I’m reading an interesting book called ‘The War of Art’.

I’m going to quote a few important paragraphs you should hear:

“Resistance, out with fear, out with the amateur. But the oldest trick in the book that uses its own enthusiasm against him. Resistance not the project, but they’re overambitious and unrealistic time table for its completion. It knows it can’t sustain that level of intensity. We hit the wall, we will crash.”

“The professional on the other hand, understands delayed gratification. He is the ant, not the grasshopper, the tortoise, not the hare. Have you heard the legend of Sylvester Stallone staying up three nights straight to turn out the screenplay for Rocky. I don’t know it may even be true, but it’s the most pernicious species of myth, to set before the awakening writer. Because it’s a lie believing you pull off the big score without pain and without persistence.”

“The professional arms himself with patience, not only give the stars time to align in his career, but keep himself from flaming out on individual work. He knows that any job, whether it’s a novel or a kitchen remodel may take twice as long as he thinks and cost twice as much. He accepts that. He recognizes it as a reality.”

Read those paragraphs again.

Love AmateurAnd ask yourself this powerful question. When it comes down to love, are you a professional or are you Mr. Resistance?

A professional is a patient person. A professional truly understands that it takes time to find true love.

True love, this is not going to happen just because you decide to go out on Friday nights for two and a half hours to go find love.

A professional knows that it’s going to take twice as long, cost twice as much, and cause twice as much heartache.

In order to truly find love, you need to go out all the time. Talk to thousands of people until you finally find somebody that you connect with on a very, very deep level. It’s not going to happen if you do a part-time job with it.

It’s amazing though how many people, dream of a great love, want a great love, desire a great love, but unfortunately, don’t ever get that because they’re not open.

Look at yourself like a dream house that you want to build. You need to make a strategic plan and a schedule, have a positive approach, take your time and execute.

But a professional is in love with somebody who understands that there’s work to be done, work on themselves, work on their soul, work on opening up.

If you’re going out every Friday night with your friends and you never, ever meet anybody, how are you going to find love? It’s not going to come to you. It’s not just going to show up.

If you never, ever talk, and you never, ever flirt with women when they walk by, how are you possibly ever going to find love? What you resist persists.

Open yourself up. Become a professional in your love hunt. Ask yourself what steps you’re taking every single day in order to become that professional. Are you out everyday? Are you online? Are you on Tinder? Are you going out there and meeting people?

Unfortunately, most people are not professional when it comes down to love. That’s the reason why the biggest decision in their life, the person they’re going to spend the rest of their life with, is done haphazardly.

Imagine doing your job at work the same way you do your job at love. Think about that. Think about how you show up every day for work. Think about how you finish all of your tasks. Think about everything that you do for work.

Now think about what you do for love. Think about the time that you put in, the effort, the energy that you put in.

It’s starting to make sense, isn’t it?

It’s starting to make sense while you’re home alone.

It’s starting to make sense why you haven’t met anybody recently. It’s starting to make sense why your relationships are not working. You need to put in the same dedication you do for your job, otherwise you’re not going to be professional at love and life only rewards professionals. Think about that.