It’s Time To Walk Away
August 5, 2010 
13 Comments
Not too long ago in the blog, we talked about guys who act like an ass in the bar. For any of you who didn’t catch that other blog, I talked about how to deal with the annoying guy (who we’ll call “Mr. Attitude”) who comes and starts talking to a woman you’re talking to in the bar — particularly the guys who try to get the woman to walk away with them.
In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.
This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.
Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.
You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.
In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.
Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.
There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.
A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.
That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.
Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.
Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).
Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.
The lesson here guys? Walk away.
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As a woman…………..
when a man walks away and shows he is above that type of behaviour and doesn’t want you to be bothered by little things like that….
that is very attractive and shows character and strength (a few very important traits you want to be showing her you have!)
Cathy J- were you ever in a situation like this one?
That is well said David. Walking away is more powerful than picking a fight which is just not worth it.
A man who has the strength to see the situation and walk way is a man that is coming home with me that night:)
I have been in a situation like this. I almost got into a fight one time but my friends were holding me back. There are so many frustrated guys in the bar/club venues. You’re right the best thing is to just walk away from idiot like that.
Yes, always walk away when possible, of course…but, what if the idiot follows you, and calls you a coward, sissy, etc. Then what do you do? What would the woman expect you to do, to save face? Take it, ignore it, or stand up for yourself, and confront him. Walking away is seldom the end of the story, for frustrated, bullying guys, like these. Bob
Agreed, David. As far as I am concerned, a woman is not worth having if I have to get into a fight. In addition, fighting is a good way to be arrested as well. Is getting in a fight over a woman worth having a criminal record? Be safe guys.
I defenitely walk away from situations like these. But if he persues me and throws the first punch at me. I will do anything I can to defend myself, especially if the guy is phisically stronger.
Guys who are agressive like that are fools. I mean really, of all the fish in the sea, he wants that particular one. It might even taste bad fot him.
Farley, its idiots like these makes the place worse. They really need to stay home. The more they drink the more they become aggressively idiot:)
As for what Bob says, I’d have to agree that sometimes walking away isn’t the end of the story and often times a guy will follow you and go as far as to sucker punch you if you don’t ever face him. Most of the times if you walk away, the guy will eventually stop because he never really intended to fight in the first place, but there are those other guys who are determined.
Maybe leaving the venue, heading towards security or something of that nature would work out. I tend to avoid fights at any cost as all it takes is one good punch for you to lose your vision or even die and often times, defending yourself can have you end up in jail.
Bob/ken/clint
- not trying to brag here but ive been taking martial arts for years, and yes i think its absolutely necessary to walk away from an ignorant situation, but that doesnt mean drop your gaurd while walking a away, always be aware of what mr.annoying is doing so its easier to react if something happens. and if the guy is just calling you names like: pussy, bitch, coward etc. look at the girl shake your head and smile and say what an asshole
Mario- that is well said an asshole is always an asshole. Its better to just walk away. What kind of martial arts do you do?
Clint- thank you i have been doing shotokan karate and studying books on martial arts and art of war.