It’s Not A Game
March 27, 2009 
35 Comments
You know, it’s funny. I’ve been known to criticize and make fun of certain elements of the PUA community, but I’ve really been “on my best behavior” lately and haven’t said much of anything in a while about them.
So I’m sitting with a friend outside of Whole Foods in Venice Beach recently, just taking a break from life, and we started talking about these so-called “Natural Game” guys. Really, we were talking about how interesting it is that they call it “natural game” in the first place.
We talked about how telling it is that they call it “natural game,” because there is no game about being natural. As most of you know, I’ve spent the last eleven years teaching guys not to use all the “pickup” crap. I have always been about teaching people how to be naturally comfortable and to create natural attraction through their own authentic self-confidence.
I never called what I teach “natural game” because what I teach is not a game. The fact is that all these copycat David Wygant’s running around teaching what they claim is a “new thing” called “natural game,” are mostly young boys in their early 20′s trying to be dating gurus. All they’re really doing is calling what they were already teaching by a different name – “natural game.”
The bottom line, guys, is that it’s not a game. Being able to totally, comfortably and confidently meet and connect with women at the deepest level is not a game.
This is my open letter to all the guys. It’s not a game, it’s life. Life is all about real confidence. Life is all about understanding who you are as a person, developing your strengths, and accepting (then working on) your weaknesses.
So life is not about playing a “game” whether you call it “natural game” or anything else. Think about it this way: If “natural game” truly was natural, then it would not still involve men using silly nicknames instead of being who they really are. That’s my take on it . . . so comment away!
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right on David! Game this, game that… Stop with the games already!
I think you need a nickname.
I’ll start off… you should call yourself WholeFoodsMan, or maybe DaphnesDad. Someone else see if they can come up with a better one.
Come on guys, let’s make a nickname up for David!!
I was thinking of “The Natural”, Adam, but I believe one PUA has already claimed that name. I sometimes refer to David as the “Date Doctor,” but you know David just likes to be called by his own name. There is no need for nicknames, unless it’s between family and friends. Other than that, one should accept his own name and build his personal brand with his name.
Well, ironically DanielTheConversationalist, I think the best “pua type” nickname EVER has already been taken — and I’m of course talking about the legendary “McLovin”
David – hasn’t someone in past blogs suggested you go by “Wygasm?”
i can think of some “good” nicknames for you, but to be pua worthy (ie, stupid enough) i think you’d have to choose something like “superstud” or genie or “thor” or something
lol @ the comments above
I think there was already a blog before where David said if he’d have to have a nickname it would be “Superman”
I think Shakespeare said it best, What’s in a name? That which we call a rose. By any other name would smell as sweet.
How about playing on someone’s emotions and feelings that is what happens when you play games on people. It is like using someone as a one night stand and saying to hell with you…you gave me what I want now I don’t want you anymore…Do we ever think of someone else’s feelings or wonder how I would feel if they did that to me…Think before you say or do…Or is it we keep thinking about number one…And guys let me see there are some of you that blog more times than I do…Pick on someone your own size…Anyway I am used to it even my classmates made fun of me so why should I let it bother me in my adult life?
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you dundleheads
Have you ever heard of a person going postal on the blog we will see in a couple of days wont we and I am counting 1. 2. 3.
Games are for teen age kids that stay in that zone of the protection of mom and dad and school and they show there true blue colors when someone irritates them…..
Sandra
Why do you feel the need to post this many posts leading to a threat?
How do you really feel tonight why should we wait 3 days……
Tell us more!
Dave
It is not a threat there are times that I will go into my email and see where people have blogged more than I have and sometimes it gets monotonous when I read that someone does not like what I blogged….So I just waiting to see what they have to say since I am the one who uses this blog as well…Who knows what will happen in three days all I am concerned about is those bad storms moving into Tennessee tonight and in the morning who knows I may be riding to Oz in this trailer if I can not make it down to my parents house in time…Also I have something that is important than live itself to take care of and this has to do with my spirituality…In other words between Lord Jesus and I…A hint: Something happened after I came back from Callie and it is something that I have made a promise to a dear male friend that I would only discuss with him in private…Also to set ur mind at ease…go to the community…
gauld is not a word, last time I checked.
>> Games are for teen age kids that stay in that zone of the protection of mom and dad and school and they show there true blue colors when someone irritates them…..
>> Have you ever heard of a person going postal on the blog
That’s a pretty accurate summary of how you behave here, although I suspect that you didn’t realise you were writing about yourself. Fairly ironic. Sandra, if you want to go postal please don’t do it here. These ridiculous posts take away from the excellent content David is taking the time to create for us. Can’t you see the irony in playing stupid, childish games in the comments section of a post about how you shouldn’t play games?
Having been a silent observer to this for many months now, I’m not willing to let it slide any longer. Please either ci=ommunicate in an adult manner that respects the time of the people who want to read the comments of these posts or go away. I really don’t know how to put it any more nicely than that.
Peter i cant agree with you more.
Sandra what the fuck is wrong with you?
You post some psycho babble on the blog acting like we really give a fuck about you.
You always write shit all over the blog acting like this is http://www.pyscholtrailorsandra.com
I mean really why bother.
Somethimes you have great posts and they are really amazing to read but other times you post 30 comments before anyone else can get there word in. Its time that you learned how to share and play with others. It really is not that hard. David is cool enough to let all comments up and relly if you dont have something to contribute hold back.
Oy! I see I didn’t miss much while I was gone.
Sandra, you and I have a lot in common, but you go off in such bizarre tangents, that its practically impossible to follow your point, and then you flame people, and end up looking foolish. Its a bit tedious that you hide behind your excuse of not needing validation while accusing those who you feel are detracting from you of needing validation from David. I will say that I think you’re an awesome marketing tool at this point because this entire blog looks like a a hideous motor vehicle accident, and as everyone knows, humans can’t always just pass that by. Let it go.
I usually just skip over Sandra’s posts and don’t even read them. But anyway- David I agree and one of your key points is self-confidence. Not just with women, but in everything you do.
It may be harder to have self confidence as a 20 yo because with experience comes the knowledge you are capable. And experience takes time and practice.
Nonetheless you are helping people who are looking for help. Thanks.
I don’t feel that meeting people is a game. Whenever people’s emotions are involved, it’s never a game… because people can get hurt.
But socializing can sometimes feel like a game… just because to me, socializing is about having fun… and a game is about having fun too!
I for one certainly do not consider this a game. I consider myself a professional communicator that can connect with other men to create great business relationships and freinds aswell as connecting on a deep level emotionally with women. I take my work very seriously which means I have a great deal of fun. The skills we teach are for a totally rounded and balanced life which create wealth, abundance and the deepest of pleasures…I love my work, I live my work, I live with love and passion…
Hey there I was hoping, do you mind telling me where you got theme from?