But my race/ethnicity makes me unique to an extent until I have my individuality.

We’ve started asking eachother on dates and whatnot. I just don’t want to start thinking that he would think I’m the “erotic” or whatever asian girl stereotype people have made for asian women just because I am or can be comfortable with him. It’s all confusing but for now, no worries.

And yes, you don’t see many average-looking women with hot guys, but likewise with women – you don’t see too many hot women with guys of average wealth or social status, unless the men are good looking too. Men will usually have something – finance, fame, or a dominating personality, to make up for their lack of looks.

You only will know by going out and getting to know him. Does he seem to appreciate you for your uniqueness or just for your race?

And as far as the blog topic goes… I like to look for intimacy… that feeling of love and connectedness and passion all at the same time.

Where’s the line between a white guy having an asian fetish, and a white guy just liking an asian girl for who she is?

The first thought that came to mind when I saw Gerald Butler’s character, I thought of David Wygant. [This is not meant to be an offense in any way]

As a girl we have a lot of stereotyping if we have sex with someone just because we feel like it, here men are hard on girls and right off the bat labels them as cheap. It boils down to honesty and being true to your word. I have no problems with a guy just wanting to have sex and not a relationship as long as he is honest about it.

But I have to say you still see more “mediocre/average” men with hot girls and not so much the other way around. Very few really hot/succesful men date/marry “mediocre/average” women. I hate even using these terms but not sure how else to explain. Afraid of sounding as if I stereotype there still seem to be a larger number of men wanting the “hot” girls and not looking at the whole person. As a girl I know I am attracted to how he makes me feel and how he treats me not how he looks.

Basically, men have the same range of feelings and desires that women have. But most of those are considered “unmanly” by society. Boys don’t cry!

And while girls spend a lot of time exploring their feelings and sharing with their friends, boys spend a lot of time fighting their feelings and denying them in front of their friends… up to the point where they are no longer in contact with their own feelings.

The desire for sex is one of the few feelings that is “allowed” for men for two obvious reasons. First because it is so strong that cannot be denied, and secondly because it is needed for procreation.

I think in order to become a “real man”, one needs to accept the full range of his own feelings and not be ashamed of them. But in order to accept them, we first need to get in touch with them again, which is not too easy.

Not so bad, been working a lot lately, finally had the chance to checkout the blog.

its a refreshment to be here and how are you doing?