’s just ridiculous how quickly time flies.
But there’s something interesting that I want to bring up to everyone on the blog. As many of you know, I’m not really in to New Year’s resolutions – I think that they are a crock of shit. They are just a complete waste of time.
Everyone always makes 10 or 11 New Year’s resolutions – and of course they are going to be broken! You’re trying to do too many things. I bet most of you have already broke most of the resolutions and we are only 12 DAYS into the year!!
I was talking to some clients the other night and I told them that what I like to do is to choose a theme for the year. I know if I concentrate on a theme, I’ll make things happen. I’m going to start believing in that theme.
I remember one year – I think it was 2004 – my theme was patience and trusting the universe. I wanted to put my trust in the universe in everything I did. I wanted to allow things to happen on their own terms. I didn’t want to force anything.
When I was in the business world, when I would lose a client I would be totally bummed out. If I didn’t have a good month, I’d start stressing out, wondering if things would get better.
A wise friend of mine, told me I needed to start trusting the universe. If you trust the universe, everything that you want will manifest. Things will start to happen because you are no longer suffocating the energy. You aren’t putting too much pressure on things and you are allowing them to unfold in their own time.
Trusting the universe means having the abundance principle. If you embody the abundance principle, people will start becoming attracted to you and they will want to meet you or do business with you.
So in 2004 I worked on trusting the universe and being patient. Then, in 2005, after I learned how to be patient, I started working with the theme of abundance. I started working with the theme of abundance in every facet of my life.
And by the end of 2005, everything was abundant for me. Business was great, the people in my life were great – I had no complaints.
So what did I want to work on in 2006? In 2006, my theme of the year was living in the moment. I wanted to embrace and be present in every moment. I didn’t want to think about the future of everything; I just wanted to embrace every little moment of life.
I wanted to learn about the gift of life. I wanted to embrace it. I wanted to be present every moment and I didn’t want to have to think about what I had to do tomorrow or what tomorrow would bring. I didn’t want to think about the past either. I just wanted to be in that moment.
And by doing that, each moment that I was truly present helped create another moment that I could embrace. It’s all about living in the moment. It’s all about staying focused, positive and having abundance.
All of these themes work really well together as well. This is what you need to do: you need to choose themes for your life.
What was the theme I chose for 2007 and 2008? To continue to live the life that I love. I’m really living the life that I love every day. I want to thank myself every day for this amazing life. I want to thank the people that I work with every day for the amazing job that they’ve done. I want to thank all of the people in my life for what they offer.
It’s about being 100% in tune with what is going on in the world so that you are able to put all of these principles and themes together.
By now, the 12th of January 2009, you all know that you’ve totally screwed up your New Year’s resolutions because you chose too many things.
Start concentrating on one thing. Life is a marathon – it’s not a sprint. It is about being able to go the distance. If you can go the distance in life, you’ll be able to accomplish everything you hope to.
The problem is that many people try to master too many things at one time. Rather than concentrating on one thing, they try to learn too many small things at once.
If you are a fast learner, you could concentrate on having a new theme every month or every three months. But you need to do this work in order to have an amazing life and attract great people into it.
What is your them for the year?
Do you know what mine is?
I have a theme just for the day.
I want to break the record we set last week with 300 responses to last Mondays blog.
So start typing folks!!!
I love this post. I’ve been doing similar things with my life for a few years.
My first year I said “focus on staying positive”. And when I did, I witnessed as events and people I met started to reflect that belief.
My next step was to “trust the universe” and that is what landed me in the job I am doing now and it is a great job.
My third step (and this is the third step I’m in) was to “find out who I am and who I want to be.”
David’s states in this post that life is a marathon and not a race. I agree with this and I’ll offer my own take here.
One time a good friend of mine told me “life is an adventure.” And I said, “yep, I agree. But life isn’t just one adventure, it is a whole series of adventures. It’s when you realize that they all start from the same house is when it starts to get interesting. We are that house and we choose who we let in and spend time in our house. Funny thing is, when you let someone in, they always see evidence of your adventurous life and they want to be a part of it too. Suddenly you are on a new adventure with a new person, collecting new experiences and stories for your house.
And that’s when you realize that your house is as big as you want it to be and it can hold as many adventures as you want to have.”
Life is amazing to me and I live each day with the idea that new adventures, people, places, and things to see are around every corner. Life in abundance.
Mike
Mike
As always thanks for sharing.
Life is a gift.
I woke up this morning and took daphne out and stood on the beach and looked at the water and the mountains.
I stood there and thanked the universe for an amazing life.
Everyday i wake up and thanks the universe for my life….my girlfriend and all the amazing people in it.
I think i just figured out tomorrows blog:)
I’ve found over the course of my life that really specific “resolutions” never come to fruition….a few years ago, I started to deviate from my resolutions and instead of saying, I’m going to lose 10 pounds, I made goals for myself such as: be kinder to myself-stop beating myself up. Or “be more positive”. It always works for me when I think in terms of adding something to my life rather than eliminating something. It’s a much more positive experience and will get you where you want to go!
To many goal, leaves out of being able to focus on the present. Really life is more like when you play sports and are able to play in the Zone. It’s a matter of not trying too hard, being observant with jo judgment and understand that you can not force the outcome and let go of the past. When everything is just right you space expands and slow down. Well my focus is right now to make David happy and help get his blog over 300.
marina
thanks for helping me with my goal and for sharing
susan
you know what i was talking about and life is far more gentle when you embrace this message.
David, Finally I hear from someone, sucks sitting at the end of the table….Knew I would get your attention getting your blog goal. But yours learn one thing at a time is a male thing, we girls are more capable of multi tasking. Alright this is all I can help you with today.
Hey David,
Great post. Coincidentally, I was looking at the date today, and I said to myself, “Holy Cow! it’s 12th Jan already!” I think that’s why we need posts like this to remind ourselves that time is very short. Make the most of it.
here’s my contribution towards your goal.
Raj
marina
i am an amazing multi tasker. it blows my girlfriend away everyday!!
right now i am doing 6 things
Hello everybody,
since I have discovered new me last year (thank you David for great blogs) and also after listening David’s Self Love audio (last week) => my theme for this year is Slava.
I want to discover more about me, embrace my wins every single day and just embrace myself for who I am as a person and be the most powerful me. And also because I am in the last year of school
Thank you everybody here on the blog for expanding my horizons.
Marina,
Multi tasking has little to do with gender and everything to do with how your mind works. Perhaps you meant to say that you have observed more women who could multi-task and less of that from the men you have met.
And here I thought Big was the only male lesbian…What a funny blog..A lot of nonsense here but some really funny ones among..Third is charmer..I thought I had life..
m
very true about that.
my mind works 100 miles an hour and sometimes i need to use the breaks.:)
Slava
That is a great theme for the year!!!
Do you realize it was 3 years ago that we met up at union.
time flies and keep your great theme for the year.
Marina
Big had a great post…….he really broke down how to make a woman squirt.
Guys need to re read that often.
M,
Nah..Out of the Zone back to being judgmental…:-) Just trying to get a word in before our southern gal Sandra crowds the place, and trying to help David in his goal of reaching 300 with this blog. All up to you Sandra go go get the count up..
David,
Laugh if you want it I am actually going to try his directions myself….Scary but true
Raj
Very true….time flies and be so aware of it. Take each day and live it to its fullest.
Thanks for sharing and helping with my goal.
marina
let me know how his advice works!
David,
time flies by, its ridiculous!
I had a huge breakthrough last week.
Every day I tell two of my best friends my biggest win of the day and they look at me and dont understand where is that coming from
Its funny to realize that that much less is enough to have a great time and just be happy
Marina, I’m keeping her busy on yesterday’s blog. But I’m sure she’ll work her way over her in no time. I think a good goal would be to have an everyday goal of a hundred posts, rather than a one time goal of 300. Although both are fun to try and achieve.
But let’s make a group effort to stay on topic, or relate our posts to something someone else said, k?
David, this post is a fantastic one. I hope we do reach 300 off of it. Positive thinking has led to the best experiences in my life. I used to be focused on the negative until I had a roommate who was more negative than me and I found myself one day going, if I don’t change I’m going to wind up just like this guy. I didn’t want that. So, my quest to enjoy my life began and it has been an incredible experience to date. I have some more things to work on, but it is coming together with time and understanding.
Talking and posting helps too.
Mike
I am no hurry to find someone, but pissed my late husband did not let me into this one..LOL He would actually laugh right now. Miss him. I guess if you want to get it done right you have to do it yourself. Enjoy every one and make some one smile today. Sorry David you just used you quota up today have to focus on someone else.
David
how can you do 6 things at the same time?
Are you a DeepDavidBlue??
Slava, that is a great idea! That helps you even if your friends don’t understand. The more times you reaffirm that you are thinking about things that you are proud of, the more things will enter your life for you to tell your friends about. Its like an avalanche. It starts off slow in the beginning, just enough so you feel like something important is happening and suddenly you are having all kinds of wonderful experiences in your life.
Hey what about a timeout for a day if you post more that 10 time off subject..I am so close to get a timeout tomorrow.
Well M, I love the expression on how people look at glass either half full or half empty it tells you so much about them. Despite my recent loss I turn everything around so I am looking at life with positive twist even when it is very hard. Even bad experiences happens for a reason and don’t let them hold you down.
M,
that’s exactly what I am saying!
Today I have looked at my wins for the past few days and its just a great feeling! And I agree it sums up every single day.
What were your wins today guys?
I have shared myself with a friend of mine. And also I was very productive today, I have accomplished few things I was procrastinating before.
Slava, M and David,
Here I thought we were talking stock trades….I feel great too if I keep on like this I can fly Big over and not have to squirt by myself. Nothing like a great Coach..I am so happy I will never run for Office..Happy thought every one and remember
The most wasted day is one in which you haven’t laughed. Love those little sayings
Recent wins:
I’ve just started my day. I sent off a parcel without procrastinating. I had a great talk with my boss last night. I realized that there is only so much you can do to try and please someone before you start to think that maybe they don’t want to be pleased. (David, I wrote a long post on yesterday’s blog, I hope you read it) I played a game of Scrabble online with my Dad who is now 59 and more stubborn than me. He is finally making an effort to understand technology and I won the game! Before today I hadn’t won a game of Scrabble against anyone in my family for about four years and I’m the writer.
I could go on and on. The more I realize life is a blessing meant to be enjoyed the more things I find that make me happy to be alive.
Like Slava said, this is a great time to talk about our wins!
Mike
Hello M and others
M was right I found my computer chair it is hard when u clean house and can’t find anything. Great blog.
300 uh lets see we will start with the day I was born and give you all a boring story. lol
What I try to do is not repeat the same mistakes I made last and not to bring them into the new year. Getting mad at someone is just a waste of time and energy. When you feel angry then grab a book or do like David think of a misc. blog and let us talk back and forth.
Yall have me until 3pm Tn time that is 1pm Callie time!
hi David long time…..
my theme for this year is “taking action” on implementing all the great ideas i have but have not put in practise
with no expections but embracing and learning from what ever happens and allowing the universe to reward me as time goes by not expecting a win every day.
i want to take action to improve every area of my life
and lastly putting great general advice i have got from david that i have not yet implemented in practise like the advice on this blog to day!!!!!!!
Oh we can call this blog the chat area where everyone can talk to each other and get to know each other. lol
elia
great theme for the year and great to see you on the blog!!!!!
sandra
i knew i would find you here
m
i did read yesterdays post and stubborn is something that i work on all the time.
i am so stubborn its ridiculos and as far as pleasing someone the only person you need to please is yourself.
once you master that it will open you up to enjoy pleasing others.
slava
i always can do 6 things when working……my mind works that way. i master one thing at a time then learn how to master two things at a time.
then 3 etc.
but i stay focused on each task fully i just jump around a bit
David
Did u miss me while u were out on that boot camp with those guys? I wonder does ur gf go with u when u do those things?
Sandra
I always miss you….
David
That is comforting to know. I miss u too and Callie. Pet ol’ Daphne for me.
Daphne is always up for a good pet and her intention this year is to be pet even more!!!
Recently started speaking with an old friend online from 20 something years ago. Immediately there were this great energy constant exchanges of words that made you both smile and laugh. I was not looking for anything nor interested. He came on strong, crush on me back then. Wrote could not go to bed because he would not let me go…Got more intense and slowly I got caught into it, even tried to stop it as I felt too out of control with unresolved issues(guilt because my husband had died). He felt it was depressing that I would just give up on him without ever trying. Well I fell for him, I guess then at some point I go in retrospect too caught up in expectations. When you have lost someone if feels so good to hear all these things you miss especially when they were words my husband would have said, even about my size at 220 someone does not travel across the atlantic for a date. I don’t think so, little more than that. Suddenly in his words it got scary as he felt I wanted to know what he was doing and thought I was having an attitude when he did not answer. I had asked him about another classmate who had insinuated that they were going to go out, I asked him and he said well just for coffee. In few words he got cold feet, and from his point of view I can understand it, had similar feelings in the start as I thought he came on too fast. I was just so odd in 5 hours he went from it suck you cant be here and snuggle with me to cold feet. We live across the atlantic just to mention it. Well I got hurt had a small amount of text terrorism.(no cool I know) just for about 15 min, then realized I was out of control and cut all connections. I internalized and realized that yes I was starting to be someone I could not recognize. I am not jealous or controlling at all. What I realized that I had emotionally been so far down and was not ever aware of it, hence the erratic behavior was really more an need for some cheering up from a person that made you feel good. I cut him off Myspace and off my skype the same day which is 3 days ago, because he felt I watched him and would give him some space. I explained everything in a mail, not in a you are the love of my life kind of thing but in a more observing kind of way. Did not hear a thing. Since I did the break I emailed 3 days after, saying I could understand his feelings and that I would have run away from myself too. That I could not change what he felt for me, that I was feeling great as I felt I had come back from so deep there is only one way and that is up. Said he could mail as a friend or not did only have positive thought about him.
Well I spoke with the class mate he said only was for coffee, turned out he had tried the same thing with her as me, same lines came on strong with her too. We all know he can’t be one of David’s boys.
Well my intentions in life is not to sit here and cry for my self. But that is where I choose to focus on the positive things. I got a chance to see that at some point I can move on and enjoy another man. How great is that, he gave me a gift and that is the way I am looking at the whole thing. I got a chance of working on emotions that were very important for me being able to move on from my husbands death. I don’t have negative thoughts for him not worth it as he really is the one with the problem here. So I am surrounding me with positive energy and as I mailed him I just wish him the best. Powerful thing to be able to see the same things two ways and choose the positive one. Well besides it landed me here as I realized that when I am ready to date again, there are some things I happily forgot about men, but some new ones I have read here.
Well my dog Murphy is My good child now he wants some petting and walk. Sleep well and enjoy another beautiful morning and don’t beat you off if you get off track once in a while. Sometimes it happens for a reason. Remember it’s your life you are in charge of your self You Make The Choice about how you want to be as a person. Darn starting to bore myself, but feels good to write.
Sorry David I should have broken it up you would have reached 300 by then. Everyone embrace life it’s a beautiful thing.
I have four cats which are my mothers there is one that is shy and I finally got my kitty pet in but there is this one cat I call scardie cat he runs away when it is feeding time and meows a lot.
Good evening everyone,
For those of you who don’t know who I am….my name is Steven Kaufman. I am a frequent reader of the blog and participant at times. I know these last few months I haven’t been active as I would like….the adage is true, life is what happens when you make other plans.
This blog captured my attention because of the resolutions. To be honest, it’s amazing anyone even makes them anymore. I used to believe in making them…and like most people, I’ve already given up on all of them.
In some ways, it is very ironic that I have a good attitude about something I can’t control, rather than a bad attitude over something I can. Many of you may not be aware of this, but I have a stuttering problem (speech impediment). It’s never stopped me from doing anything I wanted to do. In fact, I can say emphatically a speech impediment saved my life. For such a long time I felt broken, just like how Amy Lee and Seether spoke. I was all alone…kept to myself. Went to the movies by myself, dinner by myself, I was anonymous as the next car driver in a traffic lane. I went to my room, tried to slit my wrists…and thought that was the quickest way to go. After a dark hour in my life, I got involved with the National Stuttering Association, which I am convinced saved my life. Not only am I a chapter leader, but I also won the Volunteer of the Year Award in 2008, and for the first time, saw how far I can go. But I’m human. I hurt like everyone else hurts, I feel like everyone else feels.
Unfortunately, what frustrates me more than anything is that every year on New Year’s Eve…I told myself this would be the year. This would be the year I tried to fall in love. Well, forget falling in love…this would be the year I wanted to kiss a woman and have it mean something. Those out there in serious relationships know what I am talking about and describing well. It’s that kiss between a man and a woman where you know it’s right..where you feel kinetic energy entering her soul, and vice versa. If you’re lucky, maybe you find that woman once..maybe twice in your lifetime.
I figured I’d take a chance and try something new. I bought the “Finding the One Online” by Evan Marc Katz. (David, I know you may be reading this…please understand that I had wanted to try your dating coaching, it’s just that I struggle with Asperger’s and often am “lost in translation” in the dating fame. Personally, my therapist thinks all dating coaches are out to make a profit. I’m realistic, you are paying for advice and counsel, just like a client pays for legal services rendered. I was so disappointed and let down. When I called for a refund, his assistant asked me what I didn’t like about it, and even offered me a free consultation. I explained that I stutter, and therefore have to play by a different set of rules in the dating arena.
People often say that you have to love yourself before you can really enter into a relationship. I’ll be 31 in April and while I am in no rush to get married, I do want to actively date. (Of course, having a job helps LOL). I live in the suburbs of New York City, not only the greatest city, but the most demanding for singles as well. It took me a long time to realize that my stutter doesn’t have to define me, yet in the social arena it does. Some of you may be thinking, “Well, what about this NSA convention? There must be so many single women there!” And you’re right, there are. But I have no desire to do long-distance relationships. And sometimes being 30 feels like purgatory-stuck between the girls in college bars, and the women who want the family.
I guess my resolution is to try and accept that I am OK. I have my blog that keeps me happy. I write at http://stevenonstuttering.blogspot.com, feel free to check it out. Shameless plug, I know. But in some way, just maybe I feel like the luckiest man alive. When I accepted my award, I spoke about how fateful day at Yankee Stadium turned out to be historical. On July 4, 1939, Lou Gehrig spoke to a sellout crowd, that he was retiring because of a fatal disease, later termed ALS. He said, “I’ve been given a bad break, but I have so much to live for. Today I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of the earth.” Maybe, just maybe, that applies to me in ways I can never fully realize.
Thank you for reading my post, and for your consideration.
Respectfully yours,
Steven Kaufman
Life is what we make of it good or bad. Sometimes it is hard to get over someone who is deceased. It took me almost two years to get over the death of my brother. But life must go on until we meet again. Looking back on it what would I change? There were be several things I would change–have two healthy brothers and a lot of nieces and nephews to chase around and help to take care of. And some marriages that would not b. Then I would end up with two girls with my same last name.
I recently heard something that I decided to do this year: Every day wake up and say out loud…’something good is going to happen today’…which, I imagine, sets the stage for being open to all the good that can possibly happen. The idea is that if you live a life of faith (that good will happen) and positive expectancy (that good will happen), guess what? Good will happen. Not only that, but I find that there is so much good that I never even saw before. Awareness is a wonderful thing! There is my contribution to David’s expectation of 300 good blogs!
How do you guys get your photo up by your name?
David How would we get our photo up by our name where do we find the upload the pic on this blog?
Elle I wonder if there is an upload that we don’t know about.
Apparently, Sandra, there is quite a lot I don’t know about! LOL Always interested in learning though!
I think I did it…this is only a test and maybe shouldn’t count as one of the magical 300…
Dammit!
Elle
I agree life is a learning tool in itself.
Elle
What did u do step on ur own toes. lol
Elle
Do you know about HTML’s that is what this blog is on. I used to do them and they are fun. Did you know I can go in and view David’s page source.
I wanted to comment on Mike saying he changed from a negative to a positive outlook. That’s fabulous. I don’t know many people who could say the same. Life really is what you make it. There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.
I don’t do resolutions or themes. I try to pick one thing to work on in 3 different areas: mental, physical and spiritual. (although, after begining to read this blog, my ideas for what I want to work on “physically” have started to change. Marina, how did your self study go?
Hmm… or is that more spiritual???
But, that being said, David I think all of your themes are critically important to leading a happy life. Enjoy what you are, where you are currently, all while trying to improve where you can. And trust that all will work out the way it is meant to in the end.
Amen, Joy!
That is one thing I am guilty of, I want to improve every area of my life. But I have 5 major theme that I broke down in tiny steps I can do everyday.
From what I got from this post it would be better to focus on one at a time? I can see where your coming from because I am not a multitasker yet. I need to focus on one thing or person at a time. But what if one of my theme was to be in super physical health and another to become a great Leader. Couldn’t I use my small daily discipline to accomplish everything? While focusing on one at a time.
I like your theme’s of being in the moment and It will added to my list of eventual goals. Man sooo many things to concentrate on! hehe , since I started this journey to change my life I feel like a kid in a candy store.
I am gratefull for David and this community of winners.
Vince
Sandra and Elle,
go to the following website and sign up to get your pic next to your name.
http://en.gravatar.com/site/signup
This year I want to do the following:
-a 3some
-visit Power Exchange and f**k away:-)
-finish the whole indoor soccer season and not be sore the morning after each game night
-keep my clients and try to add one or two more in this challenging investment environment
-travel to Asia and Europe (trips already booked)
-replenish my portfolio by increasing investing amounts (to take advantage of the eventual turnaround)
-try to live in the moment (getting better at this)
-multitask LESS (David: you should read the latest research on this topic….us multitaskers are BSinou ourselves that we can do many things WELL…we can’t! Very interesting reading)
The first two are on track to happen in Las Vegas soon:-) and working on everything else too:-)
Vince,
I think whatever works for you, as long as its working, works! To focus on one thing, like your health, cannot but help in other areas of your life. I think you can use your small daily discipline to accomplish your goals. Being in the moment is great, but what do you guys think about being in the moment while planning for your future? Can you do both? Does one facilitate the other?
I am grateful for you!
Candy anyone?
Dan
I can bring home the bacon (professionally very well), fry it up in a pan (deliciously well), and never never never let you forget you’re a man (increasingly well)…how’s that for multitasking? LOL
It’s funny how people want to do a whole bunch of things at once, especially New Years. They want to do everything cold turkey. Willpower alone does not work. Taking one thing at a time does seem like a sensible approach, and remembering what one of my old martial arts teachers told me, “Anytime is a good time to start new resolutions.”
Dave
I don’t have a lot of time today to read everyone’s posts but I will be back to read later! I do want to comment on the blog. I am so blown away by this topic! I try to focus on one thing each day also and really digest the meaning and try to see how I can implement it into my life. Usually it is some knowledge or some thought that comes that I would like to do something for somebody.
I have recently had a theme of “getting outta my head.” I have been doing better at that! I think my theme for this year or the next few months is to process faster and say what needs to be said at the given moment. Right now I process at a two day rate and then think of what I should have said and exactly how to say it. I want to improve on that and be able to help people when they come to me. I get people asking for advice or needing a listening ear all of the time even if I just met them! I love it and want to help people as they come, but am working on processing faster so I can help at every opportunity I can.
I also need to incorporate the waiting on the universe theme right now!!!!!!! I actually think that if I apply that theme first then I will be more focused to be able to process faster instead of rushing to accomplish the task. I realize I have totally been suffocating the energy and I knew it! I just didn’t know what else to do! Thank you David — I can wait on what will unfold and be perfectly content in the meantime as I work on myself.
David I am accomplishing my themes and goals each day and your blog, enthusiasm, and teaching has definitely had a part in that!
David
Look at ur previous blog about friends to boyfriends I believe we did over 300+
True, It seems to work up till now but maybe a new strategy would work better.
And yes I’ll have some of your candy Elle
. by the way, you probably know but your name means ”woman” in French. A professional woman who can fry up some bacon mmm my kind of girl
Love this blog! Carpe Diem…seize the day. That is what I live by. Life is too short to worry about what might or might not come so it’s important to live in the moment and be grateful for what you have. It’s amazing what you can accomplish and what you can attract when you really put your mind to it. Or…in David’s case the 6 things he can do at once. “The Secret” has something to it….
I think the secret is that David has 6 hands, no wonder the women get addicted to him:)
how many comments are here so far-did we hit close to 300 yet.?
I like the theme idea that D mentioned, something i never tried before.
My theme until end of Jan. is habit.
Next month, I have to think of something.
Really like the theme idea D. It makes goal setting easy and its very useful!
Great blog today!!
The Japanese have this special Daruma doll, which is a symbol of good luck and protection At the start of an endeavor/goal, one eye is painted and a wish is made for good luck. The other eye is painted when the goal is reached. You then put the doll up somewhere you look at it all the time. I have used similar tecniques too cheap to buy a Doll, but the doll is great for mayor goals.
On a paper I make a happy face with only one eye, I write what I want to achieve on it and put it in my purse. This way I glance at it once in a while and if I have lost track of my real goals, these little notes reminds me. Great you got up to 300 on the other blog. Good going girls
Hey David,
I’ve been following your blog for months (I stumbled on your website after seeing your articles in Yahoo!)
And I gotta say this is a great read. I can’t say this is one, but really a great read because I find all your articles worth reading
Hahaha I laughed at your comment about New Year’s Resolutions. You summed it up pretty well: “crock of shit” Felt the same way.
I think the one thing I will concentrate is working out. You’re right, I concentrate too much on too many things. But i’ll try doing one thing at a time.
My theme will be the same as yours: Loving every moment of life. So I’d like to enjoy life better by having a better health. I do that, and I’ll be able to lots of other things: mountain climbing, tumbling, free running, etc. But i’ll focus on working out first.
Thanks for the topic!
That Theme thing is so interesting!! Im really happy that I read this topic =) thanks
Great responses and great stories from everyone here!
Marina, I have a gold plated Daruma doll on my desk from my time in Japan. I don’t paint in the eye with actual paint, but I visualize it instead. That lets me keep on using his shiny gold head to keep bringing new and wonderful things to my life. So when my wish comes true, I visualize the other being painted in and then I can start again without ruining a great piece of art.
After writing about my smalls wins yesterday I went about my day and a new opportunity came up where I might get to write a new script or book about a very trendy in the moment fashion designer. If I said the name I can guarantee you that if you follow fashion you will have heard of him. What’s great is that my current job is telling great storeis about a person’s life and before that I wrote a great (sadly unpublished) book about another famous fashion designer. So I feel confident that when I get the meeting I will get the job. What a great day! And I’m excited to see what today is going to bring.
Mike
Marina,
Thank you for sharing your story. I would like to say I can relate but I haven’t lost someone in the same sense that you have, so I can only offer my condolences. Don’t worry about fake guys like that. I’m a bit of a friends drifter, meanig that I will be friends with someone for a while, lose touch, then miraculously start reconnecting with people months, and often years later. What I have found is that the friends who still care about you will go through a lot of questions to find out about how you are first.
To build a great connection though, you have to realize that you are both part of each other’s past and that to move forward together you need to start with something new and exciting. If you live in the past, that’s where it will stay.
I hope it all works out for you. We’re not all users like that guy. And finding your other friend who also had the same experience with this guy was probably just what you needed to remind you that your instincts were right. Its a rush at first but when you stop and think about it where you really all that excited about the guy, or where you excited to have a little bit of your past recovered and remembered?
Just my thoughts.
I love the expression “text terrorism”. I’m guilty of a few of those.
Mike
Mike,
thanks for taking the time, writing these things wether anyone reads them or not, it’s just is another way of working them through your system and letting them go. Life is beautiful, I have 3 great kids and people that loves me, it does not get better than that.
Marina
Marina,
I did the same thing on yesterday’s post. Good to just let it out I agree.
David,
Getting back to the 1 thing at a time, trying to find out if this is another gimmick site, seems not more genuine feedback here but then you read on of you succes stories. I know multitasking but as a woman this is pickup artist nonsense. Personally I would not have that a succes story if I were trying to really help at a deeper level which I think you are trying to do. Not meant as a critique more as an observation.
3 Girls Are Falling for Me!”
Dave, I can’t thank you enough. Using what you taught me, plus a little help from an online dating service, I have 3 girls in NJ that are falling for me, one up in New York State, and one up at William Paterson that invited me to dinner this Thursday! KA-CHING! I knew what you discussed would pay off hundredfold. I don’t know where I’d be without your help, Dave. I really don’t.
Just thought I’d keep you up to date on my progress thanks largely to you and your incredible book and coaching audio.
I was that guy in the audio now I am a David Wygant man.
Brett, Georgia
Thanks Vince! You made my day!
Elle
My theme – embrace the unexpected and enjoy the journey! I don’t make new year resolutions, they don’t work for me.
Elia — I like your take action theme! I was thinking about that today! I am going to implement that one also especially in the area of work and finding the career that I want and would love to do! I actually think I already know what that is. I need to work towards it and slow down to let time pass for things to come — not be so hurried all the time to see results. Good luck everyone on your themes!
My theme for this year will be to not allow those self-important management pricks that I have mentioned in previous entries to thwart, end-run, distract, or otherwise sabotage my contributions to the business that others have very pointedly requested from me. My brother helped me form a new plan to manage their game and it has helped immensely already, as has some of the advice that people here have given each other. Thanks to you all.
And Mike – your entries on this day’s blog seem to be from a guy who is on top of his game and really feeling it. Congrats to you.
Gabrielle, this is sooo off topic, but I’ve been trying to find out how to upload my pic to these blogs, and I noticed that you are one of the only ones who have done this without being a coach…can you enlighten me as to the process? I so appreciate it!
Trusting the universe!? Wow, I’m so happy to hear someone else actually repeating my thoughts. Go ahead, try and control everything in your life and most likely you will find yourself disappointed…If you let things happen as they will, you can truly enjoy the surprises. Life gives us gifts every day, and I think way too many people are living in a coma, and don’t even realize it. The first thing I thank the universe for…I’m ALIVE! Not just physically, but mentally. I’m alive. What more can you ask for?
Marina,
One of the reasons David is really effective as a coach and mentor is that he works with everyone individually to find what is right for them and what they are looking to experience in their own lives. The testimonial you quoted is a very good example. Some guys, especially ones who are low on the amount of relationships they have, suddenly finding themselves being a person who can attract other people is very empowering. I bet the guy in the quote was excited to see that he didn’t have to pine for one at a time and wanted to share that with David. It’s not meant to discourage women, its meant to show guys that if you were having trouble finding one date at a time before, you can change, and you can be the guy who is dating more than one woman if you want to be.
K, thanks. I often feel on top of my game but I still have some work to do. There are some fundamentals that I am literally clueless about.
M,
No I am aware that everyone has their goals, and you if are a player fine just play with the cards open, going both ways no just towards men. The comment in regards to the guys testimonial about dating 3 girls, was more something that struck me as odd as David and his crew actually appears to take a more healthy approach to this whole pickup/dating scene. This is the kind of testimonials I would expect a player coach to brag about. Then again why do I care, maybe I lost track of myself yesterday and cared about things that has nothing to do with me.
Share those fundamentals you are literally clueless about if you ever have the time or interest.
I would share but they are carefully stored away behind a huge trust barrier. Keep reading, I might break it and write it on one of the posts some day.
David helps all kinds of guys and I can almost guarantee you without knowing any of David’s clients that there are people who tip the scale even more when it comes to how many people they choose to date.
I think the ones that stick around after they’ve gotten advice are the guys like Khiem and Yakub who not only respect and believe in what David teaches, but they emmulate him in their own way.
By nature a player isn’t going to show you his whole hand any more than a professional poker player would show you his cards. The game is part of the fun for them. You just have to ask yourself how many times are you going to let them bluff you before you call them out on it. Also, on a side note, the best poker players are the ones who play the game and not the players.
Also, when a woman plays the game, they tend to go after money and status. Guys just go after one thing when they play their game. Which is worse?
last comment today, starting to spend too much time in here. As long as the man or women play the game fair and not outright lies about what their intentions are, they can play any game they want toally up to. There are men too that goes after money and status and women that just goes after sex.
It comes down to 1 thing be honest about yourself and what you wish to accomplish.
M
Sorry don’t mean to bother you but are addressing it to you because you actually responded on my story.
I guess it boils down to having doubts of my own instinct, which I am beginning to se is really the issue here. Don’t care of the old guy and know there are plenty great ones out there. My instinct tells me David is real but doubting everything as this whole issue with the old friend have left me very doubtful if my instinct are there anymore. I have always had great instinct in everything, gut feeling sixth sence or what ever you might call it. So I guess I have to make it a priority to make my theme this month or how long it takes to get back in contact with my inner instict. Just not sure where to begin right now, but being I will have to.
Darn I am getting way out there. Sweet thoughts to everyone.
For anyone who wants to upload their pics to the site, you need to register on http://www.gravatar.com and upload your pic there. Once you do so, it will show up on here.
I don’t believe in making resolutions either. My thoughts for the New Year were to continue living my life in a positive manner and taking care of myself physically and emotionally. I’ve also adopted the thought to be thankful for what I have and not worry about what I don’t have in other words appreciation. If you feel good physically and emotionally and appreciate what you do have everything else is the cherry on top.
Coach Yakub
thanks a bunch I saved in David Wygant’s file on my computer in email. Thanks a bunch.
get insightful blog about focuse on 1 theme or goal @ a time its fun that way you dont get burned out I learned alot from Brian Tracy Success MOTIVATION Mentor I believe what you call the power of the Universe is the God given potential The difference between you & alot of other dating gurus & puas is you have a outlook our life in general not just about women but, how to live life to the fullest and giving people courage to look inside themselves living by example about finding balance ( some of the dating gurus head is coming out of their shoulders but, its good to have Excellant smart intelligent
Dating Romantic master & success coaches like the guy who made this blog lol
David, I really want to thank you for this article. Being patient and having faith that all will work out are HUGE weaknesses of mine. I suffer from an anxiety problem and constantly worry about what the future holds. I end up SO miserable as a result. The anxiety itself prevents what I want from happening (in areas like dating or career). I really need to go forth without trying to force things. In fact, many dating relationships my friends have entered into were not long-sought after but happened naturally, without taking the hunter’s approach. I read the article earlier this year and resolved to do what you resolved to do in 2004. I forgot about it as I often do, so reading this article again was a great reminder. I wish I had time to go into greater detail, so I’ll just end by saying thanks again and I’ll look at more articles.