I know what you mean. There is a connection to made somewhere.

And you’re welcome.

HALLOWEEN IS COMING UP….I’M SO EXCITED TO SEE KIDS AGAIN WITH THEIR VERY CUTE OUTFITS! advance happy halloween everyone!!!

The fact that women can’t and never will be friends with a man the way she’s friends with a woman, isn’t true in my own circle. In my case, I have two childhood bestfriends, and they’re male and female. Everything that has happened to me or has made me happy or embarassed or is about to happen or anything I fear to result from my plans in mind, I always could run to either of them, or to both of them at the same time if they happen to be together at the moment. And no, my male bff isn’t gay. The only different outcome is that I get a man’s point of view, and also a woman’s point of view. I don’t agree 90% that there is no interest if there is no attraction, between two opposite sexes who are friends. Because I, have so many male friends in my entire life that I can’t even count anymore, and not all of them showed a hint of attraction. Meaning, some of them did made it obvious(but didn’t make a move to take it to the dating level), and most of them didn’t. A very few though did took it to the dating level. lol. So it’s not applicable to every man and woman who are friends. And I know that when you’re attracted to a woman, it’s not that easy to just put her in the friend zone and actually become platonic friends. You’ll either go introduce yourself, try to know a lil more about her and then ask her out, OR, you spend days and days wondering how on earth you’re gonna approach her in a way that she won’t say no. People of both sexes who become friends without intentions, sometimes attraction grows later on or never at all.

To answer your question . I would say yes , we are destined to fail.

However I am only lying to myself to beleive that because( and I know this), there are exceptions to every circumstance that are beyond any control kinda like free radicals . For instance, I do believe that two horrible people can be a absolutely perfect match for eachother . So predicting everything is an immposibility.

I like your approach , thanks for the fresh air.

Real Man

But anyway, life is all about learning and repetition. Simple as that. You just gotta go out there and learn.

Having places that are familiar to you is great! The great thing about those places is that they are always cards you can play at any time of the night. You can use those places to warm you up before you go into a new place. And if you are just looking to hang out and you’re by yourself, you can ALWAYS go there and talk to people you know…or don’t know depending on how comfortable you are in that place.

Never give up on a chance to learn.

REAL MAN, don’t worry. I don’t think anyone is going to go after you like we did Dr. Anne last week. I see your points and they make sense.

My question to you is this: You describe the world that we live in. Are you saying that if you live your life having those opposite traits, that we are destined to fail in love?

Men and women cannot and never will be friends the way that a man is friends with another man. Nor can a women be friends with a man the way that she is friends with a woman. I base this on the basic principle of attraction. If there is no attraction, there is no interest. Either one or the other feels an attraction and is the motivator for the friendship. We all understand where attractions between men and women lead.

Now, unless your the kind of guy that played “house, or barbies, or other girly stuff ” with girls when you were a kid (in which case you are probably gay, really though, no offense) you would have to admit , that girls/ women are completely annoying. They are the exact opposite of what a man has in a friendship with another man. ( that’s why I cynically said ” men and women just have so much in common”, get it now? it’s o.k. you probably don’t)

DanTheOriginal, Just to clear the air : No ,I have never had a “friend” take my girl.

I do not base this opinion on anything that has happened to “me” in my life.

It is based on decades of exact observation , with precise understanding of human emotion and chemistry, combined with open eyes and realistic comprehension of the world around us.

I have seen so many people fail/ lose in love because of the moral views that this word forces on us all . We live in a time and place where most everything is self serving , instant , on demand, disposable , and under appreciated . The quote ” Plenty of fish in the sea ” Is a double edge sword, because many people throw away or waste a good thing , just out of the mediated curiosity for the bigger / better deal.

For all of you to understand : D.W. does give sound advise in many areas of dating , just not THIS particular area.

And for any man that has had a “woman friend” that ended up together in a relationship…..well the “proof is in the pudding” now isn’t it ?

My views are realistic , not “bitter ” I am only trying to save you and everyone else the pain of finding out the hard way.

I wish you all happy lives and success in love, just please be honest with yourselves about the things you portray. ( btw ,I am not some religious zealot, or sociopath, just an honest person)

respectfully ,

REAL MAN

P.S. To David Himself . I want to thank you for the opportunity to voice my opinion , I apologize if it is just too real and close to home for so many people. I actually care about everybody , deeply,whether I agree with them or not, so relax everything is going to be ok

Two things:

1. If a woman can’t figure out that another man is only friends because he wants to bang her… she’s a little loose in the skull… and

2. If a woman isn’t number one… and STILL lets the guy stick around, then lets be honest, she ain’t too happy about the way things are going down in the current relationship.

Either way… it’s her choice to keep him around.

If I’m the guy… and I can sense that my woman has one of these guys around… I’m concerned because of the first reason mainly (she’s an idiot)…

Once I determine it’s not number one… then I’m gone… ’cause I know where it’s gonna end up.

If anything… guys like this are a blessing in disguise… they tell you where you’re really at with your women… and where she is with you…

Now, what you DO with that information… determines whether you’re a dumb ass or not… (and I mean that in the nicest possible way… lol)

He’s got a couple of nice conversation starters that I’ll be using the next time I’m at the Tate.