Comments on: It’s Nobody’s Business

By: Sandra

Sandra — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 03:00:24 +0000

Mike
You are right but I believe I will let my God decide whether or not I am hypocritical. We all live and learn that is why we can be forgiven. In my case scenario I gave up on that years ago. I hope we are still friends hate to loose a pal like you.

By: a.movie

a.movie — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 21:13:23 +0000

Sandra, if god felt your way about creating people he would have left out the attraction between man and man. Instead, he chose to leave it in to test hypocrites like you to see if you are really paying attention to the message of love everyone. You are not in a position to judge other people no matter how tempting it is to think you are right.

By: Khiem (DW Coach)

Khiem (DW Coach) — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 18:56:58 +0000

Kelly,

I’m glad you saw the warning signs early. I’ve been reading “Passionate Marriage” by David Schnarch and it’s a very good book.

In there, he talks about how a lot of our expectations… or our (mis)understanding of what intimacy is… creates the problems we have in our relationships.

To me, your ex b/f just had that… lots of misconceptions of what’s right in a relationship. What’s interesting is that he sounds a bit insecure to me. He finds comfort in knowing where everything stands… it’s almost like a control freak

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 12:02:37 +0000

Oh by the way I have not spoke to that female friend going on three years. I asked her once why she was talking bad about the relationship and she said: I was doing that so you would stay away from him. It makes me wonder what kind of woman she was in today’s society people have to watch things like that. Guess what I still hang around this guy and will do whatever the fuck I want nobody is going to tell me who I can and can not sleep with. Since when did they control my pussy.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 11:59:27 +0000

Kelly
Sounds like to me if he had a choice in the matter. He would prefer a male over a woman. That stinks!!!! Me if I had a chance to sleep with a guy and I have this noisy female telling me that I would ruin my reputation for doing so. I would be making plans for that woman to be history.

By: K

Mon, 23 Mar 2009 11:14:01 +0000

Ooh, Kelly – sounds like you were dating by committee but didn’t get a vote in the matter yourself! Pee-yew! And some say that only women have foolish rules and talk to their girlfriends about “personal” things that should be just between the two of them. Clearly, he needed their validation more than he needed yours. And fortunately, you needed only a visible pattern to be revealed in order to see it and flee it!

By: Coach Kimberly

Coach Kimberly — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 06:42:32 +0000

Kelly–this seems like a good call. He probably would have had just as many rules for you in every other aspect of the relationship!

By: Lexi

Lexi — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 03:42:01 +0000

If spending time with your lover negatively impacts your life, you may need to spend less time with them. Chances are, however, only you know if it is negatively impacting you.

Don’t give up who you are to be with them. I don’t think you’d do this David, but I know plenty of people do, and I have at times myself.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 02:16:32 +0000

Like I have been told:
The day homosexuals can explain to me how come God did not create Adam and Steve then maybe I might give it some thought. But I still believe in Adam and Eve boy o boy I love my ADAMS! Eve and Genieva can go and find someone else to play with while Adam and Steve can stay.
Today you have to watch what the sexes say about those people are seeing for if they put down the opposite sex to much or the person you are with…you need to ask them is there something you are not telling me or you just don’t like the opposite sex. Like I heard the blacks say: You don’t know me like that!…..And they say it in a way that you better leave it alone.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 02:11:25 +0000

Seeking validations from others is not the way to go! Back a couple of years ago I fell in this trap and today I am glad that I am away from that influence. Now that I got my head on straight those validations only prove to be as false as Satan being the head of God. What do they know anyway do they really know the person you are dating. If a person can not make their own mind about a relationship then they need to be alone awhile and think it over. Friends can lead you astray especially if the person you are listening to has plans for the both of you and your guy has to be in the way of those plans.
Really I just wonder what my female friend would do if I were to meet someone of the opposite sex and have a relationship with them. No one is going to tell me who I can or can not sleep with if I want to sleep with a dozen of married men and a dozen of guys that is my business. They can but out as far as I am concerned. Hey when it comes to deciding pussy over cock which do you think I will choose cock over pussy. The pussy has to go…..PERIOD!!!!!
Sorry to be so common….But these people need to grow up they are not dating or married to their parent. Matter of fact I have two of those one daddy and one momma. Don’t need someone else to play that part.