So many of us don’t feel complete or secure without somebody with us.

It could be a friend, could be a lover, could be a boyfriend, could be a girlfriend—doesn’t make a difference.

We feel lonely when alone.

Most people don’t even want to go out to dinner by themselves because they think, “What are other people going to think if I walk into this restaurant all by myself.  What if I sit by a pool by myself, what are people going to think?”

The popular mindset is: I’m always happier when I’m with somebody.

So I’m out to destroy that.

Start being a couple with yourself.  It’s a about going out and just being okay with your own thoughts.

Walk along the beach, look at the water, and be present.  Say hello to people when you want to engage, or just look at the beautiful things that are around you and appreciate life.  Become one with yourself first so you actually can be a more powerful version of you when you do find that special someone.

We always think that being a couple is better than being single, but it’s not true. It has its benefits, but I would avoid coupling until you’re secure when single.

I love going away to a beautiful island as a couple, but I love being with myself as a me-couple too. The things that I can experience alone are very powerful.

When I’m alone I can really contemplate, really think, and really get clear about what I want and where I’m at in my life.  I can think about future goals and how I want to create my future.  I can process the past and I can let go.

I can get clear with everything.

You don’t need anybody else to help you gain clarity. It’s really amazing to be on your own.  It’s a beautiful thing.  It’s empowering.

I can feel the excuses coming on right now.

“But David, I don’t have the money to go to Maui by myself…”

Doesn’t matter.  You can go to the other side of town.  Go for a hike, walk around different areas. Go down to the pool in your apartment building or at the gym.  Be by yourself.

You need a me-cation.

You can take many me-cations where ever you are.  And you can do that whenever you need it.  In order to go and meet somebody amazing, you need to be very clear with who you are, where you are at, and what you want to feel.

That’s it.

Now I’m going to go back to staring at the water, enjoying my own thoughts, and being…me.