Comments on: Listen Outside Your Comfort Zone http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 22:24:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Yakov http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-33023 Yakov Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:41:24 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-33023 Another version of this is the assumer that takes one thing you say and dumps all of his or her preconceived stereotypical notions on you. You say you respect President Obama, and instantly they see you as a left-wing, pro-abortion, bleeding heart liberal who hates America. You mention two woman friend's names in a conversation and you are labeled as a shallow insensitive player who really hates and uses women. You say people have a legal right to own guns and you are tagged as a racist, violent thug. I've run into several of these types recently, and I just walk away. Reality in all it's subtle complexity can't begin to penetrate their biases. Another version of this is the assumer that takes one thing you say and dumps all of his or her preconceived stereotypical notions on you.

You say you respect President Obama, and instantly they see you as a left-wing, pro-abortion, bleeding heart liberal who hates America. You mention two woman friend’s names in a conversation and you are labeled as a shallow insensitive player who really hates and uses women. You say people have a legal right to own guns and you are tagged as a racist, violent thug.

I’ve run into several of these types recently, and I just walk away. Reality in all it’s subtle complexity can’t begin to penetrate their biases.

]]> By: Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32833 Khiem/Ken (DW Coach) Tue, 27 Oct 2009 03:54:35 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32833 So C-Man, how are you getting these women on the blog? I'm really curious of what you are telling them hehe So C-Man, how are you getting these women on the blog? I’m really curious of what you are telling them hehe

]]> By: Natasha http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32599 Natasha Sat, 24 Oct 2009 08:52:19 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32599 Oh my god I love your blog and this particular entry sounded like you were talking to me. I come from a very abusive family(domestic violence and emotional abuse) and i think i still carry all that rejection and pain in my interactions with men. I am twenty two-years-old and attractive yet i find it very hard to meet men. It is like i have already decided in my head that the guy doesn't like me (even though he has given no indication what so ever) and in turn I am the one who is rejecting myself. Maybe i think i am not worth it and prefer to stay safe in my negativity. Many times i don't listen to what they are saying and assume the worst. But this entry really helped me see myself and what i am doing wrong. I am so trapped in my negativity. I need to address my problems before i can even start being there for someone else. I need to be there for myself first. Thanks for reminding me of that David. Natasha Mumbai India. Oh my god
I love your blog and this particular entry sounded like you were talking to me.
I come from a very abusive family(domestic violence and emotional abuse) and i think i still carry all that rejection and pain in my interactions with men. I am twenty two-years-old and attractive yet i find it very hard to meet men. It is like i have already decided in my head that the guy doesn’t like me (even though he has given no indication what so ever) and in turn I am the one who is rejecting myself. Maybe i think i am not worth it and prefer to stay safe in my negativity.
Many times i don’t listen to what they are saying and assume the worst.
But this entry really helped me see myself and what i am doing wrong. I am so trapped in my negativity.
I need to address my problems before i can even start being there for someone else. I need to be there for myself first.
Thanks for reminding me of that David.

Natasha
Mumbai
India.

]]> By: C-Man http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32559 C-Man Thu, 22 Oct 2009 22:27:13 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32559 David, talking about assuming, all this week I've approached women of all ages, and guess what? Nothing negative happened!!!! none of the "slap me; puke on me; reject me, call me ugly; or get away from me" happened. lol they were all nice, and I use the "walk away" thing which got some of them to find me later around Wal Mart. ;D only this one girl at school, I don't know why, but since recently whenever I say hi to her, she just look ahead and don't say anything. I don't know what I did to make her pissed at or something, but who cares? she's not that hot anyway. my sister is hotter than her. lol Finally, it's all about living life for you. looking the world from the positive really makes things great for you and your surroundings. I see it and living it. ;D p.s: David, you should start paying me now because I'm having women come to your blogs now because they want to know more about us. ;D I'm busting my balls to bring you "customers", so I deserve an award or something; maybe you coming to Dallas, Texas to host a seminar and I'll bring those women. David, talking about assuming, all this week I’ve approached women of all ages, and guess what? Nothing negative happened!!!! none of the “slap me; puke on me; reject me, call me ugly; or get away from me” happened. lol they were all nice, and I use the “walk away” thing which got some of them to find me later around Wal Mart. ;D

only this one girl at school, I don’t know why, but since recently whenever I say hi to her, she just look ahead and don’t say anything. I don’t know what I did to make her pissed at or something, but who cares? she’s not that hot anyway. my sister is hotter than her. lol

Finally, it’s all about living life for you. looking the world from the positive really makes things great for you and your surroundings. I see it and living it. ;D

p.s: David, you should start paying me now because I’m having women come to your blogs now because they want to know more about us. ;D I’m busting my balls to bring you “customers”, so I deserve an award or something; maybe you coming to Dallas, Texas to host a seminar and I’ll bring those women.

]]> By: Will http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32543 Will Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:42:38 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32543 Solid article! A very holistic mindset when it comes to listening and relating to people. Like, Michael had mentioned two comments above this one, this stuff is part of a solid foundation in terms of connecting with anyone and everyone of all stripes and colours - as well as being charismatic in general. I'm off to stumble and tweet this as well! Solid article! A very holistic mindset when it comes to listening and relating to people.

Like, Michael had mentioned two comments above this one, this stuff is part of a solid foundation in terms of connecting with anyone and everyone of all stripes and colours – as well as being charismatic in general.

I’m off to stumble and tweet this as well!

]]> By: Amy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32521 Amy Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:36:07 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32521 Amen. I admit that I have been guilty of this too- I think we all have at some point. I used to think along the lines of "what did I do wrong?" but then came to the realization it didn't necessarily have anything to do with me. We get so wrapped up in ourselves sometimes that we forget that everyone has their own experiences. If we really want to have good relationships, we need to listen. Thanks David. Amen. I admit that I have been guilty of this too- I think we all have at some point. I used to think along the lines of “what did I do wrong?” but then came to the realization it didn’t necessarily have anything to do with me. We get so wrapped up in ourselves sometimes that we forget that everyone has their own experiences. If we really want to have good relationships, we need to listen. Thanks David.

]]> By: Michael http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32520 Michael Wed, 21 Oct 2009 01:42:39 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32520 This is so important, so bedrock. We live in a society that seems to put a premium on reacting as quickly as possible and assuming the worst motives. It's not easy to fix this - I'm certainly not yet perfect about it - but a world where everyone really listened would definitely have fewer problems and much less stress (although some talk radio personalities would be out of a job!). I'm off to tweet and Stumble this. This is so important, so bedrock.

We live in a society that seems to put a premium on reacting as quickly as possible and assuming the worst motives. It’s not easy to fix this – I’m certainly not yet perfect about it – but a world where everyone really listened would definitely have fewer problems and much less stress (although some talk radio personalities would be out of a job!).

I’m off to tweet and Stumble this.

]]> By: Charles http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32519 Charles Wed, 21 Oct 2009 01:37:36 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32519 I heard this once and it fits perfect with todays blog. When you assume, you make an ASS out of both U & ME. Thanx David. Hope your trip is going well. I heard this once and it fits perfect with todays blog. When you assume, you make an ASS out of both U & ME. Thanx David. Hope your trip is going well.

]]> By: Diego R+R http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/listen-outside-your-comfort-zone/2341/#comment-32515 Diego R+R Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:35:00 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=2341#comment-32515 "A lot of people in life are “assumers.” Assumers always assume the worst because that is the way people have always treated them. It is the way they have always been treated by everyone in their mind. They have always been rejected, or they will reject themselves before anyone else can reject them." Guilty as charged, David! Back in high school, I was what you would call a loser. When girls wanted to make fun of each other, they used me. They were pretty much the hottest/richest/most spoiled in town, and I didn't really knew anybody else, so I guess my head got stuck in that mode... until I found your site! Thanks man, my life sure is changing now! “A lot of people in life are “assumers.” Assumers always assume the worst because that is the way people have always treated them. It is the way they have always been treated by everyone in their mind.

They have always been rejected, or they will reject themselves before anyone else can reject them.”

Guilty as charged, David! Back in high school, I was what you would call a loser. When girls wanted to make fun of each other, they used me. They were pretty much the hottest/richest/most spoiled in town, and I didn’t really knew anybody else, so I guess my head got stuck in that mode… until I found your site! Thanks man, my life sure is changing now!

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