Comments on: Men’s 8 Most Irritating Online Behaviors

By: Claire

Claire — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:23:34 +0000

David, this is great advice. I am doing the online dating thing now and I must confess that although some men really do get it, like the guy I am dating now. But, some don’t. Another thing that I would add to your advice for me is to not rely on emails, texting and I’Ming too much. I have found that turns to be a crutch for men who range from being either too scared or too lazy to openly engage women with a phone call and ultimately a date.

I’ve had guys ask me out over an email, and that’s just tacky to me. Most women want to hear your voice to get a sense from you, talk a bit more to get to know you better as a real person, not words on a computer screen.

Also, men need to know that if they are separated or still have a girlfriend and “pursuing other options” that it will probably not turn in their favor once their date finds out. I had a guy once who claimed he failed to call because his “ex” girlfriend made him feel guilty about dating again. Of course I didn’t buy it, he was obviously testing the waters and got caught. Men need to know that their online woman of interest is still a real human being with feelings and don’t want to get caught up in his mess.

Thanks again for such great advice. If more people took your advice dating would be a lot easier, as it should be.

By: Lysis

Lysis — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 22:41:48 +0000

David,
cool topic, glad you elaborated on it. Well, I have to confess online dating can be very frustrating for a man. You browse women’s profiles, think about some decent words (and I mean they are funny, creative, whatever), write at least 20 emails containing those words that match to her profile and guess what happens? Yeah, the return rate is 1:10. Two lousy answers! And when you try to keep the conversation going, even those two stop answering. The thing is, as PeteC has already pointed out, there are so many morons outside spamming around that in my opinion those few women that try dating online get completely pissed off and loose interest very quickly. You don’t strike the right tone? Your email is too long, too boring, too whatever – you never know … and you’re out. Simple as that.
All in all, online dating consumes a HUGE amount of your precious time and the results are absolutely risible. I’m sorry for being so negative, but that’s my experience over here in Germany.

By: Todd

Todd — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 22:26:26 +0000

wow if this is actually true then i don’t give myself enough credit for being who I am. Can’t believe there are people out there who would do this.
Silly adults, lies are for children

By: PeteC

PeteC — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:40:53 +0000

Making a female profile account is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever done as an experiment (A bit of a morally bad experiment)
The responses are absolutely dire, you ask for a picture, and they dont send one.

They send you their number, with nearly nothing else to intrigue you, its absolutely hilarious. I’d heard that the majority of emails women get are awful, but it really opens your eyes to how bad they are.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:40:22 +0000

David, if you had said these things to my fice — or to someone you and I were having a conversation with — I would give you a BIG hug or a kiss on the cheek! (As long as it were okay with Sonja.)

If we were in pentacostal church I would have said, “Amen,” out loud at least 5 times!

By: pizzabox

pizzabox — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 06:17:32 +0000

Online dating is fun, my experience overall is mixed. It’s like window shopping, if you don’t like the first date, you can get another one…I personally like to meet women in a places of interest. Still Internet dating is fun and unpredictable, the pictures are usually old and we all need a blind date sometime

By: MAC

MAC — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:12:53 +0000

The females who send you angry emails must be all the single ones.

By: Charles

Charles — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 00:13:42 +0000

Hey David, great topic. One line that sums it all up ‘The best thing to do is to think of it as a party on the Internet, and don’t engage in behaviors online that you would never engage in at a real-life party.’ I havnt tried internet dating but its true, you are who you are. Some people, try online dating to mask what they think is stopping them from attracting the opposite sex in real life. You touched on it in a podcast a while back, we shouldnt try to impress anyone we meet. Just be confident in who you are, leave the person the choice to either want to meet you or not. Thx David.
P.S. – Sorry, forgot to tell you great post!

By: Charles

Charles — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 21:59:13 +0000