Mental Pressure
November 9, 2008 
14 Comments
Stop with the pressure!
The other day I was hanging out with this woman and we were talking about my business.
She knows exactly what I do – teaching guys how to really become master communicators and learn the art of attraction – but she had no idea that there are all of these wacky companies out there that teach pick-up terminology and teach you how to be something that you are not.
She could not believe that guys sit around and ask each other how to ‘escalate sexually’ the very first time.
I’ve always said it – but the way you ‘escalate sexually’ is by listening and talking to her. You engage her, and you smile at her. This is how you escalate sexually.
If she says something funny, you can lightly touch her arm. You don’t have think to yourself, like a robot, oh she just did something. Let me touch her arm now. Okay, I touched her arm, now I need to lean in and kiss her.
It doesn’t have to be this hard!
The reason why you make it this hard is because you just don’t spend enough time developing and trusting yourself.
Granted, when I was first out there in the dating world at 18 or 19 years old, I was nervous as hell and always scared to death to go in for the kiss. Of course you’re nervous – that’s natural!
But I never looked for a manual that told me exactly when to go in for the kiss.
Instead, I learned and practiced and started paying attention to things. If you really pay attention to women, you’ll know when she wants you to kiss her. If she’s looking deeply into your eyes and smiling at you – absolutely you should go in for the kiss!
You don’t have to sit there and think about when is the best moment for going in for the kiss. The fact is that you just have to be yourself.
A guy just emailed me, and he basically said, “I’m going out with this girl, she’s really deep, she’s really amazing, but how do I get her to like me?”
Hello! You just said it yourself: she’s really deep and really amazing. How do you get her to like you? You have to be deep and amazing for her as well.
I’ve said it a thousand times: in order to attract amazing looking women, you have to learn how to be attractive to yourself. You have to learn deep inner confidence. You have to learn to love yourself before you can go out there and meet people.
If you don’t love yourself and trust yourself, of course you’re going to be neurotic in every situation! That’s the way that things go and it’s just the way you are.
Develop your inner confidence. Every product that I put out there has so many lessons for gaining inner confidence. I know that there is no shortcut in life.
Eventually, you’re going to have to find a way to be comfortable being yourself. The most powerful version of you is the most comfortable version of yourself.
Learn who you are. Trust who you are. Along the way, start taking chances and risks.
If you see the outward signs that she wants to kiss you and you want to go in for the kiss, grab your balls and go kiss her!
Just try it. If you get rejected, who cares? If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t matter. No matter what I say and tell you, you’re still going to have to get out there and try it.
You are going to fail, but you are also going to succeed.
But no matter what, you’d better start today!
Hey,
The reason people are so screwed up is because of the Jewish boob tube. It used to be a couple would meet in school and they would date for a couple of years and get married. They would be carrying no baggage. Today people wait to get married and by the time they are 35 they have a truck load of baggage. They have screwed fifty people, so this means they fuck before love. This is all the fault of the Jew. This iw what the Jew wants to do. He wants people to wait until they are thirty. So they’ll have few babies. The Jew wants women working. When they work they are away from home and they fuck their co-workers. The first thing you should tell people is to get rid of the television. Don’t listen to the radio or read the Jewspaper.
David, out of respect for other readers, can we focus on keeping it unbiased, especially from people commenting on your site.
Jeff
Why spread hate for no reason?
Your life is your beliefs and no one screwed you but you!
Why even bother posting hate?
What is the purpose behind it?
I don’t know you and I hope that you are more than your words.
My desire for you is to learn how to find love and then come back with love and not blame and hate!
You need to love yourself first.
Live and let live.
Accept others and don’t judge!
Jeff,
I’ve been trying to decide if and what to post in response to your comment. As I read your first sentence, I thought you were making the most tasteless of jokes, and perhaps were just completely ignorant “Archie Bunker style.”
As I read on, though, I was astounded by the depth of your hatred and bigotry …. although not the least bit surprised about your total lack of intelligence or cleverness.
You want to convince us that there actually is a Jewish conspiracy to prevent all persons under 30 from marrying? Gee, somehow your oh so compelling evidence of “the jewish boob tube,” radio and “the jewspaper,” didn’t sway me …
I find it ironic that you want all of us to avoid newspaper, radio and television … but you want to be heard and taken seriously in this media venue …
True, there is no magic pill for attraction. Jeff, where the hell do you get all those doltish facts from anyway?
A great quote for this blog: “Try and fail, but don’t fail to try”.
I enjoyed this blog entry, it reminds of the Bruce Springsteen lyric “God have mercy on the man who doubts what he’s sure of”
Inner confidence is the foundation of the evolution of your success.
Jeff, I would recommend finding that confidence within yourself to not allow external forces bring you down. Stay true to who you are and what you believe. There are others like you out there, but I can only hope that this is just a blind reaction and not who you really are.
No one can bring you down but yourself. So prevent that and live forever.
Been following apostlically like a good disciple without commenting but Jeff’s comments are unacceptable.
Come on Jeff, blame yourself for your failures…
Keep up the good work DW.
Please tell me that you all not only recognized the bigotry but also the misogyny in that first comment!
You’re damn right David. I’ ve found opening and balancing my Chakras a great way to get killer inner game
When you pay attention, women really tell you everything you need to know to seduce her.
Really listen and use what she tells you to talk and bond with her… it’s just so simple that most people overlook it.
Oh Bertie – You are absolutely right about that. I don’t think we missed it though … It was more that there were so many objectionable things about the post that it was hard to cover all of them in the comments …
I’m thinking that Jeff couldn’t reach his conclusions about what was on TV unless he was watching far too much reality TV and assuming that everyone else was like that. Can you say “Cops?” His comments make him sound like a disappointed-by-life kinda’ guy whose woman probably left him to get a sex-change operation and she took his dog and pick-up truck too…like a country music song. Now he probably can’t get laid at gunpoint and thought that he’d get a little help from our favorite dating coach…except after this blog du jour, Jeff finally figured out that he is miserable and lonely and bitter and it really IS his fault because he attracts what he gives off – bad vibes and bad karma.
Jeff – like my dad used to say, “In all things – moderation.” In other words, if you can’t handle your TV viewing, newspaper, and internet access properly, we’re going to have to take them away from you and make you do manual labor from sun up to sun down so you won’t have time to waste on jumping to conclusions.
P.S. The new U.S. president is black – as in african-american descent…put THAT in your pipe and smoke it. So have a nice life – somewhere else.
Im 16 years old and looking to get some help w/ girls, (Your helpin alot David THANKS). But I saw that first comment and it kinda shocked me. That amount of hate is disturbing, it reminds me of Extremist Muslim groups who hate our great country. Try and mellow out and forget all the hate you have. I forgive you and am praying for you and those you have affected with your unreasoning hate.
Sincerely,
Chris G,
God Bless America!