I think having an abundance mentality definitely implies that you have the confidence and knowledge that you can meet and connect with new people despite the past “closed doors”.

But to me, revisiting some old contacts is not necessarily to rekindle a connection that didn’t exist before… it’s really to give a 2nd look at someone who you know you’ve had something but may not have given the proper time or effort given the timing of the first meeting.

Sometimes, i just like to see what my old friend/acquaintance is doing.

Anyway, you make a good point in trying to make re-connections. If we think about, that is the most important task in calling someone the next day if you met them at a bar or club the night before. The first thing you need to do is re-connect and bring up those great emotions when you two met the night before. You almost instantaneously generate momentum and it’s a cool feeling because it makes it seem like you guys have been friends for a while.

But even if you’re not attracted to them in that way, but still thought they were a cool person, it’s worth looking into again. The one cool thing about life is that no one can forget a good interaction. And you can have as many of them a day. Soon enough, you’ll have tons of people to converse with. It’s pretty cool.

My suggestion would be to give someone a call back and say what’s up. That’s all it takes to generate some conversation. Hopefully you’ll be able to pick up where you left off.

David thanks you for commenting to my post.

I have probably didn’t explain myself properly, so I will try to explain myself again that there will be no misunderstanding on this issue.

Let’s take these sentences that I have written, and that you have pointed out:

“I think that the average guy main problem is that he is too much emotional and sentimental, and less factual and rational”.

I meant that the average guy is too much emotional when he thinks about contacting women from his past. He doesn’t think like this:

If I will contact 20 women, 15 may reject me, but the other 5 may be interested in starting a relationship.

This is why I put the term salesmanship – meaning – a numbers game.

I was relating to this:

“You never know. If you throw ten of those out there, two of them might come back. The women might think to themselves, oh yeah, David – what a good guy!”

In my post, I have kind of agreed with what David was saying, but probably didn’t explain it very well.

I do think that, like David said, that it is crucial for men to be excited, and speak in stories for women to melt.

Yet, this is not what I talked about.

I will try to make my posts more clear from now on.

I totally disgaree.

I think and know that men talk in facts and do not spent enough time emotinally getting excited when they speak.

They lack the power of how to tell a story and speak in facts and that is why women can not relate or connect emotionally and sexually to a lot of men.

If a man can speak in stories women will melt at their feet.

The rest of the post is interesting but i would eliminate the term sales man,

You are not selling yourself if you are 100% confident and in love with yourself.

I can go on and on and on about this.

You picked up a great topic.

You have some good insight for a guy in his 20s but the world is much deeper,

You are in great place right now figuring out who you are as a man and as a man how you relate to women and others in the world.

Self growth is very powerful!!!!

I am out need to go pay attention to my black lab and look for a new place to live.
I want to live by the beach

Moreover, he doesn’t realize that dating is very much like selling.

Even the most beautiful, handsome, rich guy on the planet must take continues action if he wants to be successful with women.

Some may say that his “product” is much more compelling than the “product” of its competitors, but still he must “market” his “product” if he wants people to “buy” it.

We are all full time sales people, yet some of us are unaware or don’t want to be aware of it.

Don’t believe me??

Consider this:

When you want to catch a movie with your friend, don’t you sometime engage in a conversation like this one?

The proposal:

You: “Let’s go out, and catch the NEW HORROR MOVIE”.

The objection:

Your Friend: “I don’t know, I didn’t really hear any good reviews about this movie…”

Trying to solve the objection:

You: “I know what you mean, I heard a lot of people telling me the same thing, but I can tell you that after they have seen it they thought it was the best movie that they have ever seen in their lives

You friend: “Sounds great, yet I don’t…”

Closing the deal with incentive:

You: “Look…let’s go to this move, and if it will be bad I will give you 5 dollars”

You: “Moreover, I promise I will invite Jane with us”

Your friend: Jane! – you mean the girl with the big boo..I am coming!

This is just an example, of how we sell our ideas.

For some reason we believe that if we do it in certain areas of our lives it is natural, but if we do it with our interactions with women it’s embarrassing.

We all need to be full time sales people in order to achieve success with women.

Here are just 5 simple steps:

1. We need to go to the “field” to get people interested in our “product”.

2. Some may not want our “product” (or may have another “product” in place), yet some may show interest by giving us their contact details (phone, email, messenger…)

3. We need to contact our “prospects” for the hope of turning them to “clients” (maybe even “lifelong clients”).

4. We need to keep our new “clients” happy by showing them that we are exactly what THEY NEED in order for them to feel good in life (we need to show them that they must have our “product”, and we show it to them by manifesting perpetual manhood”.

5. We need to contact the old prospects that have showed interest in our “product” in the past for the hope of turning them to casual clients or maybe even “lifelong clients”.

If a guy can do this little switch in his head from a baffled lover to a “only facts” logical cold sales man, he will achieve any kind of endeavor he wants in life.

All a guy needs to do is to throw his “fishing rod” to his “lifelong sea of fish” – and who knows some “forgotten fishes” may become his “future feast”.

Thought is our obstacle to success, let’s bypass it and head forward.

Dave – I would normally agree with you. Once a door is closed learn from it, leave it closed, and move on with your life. But sometimes you have this gut feeling that the door is still slightly cracked open, you have to recognize that and decide when the timing is right to act.

I went out with a woman a few times and had a stronger connection with her than I’ve had with anyone else in a LONG time. She told me she felt the same connection but that the timing wasn’t right for her and she couldn’t continue to see me (this was in July/August and there are more details to the story than I care to list here). I didn’t question it, respected it, and wished her luck. The last I talked with her was a few months ago. About a week ago I sent her an email with no real agenda just to see how she was doing and reintroduce some of the topics (and humor) we had been talking about earlier. She responded in a very friendly way and we’ve exchanged a few emails since. Based on the emails she obviously had thought of me since we last spoke. If things go further great, if they don’t that’s fine as well. Nothing lost, nothing gained, but I will never question myself about why I didn’t try one more time with this woman.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!