Comments on: Marathon Man

By: Lily

Lily — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 02:56:08 +0000

Good for you Gabrielle! You have the right attitude in life.

By: Pete

Pete — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 04:22:31 +0000

Again like I said at BC, one of the most important things I’ve learned from you.

It’s cool making lists of life goals, but I’ve learnt to just let go once in a while.

By: DanTheOriginal

DanTheOriginal — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 23:16:17 +0000

>>>>>>>>>>>Maybe I should just be forward and ask her out and see how she responds.

Will: You are forbidden to post here until you ask her out!!!!!!!

By: Khiem

Khiem — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 21:44:02 +0000

If life is a marathon… who’s gonna be my water boy/girl on the side of the road when I get thirsty? ;p

And for Will, what are you waiting for? Step up to the plate and ask her out already!

By: Infinity

Infinity — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 16:42:35 +0000

Lily and Gaby -

Good points. This is a life lesson to be learned. The best part about time is that it never stops. In the grand scheme of life, these are all just little blips on the timeline. Some blips will stand out more than such but overall, most things in life can be compared to cookie crumbs on the radar. Just wipe them away.

Will, you are at a fork. You pretty much answered the question for yourself. Whenever you just need to bring closure to a situation, the best solution is to take action. Never doing so will keep it open, making you think and ponder over it obsessively. That’s actually another good perspective as well.

If you are hanging over something to the point where it is really hindering you from moving on, make a decision and take action. Like David said, it’s a marathon. Just keep moving and learn. It’s all we have.

By: Will

Will — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 05:32:40 +0000

great post. I totally agree with you that in the larger scheme of things, one girl doesnt mean that much…there are many more in the sea. However, i also agree with Rich when he says that its hard to implement. Im kinda in the same situation now. There’s this girl who initially showed signals of interest in me and I started reciprocating that. But once i started doing that, she shyed away from my texts and calls. Normally I would just move on, but whenever we talk in person, afterwards when we’re going our separate directions, i glance back and numerous times shes looking back and smiling. I feel like Ive put myself out there and shes playin wit me or shes just not interested. I want to move on but i don’t want to do so with the possibility that she may be into me after all. Maybe I should just be forward and ask her out and see how she responds.

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 02:04:29 +0000

I totally agree with you, Lily. I think that is how we, as women and maybe even men, are conditioned to think!
I have been applying this principle though that when one guy blows me off or whatever, I call up another one or try to meet another guy or more friends to hang out with. The constant flow of energy from different people in my life keeps it fun and fresh and entertaining too!
The connections that I am having with people are so much fun now. I let go of what people think and if they lose contact with me and consider it their loss!
I am loyal to my friends and fun and have a lot to offer to someone who will want to spend the time with me and me with them! You can always make a list of your positive traits to remember in this occasion too and say “I have a lot to offer to the right person!”

By: Taras

Taras — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 01:13:48 +0000

I couldn’t agree more! Personally, I think this all goes back to not identifying with the ego as Rich seems to have been suggesting. When you stop caring about what others think of you, then it gets much easier not to react to the negative feedback if it happens to fall your way.

By: Lily

Lily — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 23:12:39 +0000

Of all the time we spend moaning over what could have been, think of the time that was lost. David’s perspective should not only be for the dating scene, but just everyday life. Things happen every day and our negative thoughts, when we have them, have an effect on our bodies and our minds. We choose what we think. I used to think there was just one man, one man only meant for me. But now that I’m older, hopefully wiser, I know there are many men who could make me happy in life. The more chances you take, the more chances you have to meet those people….

By: darkenergy

darkenergy — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 22:11:28 +0000

I agree with you Rich. In fact I’m in that same situation right now and although I know what I need to do, i.e. move on, it is hard to do it becuase It’s like at the same time I think: man, I can’t give up, I gotta keep trying with this girl.