Comments on: Leave Your Personal Stuff Behind

By: dating

dating — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 16:45:21 +0000

Guys want to hear the good things even about them to make them feel good. I remember i met this guy on a website who wanted me to tell him how good he was of a chatter. That was way too much

By: Rencontre

Rencontre — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 15:57:56 +0000

Yep, this is a, I would say, common sense to give this advice. Sometimes you will be eager to talk a bit too much and show the weaknesses that won’t hurt that much, but leave everything, don’t talk and have a good date.
Good article.

By: Cathy J

Cathy J — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 23:11:27 +0000

I like the idea of being on a stage and leaving our personal stuff behind.

Re a mum or a significant other, we do need to be there to listen when they vent (to a certain extent). Negativity is not good, however losing that communication with loved ones is even worse – it will lead to the breakdown of that relationship.

Why not encourage others if they are angry to feel it – go for a workout! or if they are sad, hold them then do something fun. Or just listen even for ten minutes.

Healing is in the expression of the feeling… then move on to the good stuff. This builds relationships with significant others.

For the rest of the world – yes, for sure, be happy and carefree!!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:11:41 +0000

Thank dear David isa very good advice.

By: Mario

Mario — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 07:12:40 +0000

Wow guys. I do this all the time with my friends!! Now I see how that can be really annoying!!

By: Farley

Farley — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 23:31:13 +0000

Telling others your personal crap, gives the impression that you have a fucked up life. NOT attractive.
I know a friend who always has problems with her parents. She never tells me about it, because she does not want to bother me with it. I think she made a good choice.

Better to be leaders of our lives than victims of it.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 17:55:52 +0000

how about when it’s the significant other that talks personal crap? Constant complaints about their day yet you are ‘obligated’ to listen and sympathize because you’re in a serious relationship with them…. Same with when he talks to my friends when they ask him how he’s doing. What do you do then? I am in that situation. Negativity just kills the mood.

By: Mika

Mika — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 17:55:32 +0000

By: Kevin

Kevin — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 13:44:36 +0000

I can’t stand personal crap and I don’t give anyone my own personal crap because no one wants to hear it..I don’t call my mother cause it’s the same thing over and over each time…She tells me all about her problems then tells me she has to go and hangs up…I don’t even bother anymore

By: Tommi

Tommi — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 09:20:36 +0000

Very good advice David, that’s very annoying when someone walks to you and starts talking about personal crap. It’s the most important thing to leave a positive first impression.