Also women these days are wayyyy to harsh on first dates and give men barley any chance for a second date. A lot of women also think men shouldn’t be nervous on first dates and meeting for the first time… Well here’s some news for ya women both men and women are naturally nervous when meeting for the first time and also this might come as a shock to some women but it actually takes something called TIME to get to know someone, yes it’s called more then date 1, it’s called actually HANGING out with HIM after the first DATE!!!

Way too dam* many women want this LA LA instantaneous “perfect” flawless man and perfectionist FIRST date…. There is no perfect date, it’s all what you make of your own “perfect”. But anywho, dating takes time and when women are dating they dam* well better hang with HIM more than date 1 to get to know each other, your not going to know every thing about him on a first date after just a couple hours!! That’s SUCH A RIDICULOUS EXPECTATION. Women your only torturing and beating yourselves up over your RIDICULOUS 1st date “requirements”.

I am a shy guy when it comes down to attractive females. I am not shy at all when it comes to conversing with males or unnattractive females.
In fact if you were to tell me to approach an unnattractive female and make friends with her, i can do it no problem or atleast attempt.
But if the girl was even a BIT attractive, yea umm id rather be in the middle of a wartorn battlefield with tanks and ak47s shooting at me.

Look. Women who aren’t just the typical slut..The ones who DON’T want a guy who just wants to sleep with them.. The ones who want a real boyfriend..I think that these women will make you chase (sometimes pretty hard) because they realize that the average dickhead dude who just wants to bang them will give up after certain amount of time/hoops to jump through/chasing…He’ll move on hoping that the next prospect is easier..And chances are, the next prospect will be..

In other words, she’s saying “you have to prove how much you REALLY want to be with me before I will concede.” She’s weeding out the non-hackers, so to speak. Don’t get weeded out.

Always remember, women have the most to lose in any given relationship scenario. They are the ones who could get pregnant, and left high and dry. They are more emotionally vulnerable, as well. So by virtue of this, they will mitigate the risks appropriately (if they are smart and actually learn from the times when they didn’t).

Look at the role of boyfriend as a job. Some people put in an application and then call it a day. Sometimes, depending on the job, they may get a call back. But as everyone knows, the most coveted jobs are also the most competitive. Sometimes, you have to call and check with the employer. Bug them a little bit. Convince them to give you a chance. And if you can convince them to give you a chance, then make sure you deliver.

IE, sex them up the right way! Treat her right. Etc. Etc..

I only speak from experience, and for the fact that I come from a family of mostly females…and I run my theories by my female friends all the time..

What I will tell you is that when I started taking my current attitude towards “the chase”, I have been more successful.

Before, I would give up too quick. And sometimes, I am still tempted to give up quick. The whole damn process can be exhausting and frustrating from the male’s perspective. When I think about the amount of time/effort that I put into acquiring my last girlfriend, I am astonished that I saw it through. And after I broke up with her, the thought of going out there and getting a new one was (and is) daunting. Simply for the fact that I believe that it’s gonna be a lot of work (unless I just want some stupid slut, which I don’t).

Of course, this brings up the question of “how much chasing is too much? At what point do you call it quits?” In my opinion, there is no set amount. It should be taken on a case by case basis, I guess. It depends on the girl. And on you. How much do you really like her? How much potential frustration are you willing to endure? How much chasing is fair? And yes, does she reciprocate when it comes to communication?

Obviously, if she doesn’t text you back, it’s a lost cause. But if she does, then you’re still in the game. But that’s the problem. It is a game. I hate games. I think they’re stupid. I don’t feel I deserve to be put through the whole process. I know my heart, I am a good guy. I wish that I could always be taken at face value. But that just simply isn’t the way it works. I know that I have to make her see me the way I see me. I know that once she does, the game is over. Getting to that point is the challenge.

So there’s my two cents. Happy hunting gents!

As far as her being on your bed, her telling she didn’t expect to be on your bed so soon ACKNOWLEDGES the fact that she is surprised… but by her STAYING on your bed is indication that she didn’t mind after all.

You have to not just look at what a person tell you but what it really indicates. I’m not saying that you had to push yourself on her… but I hear right now a lot more excuses rather than… seeing things as opportunities for you to keep things moving forward.

Once again, I can’t tell you for sure since I’m not the one who was standing/sitting with the girl. But I just wanted to give you new ways of looking at things.