Comments on: My Infamous Orgasm http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 23:01:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Martin http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-41636 Martin Thu, 08 Jul 2010 14:12:14 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-41636 Talking straight about this kind of stuff is fucking awkward, at least for me. I have no problem doing it with women that I feel really comfortable with, but if it is with someone i recently met... I dunno, I get really self-conscious. I'ts true though, you gotta be who you be, genital warts and all ;) Great post David! Talking straight about this kind of stuff is fucking awkward, at least for me. I have no problem doing it with women that I feel really comfortable with, but if it is with someone i recently met… I dunno, I get really self-conscious. I’ts true though, you gotta be who you be, genital warts and all ;) Great post David!

]]> By: Bob http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39207 Bob Sat, 20 Mar 2010 05:36:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39207 Great advice! Also, each persons sex drive can vary greatly. I have found that almost all women I have dated, had a greater sex drive than I did, even though when we did "connect" it was great on every level. So, that is as big a factor as just meshing and fitting togther as a couple. Great advice! Also, each persons sex drive can vary greatly. I have found that almost all women I have dated, had a greater sex drive than I did, even though when we did “connect” it was great on every level. So, that is as big a factor as just meshing and fitting togther as a couple.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39135 Anonymous Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:12:29 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39135 Hi Khiem, No I haven't read that book, but I have read another very informative book on the subject : I (heart) female orgasm by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, two sex educators who specialize in teaching about the female orgasm itself. And you're absolutely right, quite often when women are unable to have an orgasm altogether it is because of some deeper rooted issue or because of improper education, i.e. they grew up with the notion that masturbation was taboo so they never explored themselves sexually. There are tons of reasons. But my point is, there are A LOT of women out there in these situations (the mere fact that there are sex educators out there who specialize in the subject of the female orgasm is an indication, if any), and for those of them who finally DO overcome their issues and reach orgasm, whether it's with a vibrator or with a partner, it is no small deal. Which is why I had an issue with that bit of DW's post. That doesn't mean he doesn't make a valid point in the rest of his message. Just my two cents. Hi Khiem,

No I haven’t read that book, but I have read another very informative book on the subject : I (heart) female orgasm by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, two sex educators who specialize in teaching about the female orgasm itself. And you’re absolutely right, quite often when women are unable to have an orgasm altogether it is because of some deeper rooted issue or because of improper education, i.e. they grew up with the notion that masturbation was taboo so they never explored themselves sexually. There are tons of reasons. But my point is, there are A LOT of women out there in these situations (the mere fact that there are sex educators out there who specialize in the subject of the female orgasm is an indication, if any), and for those of them who finally DO overcome their issues and reach orgasm, whether it’s with a vibrator or with a partner, it is no small deal. Which is why I had an issue with that bit of DW’s post. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t make a valid point in the rest of his message.

Just my two cents.

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39132 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Thu, 18 Mar 2010 01:49:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39132 Cece, Have you read "Passionate Marriage" by David Schnarch? He's also a sex/marriage therapist... and from that book, I would assume that women who have trouble having orgasms are actually having troubles because of their psychological/emotional understanding of sex. They probably have a mental/emotional barrier that they haven't overcome yet. It has very little to do with the physical stimulation of a vibrator or not. Cece,

Have you read “Passionate Marriage” by David Schnarch? He’s also a sex/marriage therapist… and from that book, I would assume that women who have trouble having orgasms are actually having troubles because of their psychological/emotional understanding of sex. They probably have a mental/emotional barrier that they haven’t overcome yet.

It has very little to do with the physical stimulation of a vibrator or not.

]]> By: CeCe http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39131 CeCe Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:51:13 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39131 David I totally get your point, but the following struck a bad nerve with me: "It doesn’t take much skill to plug a vibrator into the wall, put it on your clit and fifteen seconds later scream “Ohhhhhh!” as you come. Bravo! Let me give you a standing ovation." Talk to any good sex therapist out there and they will tell you there are thousands of women out there who have trouble having orgasms, even on their own. That figure is even bigger when it comes to partnered sex. Be careful with statements like these, some women could find them really insulting. As for defining how you are sexually before entering a relationship, this is easier said than done for some people. What if your previous partners or your previous relationships never allowed you to explore your sexuality in a way that was really satisfying to you? David I totally get your point, but the following struck a bad nerve with me: “It doesn’t take much skill to plug a vibrator into the wall, put it on your clit and fifteen seconds later scream “Ohhhhhh!” as you come. Bravo! Let me give you a standing ovation.”

Talk to any good sex therapist out there and they will tell you there are thousands of women out there who have trouble having orgasms, even on their own. That figure is even bigger when it comes to partnered sex. Be careful with statements like these, some women could find them really insulting.

As for defining how you are sexually before entering a relationship, this is easier said than done for some people. What if your previous partners or your previous relationships never allowed you to explore your sexuality in a way that was really satisfying to you?

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39129 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:16:45 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39129 It's so funny... but I just had a talk with my g/f to be more creative. I love the spontaneous kind of sex... no matter where or how... and she was always so.... averse to spontaneous heat amping acts.... but boy oh boy did she surprise me yesterday :P So it's true... we all have different ways of enjoying sex. The question is: do you guys have a good enough relationship to grow in that department together too? It’s so funny… but I just had a talk with my g/f to be more creative. I love the spontaneous kind of sex… no matter where or how… and she was always so…. averse to spontaneous heat amping acts…. but boy oh boy did she surprise me yesterday :P

So it’s true… we all have different ways of enjoying sex. The question is: do you guys have a good enough relationship to grow in that department together too?

]]> By: Julia http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39128 Julia Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:49:26 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39128 Coach Kimberly: Thanks! Its the little things that makes the big difference. I think people really need to listen to each other to fully understand each others desires. It doesn't take a lot of money or lot of thought process to show him/her that you care. It all takes genuine interest in the other person. Coach Kimberly: Thanks! Its the little things that makes the big difference. I think people really need to listen to each other to fully understand each others desires. It doesn’t take a lot of money or lot of thought process to show him/her that you care. It all takes genuine interest in the other person.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39127 Anonymous Wed, 17 Mar 2010 15:08:33 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39127 I can see how it can get tough down the road if we are not straight about the relationship. I can see how it can get tough down the road if we are not straight about the relationship.

]]> By: Coach Kimberly http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39123 Coach Kimberly Wed, 17 Mar 2010 06:35:13 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39123 Julia--well put! What do you suggest to people ways to support your lover? Paying attention to that is extremely important.. Julia–well put! What do you suggest to people ways to support your lover? Paying attention to that is extremely important..

]]> By: yours howe http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/my-infamous-orgasm/3581/#comment-39122 yours howe Wed, 17 Mar 2010 04:32:49 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=3581#comment-39122 Collin- you and i think alike man:) Collin- you and i think alike man:)

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