Since you like using “hope”, I would hope that the women you desire are those who are attracted to your core personality and who you really are. A woman that you truly desire should be a woman that shares some of your similarities and accepts your shortcomings. She should be someone who is attracted to you, but most importantly you should ask yourself if you like her. Once you look at it that way it will increase your confidence and help you to hopefully (jk) attract that woman. But once you open yourself up women who you truly desire will be there.

David – I agree that I need to change my attitude, I feel pressure and freeze up when I see women at a party, especially if they’re already being entertained by other guys.

But I will defend using “hopefully.” Nothing in life is guaranteed because each individual has little control over their world, only their perception of it, which is one’s “attitude.” Saying something like “I hopefully will become a great writer who sells a script” doesn’t seem like a bad minset. Removing “hopefully” makes it become a truthful statement, when there’s really no guarantee. I will work hard at making that statement come true, but there is no guarantee I will produce a script that can be sold.

I think being hopeful, is optimistic.
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Concerning expectation, I do have them. Expectations of myself, like being a writer or one day being a great boyfriend to a great woman.

I agree that one should be open to people, places, etc. But I’ve been open to new people, often at social gathering where I’ve spent the evening having good conversations but never attracting the women that appeal to me. So it seems I should not just be “open,” there has to be more to it than that. Is the other half the courage to converse with desirable women?

Finally, that last part on to “see how your energy attracts women into your life.” I agree with it but I want my energy to attract the women I desire. Often I can easily charm women I’m not attracted too b/c I’m less nervous and they are much more responsive to me and show genuine interest. However I am not into them.

My goal is to take my energy and self and be able to use to attract the beautiful, smart, funny women I desire. Thoughts?

People that you might never have given your attention to suddenly change and become more interesting which leads to more fun and maybe even attraction and ooh, a connection! There was a quote that was something like (can’t remember the man who said it) “There is nothing so attractive to me as a woman who finds ME interesting.” Now imagine if YOU went out of your way to FIND out what was interesting about a woman you cross paths with (perhaps in your bar scenario) – she just might find you worth responding to. Now think about that!

It is my unbiased opinion that indeed David Wygant and Coach Khiem or Ken are correct on this one. When you relax and “Let ya nuts hang”, it seems to attract women a lot more and you have more fun than hoping you can get you some. I am starting to realize this and I experienced this first hand. Not expecting anything in return is something that you should try. Hoping brings anxiety into every approach, and women can sense this. Trust me I am out doing this and it works. Good Luck!

Really only handsome dudes and celebrities get pined over.

Man your mindset is a mess. YOu have no idea what attraction is really about.

You have come to the right place its time for a big time attitude adjustment.

You have the wrong mindset.

Using the word hopefully a few times in your post tells me that you do not believe in it happening.

Hopefully you will win the lottery and never be poor.

See how that sounds?

Instead go out have fun create attraction stay present in the moment and stop thinking about how many women you will speak with and just have fun and see how your energy attracts women into your life.

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The alternative to not having expectation is to say “I will go to this bar, hopefully something will happen.” No expectations + no action = nothing (unless you’re a celebrity or very handsome dude women pine over)

thoughts?