Comments on: Mr. Humble http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:15:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31977 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:11:05 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31977 Guys guys guys, this blog has nothing to do with attraction but everything to do with... "don't be the sales guy" Ed, you don't want to make the girl THINK you are smart and confident. You want her to discover for herself that you are. You aren't here to impress the girl. You are here to show her how much you love your life, how comfortable you are with yourself and from that, she'll figure out you are smart and confident. It's a lot more powerful when you are the things you want her to know about you.. and she finds out for herself. Katherine, there's nothing wrong with asking questions. And I don't believe David is telling you to be the strong silent type... but to know when to shut up ... and when to talk. Guys guys guys, this blog has nothing to do with attraction but everything to do with… “don’t be the sales guy”

Ed, you don’t want to make the girl THINK you are smart and confident. You want her to discover for herself that you are. You aren’t here to impress the girl. You are here to show her how much you love your life, how comfortable you are with yourself and from that, she’ll figure out you are smart and confident.

It’s a lot more powerful when you are the things you want her to know about you.. and she finds out for herself.

Katherine, there’s nothing wrong with asking questions. And I don’t believe David is telling you to be the strong silent type… but to know when to shut up … and when to talk.

]]> By: Miguel http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31966 Miguel Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:20:40 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31966 Great post David. I've been Mr. Humble before. I've practically done and said things I never actually done in my life to people who experience things beyond my own comfort zone. But I slowly learn to just shut the hell up and listen. But I still have that annoying tendency to go Mr. Humble sometimes, but I am aware of it and I take note of it. Great post David. I’ve been Mr. Humble before. I’ve practically done and said things I never actually done in my life to people who experience things beyond my own comfort zone. But I slowly learn to just shut the hell up and listen. But I still have that annoying tendency to go Mr. Humble sometimes, but I am aware of it and I take note of it.

]]> By: Rhonda Cort http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31964 Rhonda Cort Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:14:57 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31964 Thanks for posting this David! Having dated men of various nationalities, races and levels of awareness, the "Mr. Humble" syndrome boils down to two main reasons: 1) The men were uncomfortable in the social setting or with their lack of knowledge of the topic at hand. Genuinely wanting to fit in, they fervently and awkwardly attempted to "join the conversation". 2) On the other hand... They were know-it-alls just trying to show off as though it were a competition. Period. I had this nasty habit when I was a 10 years old (caused by reason #2). It also followed me on a few dates as a teenager (I was a nervous wreck who felt the need to fill every lull with words--reason #1). Luckily, I learned the power of listening and grew out of it :-) David, I would go as far as to say that one should aim for the 80/20 Principle and listen even more. That way people will notice how LITTLE they are saying and have to ASK their opinion. A much classier route that works for me. Rhonda Cort Thanks for posting this David! Having dated men of various nationalities, races and levels of awareness, the “Mr. Humble” syndrome boils down to two main reasons:

1) The men were uncomfortable in the social setting or with their lack of knowledge of the topic at hand. Genuinely wanting to fit in, they fervently and awkwardly attempted to “join the conversation”.

2) On the other hand… They were know-it-alls just trying to show off as though it were a competition. Period.

I had this nasty habit when I was a 10 years old (caused by reason #2). It also followed me on a few dates as a teenager (I was a nervous wreck who felt the need to fill every lull with words–reason #1). Luckily, I learned the power of listening and grew out of it :-)

David, I would go as far as to say that one should aim for the 80/20 Principle and listen even more. That way people will notice how LITTLE they are saying and have to ASK their opinion. A much classier route that works for me.

Rhonda Cort

]]> By: Tom http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31917 Tom Sun, 27 Sep 2009 18:42:15 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31917 Great blog David!! Great blog David!!

]]> By: Melanie http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31911 Melanie Sun, 27 Sep 2009 04:37:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31911 david, i have mixed feelings about this blog from the perspective of what would make a guy attractive to me. if i was out with a guy and he acted like he knew everything and ran his mouth about things he didn't know squat about -- then yeah, i'm SO not attracted to him. but if i am out with a guy who just isn't social and who can't "mix and mingle" with people, then i gotta tell ya that that doesn't make me feel very attracted to him either. hmmmmmmmmmm..... david, i have mixed feelings about this blog from the perspective of what would make a guy attractive to me.

if i was out with a guy and he acted like he knew everything and ran his mouth about things he didn’t know squat about — then yeah, i’m SO not attracted to him.

but if i am out with a guy who just isn’t social and who can’t “mix and mingle” with people, then i gotta tell ya that that doesn’t make me feel very attracted to him either.

hmmmmmmmmmm…..

]]> By: Stefan http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31910 Stefan Sun, 27 Sep 2009 04:33:57 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31910 Matt, Can't a wise listener ever speak too? :) David, the "Mr. Humble" you describe in this blog I actually was WITH last night at a party. Oh my God, I just wanted to throw him out the window. No matter what anyone talked about, he immediately had to interject with some story starting with "You know, I have DONE that and..." or "I have had that happen to me SO many times and..." I couldn't help myself and my girlfriend had to give me an elbow-jab to get me to stop rolling my eyes at him. That guy would wear a shirt like the one in the picture above and actually think it was a statement of fact (instead of a way to illustrate what an idiot he is). Great blog...and I can only hope and pray that the Mr. Humble from last night will somehow stumble on this blog before I find myself at a party with him again! Matt,

Can’t a wise listener ever speak too? :)

David, the “Mr. Humble” you describe in this blog I actually was WITH last night at a party. Oh my God, I just wanted to throw him out the window.

No matter what anyone talked about, he immediately had to interject with some story starting with “You know, I have DONE that and…” or “I have had that happen to me SO many times and…”

I couldn’t help myself and my girlfriend had to give me an elbow-jab to get me to stop rolling my eyes at him. That guy would wear a shirt like the one in the picture above and actually think it was a statement of fact (instead of a way to illustrate what an idiot he is).

Great blog…and I can only hope and pray that the Mr. Humble from last night will somehow stumble on this blog before I find myself at a party with him again!

]]> By: Manny http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31909 Manny Sun, 27 Sep 2009 04:28:25 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31909 Nick, that's funny This pic today is hillarious and PERFECT for this blog Nick, that’s funny

This pic today is hillarious and PERFECT for this blog

]]> By: Nick http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31908 Nick Sun, 27 Sep 2009 04:24:23 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31908 I got that shirt, mine has homer simpson on it. I have learned to shutup and listen, or at least I try to now. I got that shirt, mine has homer simpson on it. I have learned to shutup and listen, or at least I try to now.

]]> By: Matt Bernstein http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31907 Matt Bernstein Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:58:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31907 David, you are exactly right! "Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens." David, you are exactly right! “Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens.”

]]> By: Marina http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/mr-humble/2137/#comment-31906 Marina Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:01:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2137#comment-31906 Kristen thanks...I am football clueless;-) is this not also a matter of not being afraid to admit there are things you don't know about instead of just staying quiet and listen, you paticipate and contribute at your level. Sometimes when you don't have any knowledge about a subject then you also look at the subject with fresh eyes and that can bring new fresh angles to the discussion. Personally I dislike people wether they know something about a subject or not that interrupts people and don't give them a chance to finish or show with facial gestures that they disagree with someone. Kristen thanks…I am football clueless;-)

is this not also a matter of not being afraid to admit there are things you don’t know about instead of just staying quiet and listen, you paticipate and contribute at your level. Sometimes when you don’t have any knowledge about a subject then you also look at the subject with fresh eyes and that can bring new fresh angles to the discussion.

Personally I dislike people wether they know something about a subject or not that interrupts people and don’t give them a chance to finish or show with facial gestures that they disagree with someone.

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