become a powerful manDo you know what it means to be a powerful man?

Knowing what makes you happy.

What are your simple pleasures in life?

What really makes you happy?  Can you describe it right now?  If this was a class and I ask you to write it down, would you be able to write down what makes you really happy?

The other day when I was in South Beach, I was walking around, feeling kind of funky.  You ever have one of those days where you just don’t feel that connected?

I spent a weekend with my brother. I haven’t done that in a long, long time.  We hung out, we connected, introduced him to some cool business folks, friends of mine.  I call it a mastermind weekend.  It’s weekends when you can get re-committed to what’s important to you. Part of that is, what makes you happy. I was feeling funky. I’m not the same person I used to be. I’m constantly changing.

I don’t need to be flirting with women all the time to feel fulfilled. I have women all my life all the time, it’s not really what makes me happy.  What makes me happy is being able to spend the time with my brother, talking and connecting. We were doing some business, introducing him, socializing a little bit.  Working with some guys. But more importantly, it was about connecting.  It was about helping him develop his own unique coaching style.

And allowing him to figure that out, what would make him happy as a coach. Helping him, like helping you, is what makes me happy. When he left, I was feeling really funky. So I spoke to my daughter, and my ex on the phone. That made me happy was to hear the laughter that a mother and a daughter shared. They were giggling, they were laughing.  That moment made me really happy.  A joyous little laughter.

It made me so happy I was able to just go out to dinner with a smile on my face, which in turn changed my energy. My daughter’s wonderful laughter put a smile on my face. I went out and people started talking to me.  Why?  Because I was feeling amazing, I was full of what made me happy.

In order to attract an amazing woman, you have to surround yourself with things that make you happy.  People want to be around people that are happy.  We are attracted to people who are happy.  I want you to do an exercise right now.  I want you to go out, leave wherever you are whether it’s work or home. I want you to go out and see if you can find an angry person. Look at that person. Look how that person is, how they react, how they interact.

Angry people don’t attract anyone.  Happy people attract everyone. Think about what makes you really happy. Whether it’s your daughter’s laugh or watching your son play baseball. Hanging out with your brother, or a best friend. Taking your dog for a walk.  Whatever it is. Spend more time doing things that make you feel joyous, because when you do, you become a better person.  You become somebody that people want to be with. because most people aren’t that happy.

What makes you happy?  Here down below, I want you to tell me what brings you joy. I want you to tell me what makes you the most joyous. What brings you real happiness. Capture that feeling.  When you’re out and about, feel that joy, and you’ll see people are more attracted to you.  You’ll see people wanting to be around you, people will want to know who you are. Happiness is contagious. Choose to be happy and watch your life change.