Look Out For The Bogeyman!
April 22, 2009 
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Jason Voorhees is coming at you right now at summer camp holding a gigantic knife. Freddy Krueger is pulling you into the bed. Bruce, the mechanical shark from Jaws, is swimming right toward you at top speed.
The Bogeyman is actually in your closet. Remember when you were a little kid, and you were absolutely terrified to look under your bed because you thought the Bogeyman (or that evil clown from the movie Poltergeist) was hiding under it?
Remember all these terrifying moments as a child? You just couldn’t look inside that closet no matter what because you were truly afraid that the Bogeyman was hiding inside of it.
Do you know who the Bogeyman really is? Go to the mirror right now. Look in the mirror. Go ahead and take a good look in the mirror. YOU are the Bogeyman!
That’s right. You are the Bogeyman, because every fear that you have ever had in your entire life has been manifested in your own mind. Every fear. Every single one of them.
What is the Bogeyman in your head? Even more important, what is the biggest, scariest Bogeyman in your head?
You may have a fear of approaching the opposite sex. If you do, that is your Bogeyman.
You may have a fear of intimacy when you get close to somebody. If you do, then that is your Bogeyman.
You may have a fear of asking somebody out or calling them back. If you do, then that is your Bogeyman.
All of us need to learn how to eliminate the Bogeyman, because the Bogeyman is actually the scared little boy or girl that you really are.
Today’s podcast is not only going to blow you away, (and will make you think and laugh more than you have in a LONG time!) . . . but I have a very secret message that is at the very end of it. So be SURE you don’t miss it!!
Also, if you want to know how to get rid of that Bogeyman who lives in your head, check out my Men’s and Women’s No Excuses programs — In them, I take you through MY own journey and tell you how I got rid of my Bogeyman. I also show you step by step how to breakthrough and overcome every Bogeyman in your own head and get rid of them for good!
And for those of you who are a member of my private members site. Check out the video I posted today on the Bogeyman. This is a classic video!!
Hey David,
Great post and podcast. I was laughing but at the same time had to agree that it was the truth. Now this music has been anchored in my brain, so next I meet my boogyman, I will know what to do.
Have a good one.
Love
Raj
David-
wOOOOWWWWWWW That was a kickass podcast today man. I am speechless because i always felt just like Bogeyman all my life!
How in the world did you come up with Bogey man, that is so funny David!
I feel like Bogeyman is our worst enemy, why do we even have this fuckin Bogeyman with us or within us? Sorry Sandra for all the fucks i am about to mention out loud here:) hope you are not reading this front of your kids.
so yea its my own fuckin bogeyman is killing my energy.
The question how can we get rid of the fuckin bogeyman forever and feel amazing from inside and out!
another great podcast David, i realized today that i need to face my inner bogeyman instead of giving my power away to women and people i work with.
Great podcast!
One small correction. Poltergeist is a scary tree tapping on the window and a little girl stuck in a TV. But its been a while, maybe I’m forgetting the clown. “It” has a scary clown.
Good message for Earth Day.
I got to say it was one of the funniest podcast I ever heard on dating. As a woman it’s really hard for me to connect with guys who are constantly in their head and not aware of what is going on in the moment.
Dr. Who i don’t think there is anything wrong with saying all the “fucks” you want to say to get the feeling out of your system. I think sandra loves hearing it especially when she is with BOB:)
i got to say that was very cool podcast today Mr. Wygant! It made me chuckle like a kid again.
hey david if you were a pua- i think bogeyman would be a good pua name for you:)
David I came across your blog about a few months ago via youtube video’s. Today I am really compelled to write in the forum and share my thoughts with every one here.
I thought I was the only bogeyman in the world who was feeling like out of place, no one loved me, and something was always wrong about me. I felt the whole world was perfect, and I was just not brought up right. Listening to today’s podcast was a lot of comport to see that I am not the only one, there are other people who feels like me as well!
howe i see that you are still running your mouth:) keep it up!
Lance- face your inner bogeyman everytime you feel a fear, and that is what exactly daivd is telling us today. I have seen a huge shift in my personal life, after started to face my inner bogeyman each day! So no need to feel bad about it, and now go do something about it!
Julia- as a woman do you feel like you have a bogeywoman within that you need to fight against?
a.movie-
did you go anywhere or do anything fun for earth day?
Howe-
yes I have a bogeywoman within me as well, and of-course there was a time it was out of control, it’s a long story, however i am came accept my self, my body, my mind, my soul for as I am. I found the MMS for women very helpful toward my self acceptance.
Clint- you are not the only one here in the world feels like that sweetie. suffering is temporary!
David,
What great honest podcast today, loved your personal experience with it, very real indeed.
We all got it inside from times, the biggest thing is being aware of the feelings in your body that leads to the bogeyman take over your thought and actions. It all comes back to being in the moment with awareness.
Hello David
Today’s Podcast Was Well Lets All Face It….The TRUTH WILL SET US FREE AND ALSO PISS US OFF”
TODAY WAS NO EXCEPTION TO ANY RULES..TIME TO MURDER THE BOGEYMAN
BRITT ROOKS
The Bogeyman within is not only fear but can also be anger and resentment and pettiness. By that I mean the petty anger we often have after a fight or quarrel. Bogeyman is a collection of all those bad, childish emotions(fear, anger and everything else) that sabotage us and get in our way and the way of happiness for us and our loved ones and potential loved ones. The Bogeyman wants to bring us down and take others down with us. The name of the game is to ignore him and throw him out the window. Why give the bogeyman the power over your life he doesn’t deserve? Kick his ass out the window.
Tony
What is your bogeyman?
Marina
What is your bogeywoman?
Julia
How did the womens mastery series help you eliminate the bogeywoman?
And to all the women I am really sorry for not including a Bogeywoman.
Give me a few minutes and I will find a few on You Tube
Very inspiring words! I definelty still have a few boogeymen living inside my head I need to get rid of.
One of the best Bogeywomen ever.
My number one fan.
this is the funniest thing I’ve listened to in ages! I am sitting in a starbucks working on my laptop, and i started laughing out loud (and causing everyone to stare!)
you are awesome!
by the way, my boogywoman is being too wrapped up in my head and never paying attention to what’s around me
Sometimes the Bogeywoman can be hot as hell, Which makes them even more scary.
Taras
What is your bogeyman?
David,
Loss in any kind of form, It can be friends/family, recently our dog ran away, my work if I trade and It goes against me. In any of those, a sinking feeling sets in almost like panic and I freeze.
I do have to say I have worked very hard on myself, acknowledged these issues written them down with the feeling that went through my body at the moment. Now if the scary bitch shows her face I am much more aware of how I am feeling in the moment and I am quicker to acknowledge the feeling and let it go, as I know it is not productive to me. The key thing I have found is being very aware of the trigger thoughts and feelings that will bring her out.
The Bogeywomen will come back most likely, but I am more ready to fight her and not let her take over me.
Marina
You speak the truth.
The Bogeyman and woman will always live inside us. We need to recognize them embrace them and kick there ass when they surface.
KAtie
Your boogeywoman is right next to you at starbucks right now.Too funny
That was the funniest pod cast ever.
Love that you talk in the moment and not from a script.
So true about having a bogeyman, but the bogeyman is no fool. It comes in a little at a time, catches you unware and then slowly starts to take over…. Clever fucker that bogeyman.
Thanks for the few minutes of laughter.
My bogeyman is always worrying about what I’m going to say NEXT after I open a conversation with a woman.
Thanks to you David, I no longer worry about approaching women, but I still struggle with what I’m going to say after the initial hellos.
Damn, I still remember as a kid thinking that shark was going to somehow going to come up through the pipes and end up in my bathtub!
Is there a way to download the podcast and put it on my ipod? Would love to listen to it on my way to work.
Thanks
David:
My bogeyman has been fear, anger, jealousy, ignorance, and monkeychatter. Lots and lots of monkeychatter. lol
Realistically, I have to admit that I can’t get rid of him overnight. Maybe he will always be around in the background at least and I’ll either have to fight him off periodically or ignore him. But not to let him get the best of me. And I think that goes for all of us.
The best way to fight him off perhaps are thoughts of peace, love, and being in the moment and being aware of what’s going on.
I’ve been thinking also about reading the Bible, because I remember there’s a lot of stuff in there about having faith, and stuff about overcoming fear about things out of our control. And there’s something in there too about not going to bed angry, but resolving our problems with friends & loved ones before we lie down to bed at night. I think it’s about trusting and putting faith in a higher power. Someone bigger and more powerful than us because none of us are 10 feet tall and bulletproof. None of us are perfect; we’ve all got flaws down here. On our own power there’s only so much we can do and then we need help from Someone bigger and better than us.
David —
You can be the Bogeyman in my closet anytime!
i’m gonna put on my boogie shoes and dance this fucker away. it’s really true – when you face the fear, it backs off. it’s so easy to stay in the fear out of habit. i’m so tired of that pattern. tonight when i go to the gym i’m gonna face one particular bogeyman — it’s always the fear of rejection or being left out. Of not being attractive or something-or-other enough. I think we all live in our fears. Thanks for this great podcast. Now … you’re right, be in the moment with the person. not easy … but with apologies to KC & the Sunshine Band!
I Want To Take Off My My My My My
Boogeyman Shoes
Just To Boogie With You, Yeah
I totally forgot about how psycho Cathy Bates was in Misery! I think she’s scarier than any Bogeyman who ever hid under my bed!
Loved this podcast David — and the end was WELL worth waiting for
This really made my day. Thanks!!
Harper
The bogeyman is clever because it is you and your own fears. You always know how to manipulate yourself because you know yourself better than anyone!
David- thanks for writing me back!
I love how you spoke with passion in the mastery series. You told me step by step process to meet men, and eliminate the boogeyman that has been hunting me all my past lives.
For the first time in my life I believed that it was possible to attract an amazing guy. I felt natural the way I walked trough town, and start conversation with men. I worked on my fashion, and get compliments all the time.
I am not sure if I really get compliments on my fashion or is it my round butt:)
Peter
Your bogeyman does not listen. You always know what to say next if you listen. Think about it you know how to speak to people and respond all by listening,
Your bogeyman has no ears when you speak with women:)
My bogeywoman is being “myself” around any man I like. I am 100% outgoing, friendly and comfortable talking to, approaching, or socializing in any way with anyone BUT them…
Julia
It can be your butt but i think it is you new attitude. YOu are finally open to men and life!
Tony
Your bogeyman will always be inside you. Its about managing him and not letting him out.
But more important recognizing when he appears and killing him at that moment so he does not get the best of you.
As for the Bible….I can not help you there i never read it,
Jules
Kathy Bates is by far one of the best Bogeywomen ever.
She is your number one fan gone mad!!
Sultry
Thanks!!! But I dont think my girlfriend wants me to hide in any other womens closet:)
Everybody-
There’s a book I read called TAMING YOUR GREMLIN which is about imaging and drawing what your gremlin/boogyman looks like — it’s Zen – knowing that your fears are there, and objectifying them, allows them to subside… because they become separate from you.
My gremlin looks like Gary Oldman in True Romance, the pimp Drexl. Or John Travolta in Battlefield Earth.
You’re totally right, David. Fear keeps us from doing so many things. The only thing between me and my goal is me.
Sultry Brunette- how big is your closet, b/c i take a lot of room:)
plus i am the next option available after david:)
Noah
I knew you would come out for this one. Great descrip of what yours looks like.
Mine looks like Mikey Rourke always changing his face:)
Howie
Get real today and try to stop thinking with your dick!!
Maybe your bogeyman is your penis
Oooh, I don’t know David…Does Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction count as a “fan?” If so, she might give Cathy Bates a run for her money!
the energizer bunny Howe keeps on going and going and……..LOL
did my bogeyman scare you? no comment after my post? BOO hoo …
Wait!! I do remember the clown in Poltergeist. That thing was pretty scary. Didn’t say much. Just appeared out of nowhere all the time.
My fear is rejection. Still working on that one. But I do feel I am past introduction rejection, now I am afraid of intimacy. Having more trouble with that one. Making progress and meeting lots of people. Just need to focus on one long enough for something to develop.
Great podcast!!!
I just passed this to everyone I know and posted it on my facebook page!!!
Howpua,
Well how sweet of you to offer to fill in since David seems to be busy
My closet is pretty roomy… Exactly how much room do you need to hide in there?!
Of course if the closet doesn’t work, I can kick the Bogeyman out from under my bed…
sorry David i am just trying to tease Soultry.
i think i have 2 boogieman, one in my pants other one in my head. no wonder i am going nutz:)
Hey Guys
First time posting!!
My Bogeyman is myself. That is so profound.
I am going to listen to this podcast again and again. You really know how to break down how we think and feel.
Thanks David.
so good to have marina and sandra back, they are like twin sister or something:)
Your visual that you describe in the podcast will make me always forget my fears. I just went out and approached a woman and all I could think of was Michael Myers!!
I laughed so hard that she walked over and asked me what I was laughing at.
I told her about this podcast and we spent 20 minutes talking about our Boegeymen,
Leave it to David Wygant to create another real opener!!!
And David I am going out with her tonight!!!!
oh sultry you are so sweet. i think i will fit in just right, i might cause few damages here and there, as long as you can take it, we can do just fine:)
is your bogeyman udder your bed called BOB as well.
I think I have just uncovered one boogeyman that I may not have been aware of before… it seems like I’m not always allowing myself to be vulnerable to everyone. I noticed I only open up to few key people in my life… and sometimes, it makes it more difficult for other people to really FEEL who I am.
David, that was a great podcast! I couldn’t stop laughing listening to how you personalized fear to the boogeyman.
Tom
You rock!!!! That is so funny and you can see how being in the moment and honest is all you need to do!!
Tom:
you already went out and practice, that is awesome, now I got to get out there and make it happen!
This podcast rocked David!
I would say it’s your best podcast ever. I’m actually gonna go back and listen to it again, but wanted to post here quick first.
My Bogeyman definitely is in my bedroom — but he’s not in my closet, he’s in my head everytime I’m getting ready to sleep with a girl for the first time.
A Movie
Your visual is now the clown from Poltiergeist.
No more rejections.
A Movie
This is for you.
Wrong clip A movie
Coach Khiem-
i know exactly what you are saying, i am going through the same situation here, i am not sharing who i really am with everyone, and that is what i need to work more on.
how did you figure that boogieman out, i am curious? and how do you feel after figuring it out now?
i’m taking a picture of that clown with me from now on. thanks. i know it’s all in my head. decapitation?
I’m going to have to rewatch Poltergeist so I can get an accurate mental image. Can’t wait to try it out!
Yeah. Sharon Stone scares me too. Well, experienced women scare me at least.
Thanks David.
OKAY! Now I remember the scene. Freaking clown. This clip made more sense. I was trying to figure out what Sharon Stone meant and wasn’t getting anywhere. New mental image to use. Great idea David.
Like Khiem says, I also do the same. I only open up and show my best sides to people I like or want to know and not the rest. Its a bad thing.
Btw, I never thought of boogeyman in this sense before lol.
There’s this other mindset I have that I’m not attractive or guys don’t really like me, (especially on stressful days). When in fact, I probably have gone on more dates and had more guys come at me than most of my girl friends.
This is a great quote from Franklin D. Roosevelt first Inaugural Address, love these little reminder.
“Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itselfâ€
And another from Buddha
The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.
Awesome Podcast David!!
So funny!
Love, love, loved this podcast
thanks for making me face my bogeyman david
THANK YOU DAVID!
Great podcast!
Lance,
I figured it out because I have good friends and good colleagues who point out things they see in me that are less than ideal.
Once in a while, it’s good to take a hard look at yourself so from time to time, if I don’t hear anything bad about me, I would invite my friends to tell me honestly what they think of me or what they think of what I do.
In this case, I heard something that I wasn’t pleased about so I started asking some of my coworkers and friends what they thought… and that’s how I figured it out.
How do I feel now? Better! I’m always looking for ways to grow and improve. I’ll be honest, I don’t always like what I hear… but you can only become more self aware if you truly listen.
Khium- thanks for sharing that!
i wish my friends done that more, people in my social circle seems to be in their head all the times, so i might need to get some new cool friends who can give me their honest critique you know buddy.
i agree on the listening part, i feel like more i listen to what david had to say and so is other coaches the more i felt better about myself, that’s the only constructive criticism i am getting now. I remember in the past i used to be too hard on myself, but now i am trying to accept myself more!
sorry i mean Khiem:)
I would love Sharon Stone as my bogeywoman, even if she is not Asian:-)
We even have an Asian Dan in here, wow! If this meetup ever happens we got to have it over dim sum:-) And Sandra will bring the sixpacks:-)
Marina: So you are a trader? With three kids? How do you manage? I have never met a trader who is stable yet:-)
hey khiem let me ask you a question, you tell people how to open up and become vulnerable, yet you don’t do it yourself, isn’t that interesting, is that part of those who can’t teach!!!?
you gave me shit for being a pua, and so now i am giving you some shit back.
how about if you expose yourself, then I will expose myself, is that a deal or what?
Dan,
I am totally under control…accordingly to my imaginary friend…
As in anything else you have to know yourself and your risk aversion…Too many traders do not spend enough time on that part. I a;m just small time own funds kind of thing…Used to work on Amex and NYSE, now that was fucking fun…but that fun is gone too..all in the name of progress.
Easy Howe you were more fun as a bunny…Khiem were very honest, like the rest of us he too is learning all the time.
Being a great teacher is more about being able to inspire others to evolve to the point that you no longer need the teacher, but have become your own.
howepua,
I’m not giving you shit for anything… I’m pointing out to you what I saw or know is true.
As far as your comment on “those who can’t do teach”… I’ll have to disagree with you. I do open up to more people than you know. The difference is I need to open up EVEN MORE because of what I do.
When you are a coach, there is no boundary between professional and private life… which is something I was trying to maintain for a while.
And thank you Marina.
I never pretend to know all the answers… but yes, the teacher is always as much as the student as the student is the teacher.
>>>>>>>>Being a great teacher is more about being able to inspire others to evolve to the point that you no longer need the teacher, but have become your own.
Great quote Marina!
Wall Street has been buried under its own shit, good to see you are out of that environment and save your dignity:-)
I am in the financial services industry too. Independent RIA, own firm, do things the right way. Since the LDay (L stands for Lehman) assets are down but my clients are all with me and sticking to the plan…it’s just in the meantime we are redefining what long term really means, lol.
Take easy with your trading, I never figured out how to do the short term trading thing at all. But in this environment I sure am reevaluating everything:-)
Dan,
Thanks, I have my moments of sheer genius….too bad I have not learned to be humble yet.
I have burned my fingers this year, as I my head was not in the game, but so what another day another trade..the law of abundance works there too.
Dignity..nah lost that when I started to flirt with Howe..LOL
>>>>>>Dignity..nah lost that when I started to flirt with Howe..LOL
You Wall Streeters never change, you are such sluts…LOL
Clint:
We never stop learning, its a process. We all have our ups and down, that is why it’s really important that you accept yourself in the moment whichever emotions you are going through. I liked what julia had to say to you.
This Is Hilarious LoL
Marina- that really hurts my feeling, i thought i was the best flirt you ever had:(
Sorry Howe that belongs to horny Lisa, no offense
Do pua’s have feelings?:-)
Oh David this is from the Twilight Zone: Don’t adjust your dial but look at your community site your goblins did a number on it your html is talking back to us… foot…etc…Be back need to listen to podcast…Enjoy the video but what about the women who look also and are scared to approach the guy as well?
When I went there this is what I seen
When I was a kid I would love to watch the Twilight Zone or Outer Limits the fear I had was being alone for the rest of my life….Fear of loosing someone close to me…These are the fears that I deal with everyday…
Dr Who: Oh fuck look behind you is that Freddie Kruger behind you? Do you remember the song the children sang in the beginning one two three four five six seven eight nine ten…Oh fuck I am alone and what is that I hear knocking at the door it must be Michael Myers….See I don’t care how many times someone uses fuck for the fuck and I go hand in hand…
howepua
I agree with you… I feel that people should speak what is on their mind even the best of friends gets mad at one another…
Oh when a guy sits and stares at me it makes me feel uncomfortable but I will look at them and smile sometimes I will get up and as I leave and they are still sitting there I will say hi to them to break the ice…but if they approach me I wonder what they are up too….But all in all I even stare out in space…
Never got into all of that Freddy/Jason hoopla. When we were little, besides the Twilight Zone, the flying monkeys in the Wizard of Oz always got us screaming. When I went away to college, I met dozens (!) of men who talked about how they never saw the movie all the way through for many years – their parents made them go to bed mid-movie because they cried every time the flying monkeys appeared! Need I say, it was a big deal for them to watch as adults and for the girls present to squeal when the flying monkeys came out – they got to be the comforter!
Seriously, I didn’t have a name or face for my bogeyman until I realized that I was much more open to strangers when I was already attached, even if the guy wasn’t around. When unattached, I was closed up and kept a noticeable distance from everyone…until someone pointed it out to me. Now that I know better, I have to try a lot harder because I found that it is totally automatic behavior and I saw no difference on my own! How’s THAT for oblivious?
Relating to Sandra,
I never really notice guys staring at me…
But a week or so back, I was in line at the Asian student club for some food. I looked around the room a bit. Then I notice a guy sitting on the couch looking at me with a grin. He was HOT with the bad boy-ish look and confidence! He looked so familiar and the fact that he was staring at me made me stare back at him to for who knows how long. I was just searching his face for a hint of who he was. I looked away. Then after a minute or something I looked back and he was STILL staring at me (dont know if he was the entire time) but we locked eyes again! I couldn’t say hi or smile though. =( Plus I was with the guy I kind of have a thing for so yep. bummer. That was such an intense and hot look from a guy that I still wonder who he is! haha.
Kismet,
Leave you in here for a couple of days and you are turning into a player…;-) What a flirt..
I am another who found these blogs a while back from Youtube, and I have been following them since. Today’s blog prompted me to add a post because it really rings true. I know that I have always had that force holding me back, but for me, it’s not just the Bogeyman. When I am out somewhere, it often feels like the Bogeyman, Freddy, Jason, Michael Myers, and Pinhead all jumped in the car with me to make the trip, and I have found this “monster army” to be a very powerful force. This blog and podcast really helped to spell it out in plain terms, and reinforces the first steps I need to take to overcome this force.
Kismet – Maybe it’s just his way of getting your attention without being intrusive or obnoxious! Wanna bet that it won’t be the last time that you see him?
if your current “possibility” hadn’t been with you, you could always do what my oh-so-gorgeous college roommate used to do (because EVERYONE stared at her ALL of the time): she would walk up to the person staring and ask if she knew them. If they said no and nothing else, she would reply, “Oh, I was wondering why you were staring at me so rudely” and then walk off. If they responded no and struck up a conversation from there, she would introduce herself and continue the conversation! If they had any balls, it usually turned into a date but often it didn’t because the guys didn’t do what David always tells them to do here! Seize the day!
Just for the record, my roommate’s sister confirmed a story of their family eating out in a nice restaurant and an older gentleman at another table of people stared at her for the duration of the entire meal. Later when the family was leaving, she stopped by his table and told the guy in front of his companions, “Good night, sir. I hope that you enjoyed my meal as much as I did” and walked off. The family just shrugged it off because it always happened to her.
kismet- why did you go up to him, if you were hot for him?
dan- i think i will soon change my name to horny howe:)
just like marina- will change hers to horny marina:)
and sandra to horny sandra:)
actually it will be cool if everyone here change their first name to horny……lol
Hey All
This was another amazing blog!!!
I knew this subject would get a great response.
Thanks!!
When I was 16 a gypsy stopped me on a train station. She asked for some money for food and said she would show me my worst enemy or my future wife. But i had to choose one. I told her I want to see my enemy.
Very swiftly she took out her mirror and showed it to me.
True story. Can’t say I learned my lesson back then. And I still wonder what would happen if I asked to see the future wife.
howepua
I am for that vote horny sandra to your rescue baby….:)
>>>>>you could always do what my oh-so-gorgeous college roommate used to do (because EVERYONE stared at her ALL of the time)
Just wondering…Was she Asian or a blonde?
Great blog David. I think the bogeyman is the no. 1 killer when it comes to meeting women.
Whenever your bogeyman talks to you – corrupts your mind – you communicate those negative thoughts and feelings to all of those around you.
You’ll never be able to tell exactly what will happen when you approach a woman, most of the human population are not clairvoyant and cannot predict the future so stop making up reasons not to do the things that you desire to do – just do it and you’ll be better for it.
Yup, this podcast definitely hit a spot. My bogeyman is just non-stop monkey chatter (probably closer to an entire zoo in my head) that tries to read minds and infers the worst out of every questionable look or gesture a woman gives me. It’s always telling me, “she doesn’t like you” or “there’s no chance she’ll talk to you” or variations on that theme… I can’t count how many times the bogeyman has deterred me from doing things I’ve wanted to do.
Well, this weekend, the bootcamp begins a new chapter. Live in the moment, live in abundance, and stop assuming everything. Glad to have David on my side, because I can’t coach myself through this quite yet (the bogeyman’s inevitably going to pop in and discourage me.)
Sri–Maybe the bogeyman can scare away all the animals in your head!!:). Glad you are experiencing the Bootcamp which will help you surrender all of those thoughts that stop you, to let go and have fun in the moment!
Great blog!!! Fear is usually the common culprit that stops us from moving forward with anything in life…
I used to have a boogie man, that lived in the basement of our house. While sleeping I would look down the stairs and like a fool would yell at him. For almost 30 years I was chased everwhere by him. Out my backyard, down the subway in New York, up the Empire State Building, I’ ve been everwhere with that sucker!!! I got interested in martial arts (Tae Chon Do) and one night I yelled down the stairs at him, this time I stood my ground and choked the shit out of him. He had this oval shaped head with snakes coming out the sides. I never saw that boogie man again!!
Great podcast David, A little more than your more fire and enthusiasm, something really lit a fire in your behind. All the truth and lots of fun listening. Paul Loughner
Freddie, Jason, Michael Myers, the Clown, Jaws, but I’m surprised no one here has mentioned THIS famous bogeyman in sheep’s clothing:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbH0wp_2vPQ&fmt=18
and here
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwhYW47d8W4&fmt=18
“Norman?!”
“Yes Mother!”
Norman on the outside was a very very very very nice, sweet, milktoast, namby pamby momma’s boy. Quiet, a bit awkward, especially around women who wanted to keep to himself. Perhaps his “issues” as we call it today came from his relationship with his mother. So most women and girls would have said about him if they’d been honest, “He’s a real sweet guy, kinda quiet and awkward, though. He’s nice, but there’s just something…not quite right about him. Honestly, he creeps me out. And he still lives with his mother!! EWWWWW!!!”
So on the outside, he was a nice, sweet guy, if a little quiet & awkward, but that facade concealed a cold blooded, psycho killer seriously screwed up in the head. And ya know, the recent Craigslist Killer had a neighbor who said about him, “He was such a nice, sweet guy.”
And Jeffrey Dahmer was a very quiet and shy person, but no one considered him really dangerous. Until the cops & the feds found the half eaten bodies of over 20 young boys buried in his backyard.
And speaking of cannibals, let’s not forget this bogeyman!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5CkMbSfA9Q&feature=related&fmt=18
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBLhYLAfozU&feature=related7&fmt=18
So before you approach and smile at a woman at the supermarket, coffeeshop, or club or wherever, practice beforehand in the mirror so you won’t have that kind of psychotic look or smile on your face.
Wygant’s a joke
Speaking of bogeymen in Scary Movie Two: I remember the part where the clown was sitting in the chair waiting for the black guy to come in the bedroom but to the clown’s surprise the black guy was guy well the clown was trying to scare him but the black man ended up underneath the bed but what was so funny is when the clown said no not there…And looked with a o on his face..I laughed so hard I had to see it again.
In Mask where Jim Carrey and his dog ended up with the mask the part where the bad guy was going to be ugly the dog decided to take a piss on the guy I laughed till I cried…
Thundercat –
Wow man, what a powerful insult you’ve got there!
Is that the best you can come up with?
Sounds like what David said in this blog and podcast maybe hit a nerve with you…
Maybe using stupid PUA nicknames is Thundercat’s Bogeyman…
Well David, you have about 100 people who think this was an unbelievably amazing podcast, and then one Thundercat who thinks you’re a joke.
I am defeating my personal Bogeyman – not standing up for myself – by standing up for you and telling Thundercat I think HE is a joke
We all put masks on to either hide our love or fear and I think it’s true that the Bogeyman started when we were very young. The fear that maybe not everyone will love us or that we’re unlovable or that there are people to be scared of. The realization through this, is that it’s ok to be loved and it’s ok to love, warts and all. Be at peace with your bogeyman/woman.
Marina:
I need to do more than physically/facially attract guys though. I need to work on conversations.
I’m barely a flirt. Can’t help it if the fellas dig me
K:
I enjoyed your response, especially the dinner story! Anyways, if I go to that student group room again, maybe I’ll see him eventually! Too bad the semester is almost over…
Howe:
I couldn’t because 1) I was in line for dumplings. I don’t want to give that up haha. 2) I was with the cutie who was caught up in “drama” between my friend and I. 3) I don’t approach guys and honestly, I’m a bit scared to. Unless he was standing near me, I would talk to him.
Kismet – make a point to get yourself back to that student group room BEFORE semester’s end…and GO ALONE! You don’t have to talk but you could at least practice making eye contact! It’s just a non-verbal invitation that you won’t blow them off…
Well that room is always occupied with its members and I feel a bit awkward walking into it and introducing myself. Maybe I’ll getmy friend to introduce me or go with me since he’s in it. :d