Multitasking
March 15, 2010 
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Multi-orgasmic. Multi-partners. Multitasking. Which “multi” do you think will make you more successful in life?
Now, granted, being multiorgasmic might feel the best. Being able to multitask, however, is something all of us try to do. A lot of people aren’t very good at it.
How many times have you been on the phone with someone, and you can hear them typing in the background. You say “I just chopped off my balls the other day,” to which they respond “Uh-huh.” You know at that point they aren’t really listening to you.
You say to them, “Are you doing something else?” They will always answer, “Yes, but I’m hearing every word you say. I’m multitasking.” You will think, “Really?! I just told you I my balls got cut off and all you said was ‘uh-huh’.”
I always say that the only way to be successful — whether it’s at meeting women or in business or whatever — is to focus on something 110% until it’s completed.
Here is how you can tell whether you are able to multitask. Are you someone who has twelve things on your “to do” list at the beginning of the day and still have eleven things on it at the end of the day because everything is halfway finished? If that is the case, then you are not good at multitasking.
When I go and I talk to people, especially when I coach guys about dating, I always tell them to get good at one thing at a time. Get good at one kind of approach or skill and master it. Then once you’ve mastered that, learn another skill to add to your repertoire.
Everyone always wants to multitask. The reality, however, is that most of us aren’t good at it yet.
Learn how to do one thing right at a time. Once you can do several thing great, then you think about multitasking.
You can thank Coach Jacob for this wonderful blog, because every time he tries to multitask I tell him to focus on one thing at a time. Learn to do that, and you’ll be far more powerful in everything you do.
I am with Jacob on that one, i try to do to many things all at once, and i don’t really get a lot done.
Great blog on multitasking!!!!
Thank you Coach Jacob:) Its nice to see that you make mistakes too, and not perfect like i’ve imagined in the past. I guess I gotta be easy on myself more, because I am trying to chase perfection everyday.
oh that makes a huge difference David to just slow down and do one thing at a time.
Jacob-so do you now just do one thing at a time or still trying to multi task:)
I am not sure about this. Don’t you guys think that some people are just natural born multitasker and others need to learn it?
hmmmmm I’m totally saving this blog to the hard drive. I wish it came with a audio. Sorry David, i know i’m always asking for more for free:)
without the right focus forget success
howe
Great to hear i’m not the only one:)
What are you multi-tasking?
Clint
You’re very welcome:)
I’m not perfect I make mistakes just like any of you, but I never try to repeat the same mistakes over again.
Yes you gotta be more easy on yourself. I feel like you’re not really accepting yourself.
Tantra
Who doesn’t love more free stuff. I’m sure you will get a great audio in the Wednesday blog.
What’s your favorite podcast?
Anonymous
Focus is a key to success very true i’m learning that.
So great to see you and David in NYC. That seminar was the most amazing seminar I have ever been to in my whole life, and already met some cute girls:)
And by the way Adam was amazing!
Jacob: Exactly who doesn’t love free stuff:) But i think sometimes i ask for too much from David. I have so many favorite podcast from David its hard to pinpoint just one. I love the podcast that talks a lot about self love.
Jimmy-
Yes it was really fun meeting you in person!!!
I am so glad that you put it all to practice. I remember in the end of the seminar you wouldn’t shutup so high energy:)
hahhahahah i still can’t shut up and my friends kept on asking me today why i am so happy and they think i am on the happy pills lol
Jimmy= long time no chat sounds like you had a hell of a good time buddy.
I guess the same principles applies when we are trying to master having great sex.
I think our todays society is to blame for this multitasking thing, everyone wants to save time by doing a lot of things all at once.
Thanks CJ!
Dave- not sure about your question, i wonder what everyone else have to say about this.
I think we have computers to multitask for us… but we should just learn to focus and appreciate one thing at a time.
Don’t you hate it when you are in the middle of sex… and you or your partner get a phone call?
Do you really want your partner to go… “baby don’t worry, I’ll just take this call while I’m fucking you. I’m a great multi-tasker!”
Khiem:: i really hate taking phone calls during sex, so i always make sure i turn the phone off before sex.
Khiem- were you always a great multi-tasker or this is something you trained yourself?
Do you even try to tolerate a partner who gets distracted during sex? If it happens two or three times, I would tell her that she either likes me well enough to focus on me or she doesn’t, and if she doesn’t, then it’s time for her to find a new sex partner.
To be honest, I’m a terrible multi-tasker. I can multitask if all the tasks relate to working ON the computer.
If you ask me to do more than one thing at a time that are of different nature, I just do them one at a time.
Very applicable you read my train of thought in todays blog.
Khiem:: I agree that personal pc makes the job a lot easier. I sometimes hate being on the computer because it puts lot of pressure on my eyes and back.
I also like to do one thing at a time for now until I master it all.
Rick–Slowing down and focusing on one thing at a time is so important I agree..especially in this frenetic tech world where we have access to so many things at once. Definitely apply this to dating..focus on the one you are with!!
instant messenger, and other programs alike, fuck up your brain, because they force you to multitask…
I’m with CoachKimberly… while it’s great to show that you can handle information overload, it’s undoubtedly far more important for a guy to show focus on his lady. It’s the ultimate flattery!
Annonymous
If your partner gets distracted during you need to find out why.
Do not be afraid to ask the tough questions.
This describes part of my life. I always try to multitask. Even in dating. I try to do sooo many things at one time. I never focus on one thing. I think that by doing multiple half-ass tasks I will get better but I won’t. I have to not settle for mediocracy. In everything I do, mediocracy is what I get. I don’t know if its in my roots or thats the way I was brought up, who knows. I know that I have the power to change whatever I don’t like from my life, but I wont do it.
In order for me to do something I have to get pushed or pressured. It’s the only way I can ever do anything, in life and in dating.
By multitasking I’ve realized that I do terrible stuff and I usually don’t get the results that I’m looking for. By doing one thing at a time I’ve found out that you master that one thing. Once you do that you are ready to move on to the next one. But you already got one down.
It’s funny I know how to do it, but I don’t. I know what I have to do, and I have the resources to do it, but I don’t.
without more,
mario
Coach Kimberly- thank you i’m totally applying it, and i already find it very helpful.
I do one thing at a time, but this is a great blog.
Whoa, I didn’t know Coach Jacob does it… but hey, it’s not big deal. We all make mistakes. We’re just human, people, etc… accepting who we are and improving for better.
But you’re right David.. doing one thing at a time makes for better results. Now it pisses me off sometimes why everytime I explain to people that I do one thing at a time, they always give me the stink-eye and telling me YOU SHOULD multi-task. I just rub it off.
But I did multi-task in the past, and it never got me anywhere. Now, it feels better to do one thing at a time. Keeps my head clear
Thanks! I know it’s not an easy request but when it comes to dating…please give me a list of things you need to learn one at a time to get good at this. Let me start:
1.Self love
2.Be observant of your soroundings.
3.?
4.?
Maybe this will be useful to others too. Mike