Love the One You’re With
March 7, 2009 
18 Comments
A lot of guys will have a woman visit them for the weekend. Maybe they met on a ski trip or something, and now this woman that he’s not REALLY into is coming to visit.
You start thinking to yourself, “Oh my god, what am I going to do with her for the whole weekend? It’s going to take away from me-time, and she will take me away from finding someone I’m really into…” Have you ever felt like that?
But in reality, this experience that you’re having with this woman – connecting with her, the experience that you’ll have sexually with her – will help you move forward.
You know that old saying, “Love the one you’re with?” If you love the one you’re with, you’ll start to learn things about yourself and learn how to better interact and connect with other people.
Maybe this weekend will be a great weekend for you to have some fun and learn some new sexual things. Just be open to it! You don’t have to spend your whole life with her – you can just hang out with her for a few days.
A lot of guys won’t do it. I used to be guilty of it when I was younger as well. I wouldn’t be open to it. Some woman would just deposit herself in front of me and want to hang out and I’d think, well, this isn’t the one I REALLY want, and then I would panic. I didn’t want to be “stuck” with her.
But the best thing to do in that situation is just enjoy it. Enjoy the weekend that you have with her. Enjoy the time with her – you’ll learn a lot from it.
And have you guys been following this story. Also to all the men out there who do not think women age well.
Time to really wake up and see true beauty.
Check this out.
Grasshopper, easier than that; if pussycat give U hard-on, then you hang out.
Wow 78. she is amazing more than her looks is her attitude that is a grand dame. Class act.
Never had sex with someone I did not connect with, just not into it.
Pure physical attractions can also be a connection
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SORRY i accidentally hit enter, but yeah WOW, 78 this woman is BEAUTIFUL. You can feel her beauty in her voice and attitude. I’m 29 and I think she’s a lot more attractive that women in their 20′s. Heck I’d ask her out after a 5 min conversation. Maturity in a woman is SO HOT : )
Justadjustit,
I am very mature too…LOL
I think the above is true for most situations in general. I know I always try to spend time with my first choice of girl first But if that doesn’t work out, I don’t see the point in sitting around alone either.
“SORRY i accidentally hit enter, but yeah WOW, 78 this woman is BEAUTIFUL. You can feel her beauty in her voice and attitude. I’m 29 and I think she’s a lot more attractive that women in their 20’s. Heck I’d ask her out after a 5 min conversation. Maturity in a woman is SO HOT : )”
I agree…but do keep in mind that she’s loaded genius…
WOW,what a stunning lady!!…So composed and radiating so much inner beauty…a rolemodel for all women!
But most of all is her beautiful energy, which has nothing to do with age…it comes with a feeling of ease and being comfortable with who you are. Accept and love who you are…and you’ll become BEAUTIFUL to others!
just a wee bit of botox work going on in there. but she does seem like a strong, vibrant woman for 78. wow.
I just wonder how many face lifts she had? But at that age she has aged gracefully.
You know one of my relatives told me this don’t let on how much you have because once the money is gone they are gone. I don’t really care for those type of people they are what I call freeloaders and moochers. Hey I believe I was married to some of those since my dad was not able to support them out the door they went and that rubber burned the highway so bad you could see the roters on their car.
Hmm David – I find this bit of advice interesting although I don’t agree. You are walking on thin ice if you suggest that you enjoy someone you’re not really into, sexually and perhaps emotionally be involved with someone ‘for the weekend’. I think that is misleading and, frankly, self absorbed and just not right.
I personally had a guy try to spend the weekend with me, and although there could’ve been many benefits from it for me personally, including sex, admiration, idolation, etc., I chose not to lead him on and derailed the scenario so he wouldn’t be misled. Do expound.
My theory is that if you are having feelings of what else you could do and not enjoying being with someone that is not the right person. It’s healthy to need space and to be able to do your own thing…it’s all about balance. When the pendulum is too much towards feeling smoothered or too much towards wanting to be with someone ALL the time to feel fulfilled then it isn’t right.
I doubt that Carmen Dell’Orofice has had any “work” done – you know why? My mother always said that if you really want to know how old a woman is, don’t look at her face – look at her neck. I think that this former model has simply aged well. Her only problem is thinking that just because Madoff socialized with her over the years that she could trust him with her money without oversight.
Sister – I don’t think that this is about using people or leading them on. But it is about being open to experiences (and not just the sexual aspect) with people that you might not have given a second look just because they weren’t your so-called ideal. Sometimes hanging with people without an overt attraction allows you to discover wonderful things about that person and also about yourself.
Been doing a similar thing the last few weekends with a friend of 30 years.
Haven’t seen her much in the last few years. She’s not my main interest, but
she’s fun & attractive, and we’ve gotten together for food & music lately.
My main lady’s going through some stuff that I can’t do much about, so she
gets space. I’d forgotten how much I used to enjoy hanging out with my
old friend. Didn’t go looking for this, it just happened.
thanks for this insightful blog, David
i wasted my teenage years because i thought i could get somebody better, and i ended up missing an essential part of my life. now, i enjoy making up for the lost time.
Spend time with someone you are not attracted to. hhmmh, I have been told it takes most women 3 dates to warm up to a man.
Hey she’s really cool!