Its Saturday and we are having a great bootcamp. One guy already had this amazing breakthrough, he was so shy when he flew here yesterday and last night he was able to approach any woman he saw.
Its awesome when I see someone transform and really break through their fears.
Today’s blog is something we go over in all the bootcamps.
Also check out the bootcamp schedule on the home page. Only 3 more left this year!
I’m all about creating positive energy wherever I go, because to me, life is a party. If you’re not going to go out there and enjoy every single moment of every single day, then you are just wasting your time.
You should never be waiting to talk to the hot girl – you should talk to everybody. For women it’s the same thing – if you wait to do that, then you’re no different than the bad pinch hitter.
You know, there’s always that guy – the Cubs have one, the Mets have one – where the bases are loaded, it’s the bottom of the 14th and he’s the last guy on the bench, right? And you’re thinking, oh, man, what the hell? Why is he up?
Or it’s like the third-string quarterback. If you’re a Bears fan, all you have is third-string quarterbacks. That team has gone from being good to being bad again so quickly – it’s unbelievable how quickly they went from the Superbowl to being 4-12. I just cannot get over that.
Anyway, let’s go back to this experience we had today in my friend Barry’s clothing store in Brentwood, why I talked to this certain person and how.
When I walk into a store, I’m observing everything. Today, a man walked in with his two little daughters. I started talking to the little girls. I said, “are you picking out clothes for daddy today?” They answered, “oh yes, we are.”
Then Rey picked up on that and he found out from the guy that his daughters were getting him a birthday present. He told Rey that it was his 40th birthday. It’s all about gathering information.
What is this good for? Well, first off, if you’re interested in people, others can tell that about you. When you go into the store, and you’re chatting with other people, other customers will walk in and observe this banter going back and forth. And they will become instantly attracted to you and want to participate in the conversation as well. You become attractive because you are leading the conversation.
And you never know who is going to come in while you are putting on this show. A beautiful woman might come into the store, and if she sees this going on – she sees the daughters talking to you, the father talking to you – she wants in.
Everyone wants in. People walk around with sticks up their asses all day long and they are attracted to people with good energy. That’s the first thing about it.
The second thing about talking to everyone is that it gives you the opportunity to build up your social network. You’ll always run into people over and over again.
You might be out at a sushi restaurant in Chicago or LA, and there’s the guy that you saw in the store. It was his birthday, he was there with his daughters, you remember these things about him, and now he’s sitting there with his wife and her HOT friend.
You walk over and say, “oh hey man, I remember you from when you were shopping with your daughters for your birthday. How’d that day go?” That’s it. You remember everything. That’s the reasoning behind talking to everyone.
I go over all of this and much more in my Mens Mastery Series. Click here for more details.
Todays video is a secret hidden place to meet women.
Yes! Thank you! That’s exactly how I feel about it too. I LOVE talking to people and getting information from them. It’s just fun! Awesome! I am still having trouble approaching people and managing my energy though. I can’t seem to project that good energy all the time. What would be a good product for that for women?
hi Gabrielle,
love your enthusiasm!
as for your question, don’t worry about projecting good energy all the time. just be authentic. It’s ok to share your nervousness, frustration, sadness with others, as long as you don’t make it their fault, and you might be surprised how they respond to your willingness to be vulnerable.
I was at Burning Man a couple weeks ago riding on an art car, and suddenly was overwhelmed by memories. I started crying and told the people around me exactly what I was feeling and why. A woman took my hand and comforted me, and a man offered sweet words, and within five minutes not only was I happy again, but we had all bonded. It’s ok to feel exactly how you feel in the moment!!
David, I love you you teach to connect with everyone. Everyone has something to offer us, even if it’s just sharing a moment.
Great blog today David! I love getting information throughout the interaction! No only is it attractive to be interested in people, but it can also help you make a more intelligent close with that one really cute girl when she comes along
Dating lately has been a disastor. But the story about you streaking and going complety against the grain.
Reminded me of a partcular halloween.
I made this 6 foot “Vagina” for a costume.
I wanted to go totally unpredictable. Totall shockvalue, yet safe.
Well two years later I still talk about the uncanny reason why I got Literally about 200 gorgeous girls coming up to me to have their photo taken with me, in this totally, I thought vulgar costume.
Becuase it went against the norm. No I don’t suggest wearing one all year long.
Just safely act like you dont care. Easily said, yes. But the few times that I’ve done it my life, where I made a sober spectcle of myself besides a costume, it has worked.
Another time Iwas sitting in front of the “Magic Kingdom” castle (sober) with friends,kids, family.
waiting for a parade.
Huge crowd just waiting. A poor worker is hopelessly trying to make thecrowd happy while they wait.
I would scream out loud, to show my enthusiasm. Me alone of course.
She comes to me, sais would you like to help me.
I said sure, she starts to walk, with no plans. Just assumng I’d wave my hand or something.
I was sarcstic and made a silly walk, faces behind her bck, Like I did not care.
All of the sudden people are laughing. I run up an down the little road with a hand towel.
Surrounded both sides standing room, 6 people thick.
My brther yells my name. All the sudden I have easily 500 people chanting my name, for doing a simple silly run/walk.
Why? Because I’m the center of attention. All eyes on me baby. I was sober, and all in good safe fun.
After the parade two couples wanted photos with the guy who ran wild and did’nt care what 500 people would say.
In a way I Think I’ve answered my own questions!
Hey!
I love leaving fake answers so that the blog looks like it’s actually being read!
Great job!
Just remember, it’s all in the technique, and has nothing whatsoever to do with actual feelings!!
Thanks Erika! Ya know I don’t know why I needed to be told that, but it helped a lot!!! I started building this wall lately. By talking to all these people, I always seem to help them and bring refreshment to their life through my words or actions. At the same time, I was getting frustrated because I wasn’t sharing and connecting with them on a deeper level. Thanks again!
I’ve met some amazing people, simply because I’m willing to talk to strangers.
Rob
The bog is being read.
Why would you leave fake answers?
My site has a ton of traffic and most people will read and not post…its the way of the world.
Thanks for posting as you!!
Personally, I just like to pick on little girls LOL j/k!
How can anyone not like children?
Well, OK. Since you, or someone like you, bothered to answer, I will say this. The first three posts here for this blog entry seemed like posts intended to encourage others to post. They seemed way too scripted. But, hey. Who am I to judge? I can be just as wrong as the guy next to me.
So hats off to you. And thanks for the personal reply.
I hope what you say has a positive effect on the human race.
………..rob
Well – thanks Rob, I guess. I could be a writer?
Actually, I just found out about David’s blog site and came to check it out. He has confirmed some things for me that I was thinking, but not sharing with others. I am really encouraged by what David writes in a lot of his blogs and his writings are really motivating me to be more outgoing and lose this thing called FEAR that I have when approaching people. I can talk all day long through IM or email, but when confronted with face to face contact, I would freeze.
I really had a breakthrough over the weekend (btw) because of what David has written here. I talked to more people in the past two days than I have in awhile and it is FUN! I’ve even been giving out hugs to people that normally wouldn’t expect it! lol
Rob,
Since I was one of the first three posts, let me be the first to say that I’ve never met David, I live in a different city, have no commercial affiliation to David, and posts don’t get any more authentic than mine. you’ll know that if you look at my blog — http://www.awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com
I am attracted to this and a few other relationship blogs because what David and the other authors are doing from my perspective is bringing more consciousness and more connection to the world. freeing people up from their limiting beliefs and fears. blogging here is my humble contribution to the dialogue that they are facilitating.
thanks for being honest yourself though — if that’s what you perceived, then it’s great you shared it.
peace and love,
Erika
Hey David Wygant,
You know what, i really love this blogs. Everywhere i go i tried to talk to people as much as i can. Because you never know what is going to HAPPEN NEXT ! It’s not about BIG PAYOFF but you’ll gather info and exchange info with one another.
Great Blogs David !
Thank you
vs
This is a clear example why opening your mouth and saying something can take you a long way.
It doesn’t matter what you say. Make yourself heard. People will want in! And if others see you and it looks like everyone around you is having a good time, it’s only natural they will gravitate to you.
How do you think street shows get started? You think all of those people got invitations and had to RSVP to the event at the corner?
Hi Erika.
I looked at your blog, and I’m glad that your god doesn’t want you to have sex.
Enjoy life, and enjoy “Blogs”
Glad my opinion matters here!
Rob,
You rock! God doesn’t particularly care if I have sex or not, he really couldn’t give a rat’s ass …
but let me tell you the indescribable freedom of celibacy. with every guy I meet, I can sincerely walk into the conversation with this vibe: “I want to connect WITH you, but I don’t want or need anything FROM you.” there is no ulterior motive, no expectations for the future. this is FREEDOM. it feels amazing. it feels like energy is coursing through my body and magnetizing people to me. I wish you could walk around with me for a day and see what it’s like.
kisses,
Erika
Cool Erika.
Good luck with life.
Bye.
Hi all,
Just stumbled upon this site. (I believe there are no coincidences in life so it was really a find rather than a stumble.) I have been married for 27 years. My husband and I have had our challenges but were still together finding out how being real and authentic has gotten us through the death of my child (from my practice marriage to another man) and also through his heart attack.
I find David’s ideas very interesting and decided to read a few more post entries because I think generally his thinking has to do with the importance of showing up for your life. Many people, especially adult children of alcoholics, don’t know how to show up for their lives. But it appears that though David’s central expertise is on dating, he is really telling you all how to see the good in each life situation.
When we look for the good in a situation, as I tell my students, we are showing up for our lives. I’d like to share something that may be helpful for anyone reading these posts.
I am a brain dialog and brain fitness researcher. I teach people how their brain really processes information. i explain some secrets about connecting with people in coma and kids and in generally how to joyfully connect with others. I feel very interested in helping other create happy relationships. So I invite any of you to look at my site and read something that may be helpful for you to connect with others.
Here’s another thought. For those of you that read Erika’s post to Gabrielle (I agree with you Erika by the way about it being unnecessary to project “good enery” all the time) did you ever think that trying to get the main populatoin to always see the serious side of life and make it a priority was a propaganda program to keep you down? Look at all the money being made by pharmaceutical companies for tranquilizers and mood elevators.
The news on TV and radio and newspaper strangely all focuses on disasters and things about which to promote feeling anxious. But if you ask TV producers who do the news, they say they are only informing the people. Nonsense! Why do I care about crime that is something I have nothing to do with, can do nothing to improve because I am focused on living joyful life? Why do I care about the “bad weather” that I can do nothing to improve? Why do I can are news stories that are status quo “bad news” when there is so much in the world that is good?
So, if somebody feels hesitant to act outlandish because “someone might be watching and judging you as unimportant or unlovable” if you DO act uninhibited as your real self, choose to see the alterior motive behind the propaganda program to keep you depressed or anxious. Be yourself and live!
Susan Fox