Comments on: Lose The Ego! http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 22:34:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Al http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34331 Al Mon, 04 Jan 2010 08:06:08 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34331 I posted a link to wikipedia's section on the ego. I think mostly what David is referring to is the our defensive structure used to protect our self-image. Relationship stirs up deep longings and fears and we usually haven't had much practice at handling them so we revert to our primitive defensive strategies to handle threatening situations - We attack, defend, or withdraw/surrender. Sometimes its helpful shift our reaction to one of gratitude by seeing all of our or partners words/action in their simplest essence of "love me" or "I want to feel safe" which we can all relate to. Tolerating our own and our partner's experience is an essential relationship skill that must be developed and relaxing our body and mind through any practice (i.e. "Hey, can I get back to you on that" or "I'm having trouble relating to what you are saying, can you tell me more" or "I'm having a strong reaction to what you are saying, can we change gears and have you try to understand me for a minute") is often a great first step. Hope this helps. I posted a link to wikipedia’s section on the ego. I think mostly what David is referring to is the our defensive structure used to protect our self-image.

Relationship stirs up deep longings and fears and we usually haven’t had much practice at handling them so we revert to our primitive defensive strategies to handle threatening situations – We attack, defend, or withdraw/surrender. Sometimes its helpful shift our reaction to one of gratitude by seeing all of our or partners words/action in their simplest essence of “love me” or “I want to feel safe” which we can all relate to.

Tolerating our own and our partner’s experience is an essential relationship skill that must be developed and relaxing our body and mind through any practice (i.e. “Hey, can I get back to you on that” or “I’m having trouble relating to what you are saying, can you tell me more” or “I’m having a strong reaction to what you are saying, can we change gears and have you try to understand me for a minute”) is often a great first step.

Hope this helps.

]]> By: Easy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34264 Easy Fri, 01 Jan 2010 11:25:19 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34264 wow, The abundance mentality has changed my life wow, The abundance mentality has changed my life

]]> By: david wygant http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34089 david wygant Sat, 26 Dec 2009 19:53:55 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34089 I am so happy that this podcast really resonated with all of you!! Because of the overwhelming response I am going to go even deeper into this and put out a product next year about this exact subject. Ego has killed may relationships right from the start. Even when you do not approach its all about protecting your ego from a possible rejection that has not happened yet!! Look for this in January!!! Thanks and I hope all of you had an amazing christmas. I am so happy that this podcast really resonated with all of you!!

Because of the overwhelming response I am going to go even deeper into this and put out a product next year about this exact subject.
Ego has killed may relationships right from the start.

Even when you do not approach its all about protecting your ego from a possible rejection that has not happened yet!!

Look for this in January!!!

Thanks and I hope all of you had an amazing christmas.

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34018 Mike-Ro Wed, 23 Dec 2009 19:53:56 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34018 UPDATE: Talked online with her, and said sorry but we can't go out blah blah. Don't know but now I don't feel like she's worth it. I mean I gave her the best of me and she is so limiting herself. I've told her..."who knows maybe in a month you will change your mind". I should be , don't know, sad...but I'm not, I'm really not :). I'll see what I can make out of this if not that's life, she is the one who will be missing out not me... UPDATE: Talked online with her, and said sorry but we can’t go out blah blah. Don’t know but now I don’t feel like she’s worth it. I mean I gave her the best of me and she is so limiting herself.

I’ve told her…”who knows maybe in a month you will change your mind”. I should be , don’t know, sad…but I’m not, I’m really not :) . I’ll see what I can make out of this if not that’s life, she is the one who will be missing out not me…

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34013 Mike-Ro Wed, 23 Dec 2009 13:27:59 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34013 Of course it's hard. But you're not alone. I mean girls that I really like are rare and when I find one, sometimes she's a real bitch but I don't care cause I think that these tipe of girls are rare and stuff. And they are not but that's my reaction when I meet a hot girl for me, that she's the best. But recently I try to get that out of my sistem... :) You should too, I mean yeah it's hard to find someone but let's face it, sex is a must in a relationship to be 100%... Look who's talking ...me at 18 :)) but I've got my share. I only talk from experience, as litle as it is but hope it will help ! Of course it’s hard. But you’re not alone. I mean girls that I really like are rare and when I find one, sometimes she’s a real bitch but I don’t care cause I think that these tipe of girls are rare and stuff. And they are not but that’s my reaction when I meet a hot girl for me, that she’s the best.

But recently I try to get that out of my sistem… :) You should too, I mean yeah it’s hard to find someone but let’s face it, sex is a must in a relationship to be 100%… Look who’s talking …me at 18 :) ) but I’ve got my share. I only talk from experience, as litle as it is but hope it will help !

]]> By: Reece http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34011 Reece Wed, 23 Dec 2009 12:50:42 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34011 What a fantastic podcast, you know when you're ego is in charge when you're either playing to the camera's or defending yourself. What a fantastic podcast,

you know when you’re ego is in charge when you’re either playing to the camera’s or defending yourself.

]]> By: Keegan http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34008 Keegan Wed, 23 Dec 2009 10:58:41 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34008 *wouldn't buy a car with out test driving it first *wouldn’t buy a car with out test driving it first

]]> By: Keegan http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34007 Keegan Wed, 23 Dec 2009 10:57:47 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34007 I agree with you Mike. I wouldn't test drive a car with out driving it first. It just sucks because she was 95% of everything I ever wanted in a women, except for the fact that she wouldn't do anything sexual with me, and the first girl out of a few that I have really had a true connection with on more then just a physical level. And ya I know there are tons of women out there and all that, but its just really tough right now ending one of the best relationships I've ever had. I agree with you Mike. I wouldn’t test drive a car with out driving it first. It just sucks because she was 95% of everything I ever wanted in a women, except for the fact that she wouldn’t do anything sexual with me, and the first girl out of a few that I have really had a true connection with on more then just a physical level. And ya I know there are tons of women out there and all that, but its just really tough right now ending one of the best relationships I’ve ever had.

]]> By: Mike-Ro http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34006 Mike-Ro Wed, 23 Dec 2009 10:42:32 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34006 Keegan in my humble opinion, you did the right thing. I mean I have my own opinions about this thing called "I'm saving myself for marriage". I mean come on it's like going to war witouth having a bootcamp or an army training session :) you get what I mean.It's the best comparisson. What happens if you wait till marriage and after you are not sexual compatible?What happens then?Cheat on each other and then a divorce?How nice... :) Ok again these are my ideeas about this thing.You can say the opposite or whatever you're ideeas are.I would love to hear them. P.S James Y you said "Will you truely be able to trust her, if you can get her to dump her boyfriend for you? Part of you will always wonder when someone else is going to come along and get her to do the same to you." It's simple. I always leave room in case of situations like this.Cause trought a relationship you are gonna feel atraction for other people and who knows what might happen. If she feels like along the way,a better guy will come, good for her I won't stand in the way. I don't put my soul into her hands.So I get implicated in the relationship but not as much as to get hurt is something like this happens.Well, somethimes I do get into it too much but that's another story :) Sorry for such long posts but I get so enthuziastic about these things.I really like to talk about them. What do you expect from a guy who's only 18 but really wants to change?I'll tell you..this :). Cheers guys... Steve Keegan in my humble opinion, you did the right thing. I mean I have my own opinions about this thing called “I’m saving myself for marriage”. I mean come on it’s like going to war witouth having a bootcamp or an army training session :) you get what I mean.It’s the best comparisson. What happens if you wait till marriage and after you are not sexual compatible?What happens then?Cheat on each other and then a divorce?How nice… :)

Ok again these are my ideeas about this thing.You can say the opposite or whatever you’re ideeas are.I would love to hear them.

P.S James Y you said “Will you truely be able to trust her, if you can get her to dump her boyfriend for you? Part of you will always wonder when someone else is going to come along and get her to do the same to you.” It’s simple. I always leave room in case of situations like this.Cause trought a relationship you are gonna feel atraction for other people and who knows what might happen. If she feels like along the way,a better guy will come, good for her I won’t stand in the way. I don’t put my soul into her hands.So I get implicated in the relationship but not as much as to get hurt is something like this happens.Well, somethimes I do get into it too much but that’s another story :) Sorry for such long posts but I get so enthuziastic about these things.I really like to talk about them. What do you expect from a guy who’s only 18 but really wants to change?I’ll tell you..this :) .

Cheers guys…

Steve

]]> By: Keegan http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/lose-the-ego/2578/#comment-34005 Keegan Wed, 23 Dec 2009 09:36:14 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2578#comment-34005 This is the most amazing podcast you have ever done David! It was a real eye opener for me. Too bad it didn't come out a few weeks ago when I was in a relationship and my girlfriend and I were constantly fighting because I wanted sex and she wanted to wait till marriage. We broke up because of it and after listening to this I realize it was our egos that really got in the way. But I guess I will know for next time. This is the most amazing podcast you have ever done David! It was a real eye opener for me. Too bad it didn’t come out a few weeks ago when I was in a relationship and my girlfriend and I were constantly fighting because I wanted sex and she wanted to wait till marriage. We broke up because of it and after listening to this I realize it was our egos that really got in the way. But I guess I will know for next time.

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