Comments on: Is Commitment Phobia An Incurable Disease? http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Tue, 22 May 2012 21:12:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: simone http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-63964 simone Sun, 15 Jan 2012 06:53:40 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-63964 nancy - i hear you on that one too. i think some guys are seriously afraid they're going to lose themselves if they commit. another aspect is that although they may not even be looking for another woman, the fact that once they commit all other options are off the table is also scary for them. they also don't want to have to account for their time or activities to anyone, the "you're not the boss of me" attitude can pop up. i think therapy or something similar is going to be the only way some men will ever end up committing. nancy – i hear you on that one too. i think some guys are seriously afraid they’re going to lose themselves if they commit. another aspect is that although they may not even be looking for another woman, the fact that once they commit all other options are off the table is also scary for them. they also don’t want to have to account for their time or activities to anyone, the “you’re not the boss of me” attitude can pop up. i think therapy or something similar is going to be the only way some men will ever end up committing.

]]> By: nancy http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-61319 nancy Wed, 07 Dec 2011 12:55:04 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-61319 I have a situation..... can somebody help....?????? My BF was my best friend first.... we are very comfortable with each other and share everything...I have known all about his other girlfriends, family etc etc.... and we give each other the freedom of choice and space... n we thought we can move ahead and be with each other for all our lives.... but all of a sudden he is freaking out and thinks that although he loves me a lot and trusts me a lot... he is just not the commitment types... he just can't take it and he feels guilty about it as well...... and i am not ready for this...... HELP!!!!!!!! I have a situation….. can somebody help….??????
My BF was my best friend first…. we are very comfortable with each other and share everything…I have known all about his other girlfriends, family etc etc…. and we give each other the freedom of choice and space… n we thought we can move ahead and be with each other for all our lives…. but all of a sudden he is freaking out and thinks that although he loves me a lot and trusts me a lot… he is just not the commitment types… he just can’t take it and he feels guilty about it as well…… and i am not ready for this…… HELP!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Sandra http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-30048 Sandra Thu, 30 Jul 2009 23:22:08 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-30048 Give him love and attention...Let him know you are King of your castle and also let the man know hey you are my hero. Some women think that they can argue to get their point across. How many children did he have by her. If a man/woman has 2 children and the woman is arguing because she did not get her way. Then there is three children he has to raise. It also depends if he mature or immature male. I have dated a few of those commentment phobes in my lifetime but actually the relationship only lasted a couple of months and I was out looking for someone else. Give him love and attention…Let him know you are King of your castle and also let the man know hey you are my hero. Some women think that they can argue to get their point across. How many children did he have by her. If a man/woman has 2 children and the woman is arguing because she did not get her way. Then there is three children he has to raise. It also depends if he mature or immature male. I have dated a few of those commentment phobes in my lifetime but actually the relationship only lasted a couple of months and I was out looking for someone else.

]]> By: horsegirl http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29929 horsegirl Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:46:44 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29929 Now my question for all of ya'll men - David said you like to feel that your woman 'needs' you. I can understand that. What isn't said is HOW do you like a woman to show you that? (Example - see above comment - my bf used seem to like to 'save' me when I had something I couldn't fix on my own, needed advice on something I respected his expertise/knowledge of,etc. I make sure he knows I desire him and need him emotionally, sexually, etc.) Are you speaking of emotionally, physically, knowledge of repairing a toaster - what? Most people like to know their s.o. needs them, but I think I am speaking for most women when I ask 'how/inm what aspect do you like a woman to show you she needs you? Now my question for all of ya’ll men – David said you like to feel that your woman ‘needs’ you. I can understand that. What isn’t said is HOW do you like a woman to show you that? (Example – see above comment – my bf used seem to like to ‘save’ me when I had something I couldn’t fix on my own, needed advice on something I respected his expertise/knowledge of,etc. I make sure he knows I desire him and need him emotionally, sexually, etc.) Are you speaking of emotionally, physically, knowledge of repairing a toaster – what? Most people like to know their s.o. needs them, but I think I am speaking for most women when I ask ‘how/inm what aspect do you like a woman to show you she needs you?

]]> By: horsegirl http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29928 horsegirl Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:34:56 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29928 May I add a comment? I have a bf that has mentioned numerous times that he likes to 'rescue the maiden in distress' and 'spoil his woman'. For awhile that was wonderful, it made me feel desired, respected and cherished. I would verbally show my appreciation and in return did nice things for him - remembered special things he liked for small, occasional gifts, cooked him dinner on the evening he returned from working out of town for several days (maybe a little au naturale), got him tickets to a game he wanted to see, left him little 'thinking of you' notes in his laptop bag, etc. I didn't flood him with things, just enough to let him know I really appreciated him. It didn't take long before those 'rescues' and that 'spoiling his woman' became either very infrequent or nonexistent. So, don't say you want a woman to treat you well if you don't intend to continue the same in return. That's hurtful and confusing to the one that cares about you and deserves/enjoys to be treated well and cherished. May I add a comment? I have a bf that has mentioned numerous times that he likes to ‘rescue the maiden in distress’ and ‘spoil his woman’. For awhile that was wonderful, it made me feel desired, respected and cherished. I would verbally show my appreciation and in return did nice things for him – remembered special things he liked for small, occasional gifts, cooked him dinner on the evening he returned from working out of town for several days (maybe a little au naturale), got him tickets to a game he wanted to see, left him little ‘thinking of you’ notes in his laptop bag, etc. I didn’t flood him with things, just enough to let him know I really appreciated him. It didn’t take long before those ‘rescues’ and that ‘spoiling his woman’ became either very infrequent or nonexistent. So, don’t say you want a woman to treat you well if you don’t intend to continue the same in return. That’s hurtful and confusing to the one that cares about you and deserves/enjoys to be treated well and cherished.

]]> By: Dunga http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29890 Dunga Mon, 27 Jul 2009 03:50:43 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29890 I would add to David's excellent list, this: Don't try to change us. Give us an up or down vote as we are. We need beer, sports, cars, and adventure just as women need makeup, shoes, dramafests, etc. Don't try to take us away from that which keeps us centered. Otherwise, we'll run like hell. I would add to David’s excellent list, this: Don’t try to change us. Give us an up or down vote as we are. We need beer, sports, cars, and adventure just as women need makeup, shoes, dramafests, etc. Don’t try to take us away from that which keeps us centered. Otherwise, we’ll run like hell.

]]> By: Justin http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29871 Justin Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:50:05 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29871 I echo Hamburger on the "Just the tip" newsletter - hilarious. Possibly a bit immoral, but still hilarious. On nurturing... totally agree. Girl's who fuss over a tiny scratch you picked up that day are not as desirable as those who call you a "clumsy clot". However if you're in a bad way after being hit by a train or falling off a cliff... the nurturing is much appreciated. I echo Hamburger on the “Just the tip” newsletter – hilarious. Possibly a bit immoral, but still hilarious.

On nurturing… totally agree. Girl’s who fuss over a tiny scratch you picked up that day are not as desirable as those who call you a “clumsy clot”.

However if you’re in a bad way after being hit by a train or falling off a cliff… the nurturing is much appreciated.

]]> By: Ben http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29866 Ben Sun, 26 Jul 2009 08:34:27 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29866 I agree, rejecting assitance is like being rejected when asking someone out. Of course, it depends on how she is doing it. Also, if she keeps on rejecting your help thats also not nice. I agree, rejecting assitance is like being rejected when asking someone out. Of course, it depends on how she is doing it. Also, if she keeps on rejecting your help thats also not nice.

]]> By: Hamburger http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29865 Hamburger Sun, 26 Jul 2009 08:28:24 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29865 Hey David, this "Don’t Be Boss Woman At Home" is so true!!! I mean, most men who have lived alone for a while have figured out how to wash their cloths and how to vacuum their flat. And even if a woman does this much better.... Let your man do his thing and let him do it his way. If your way is better or more effective, he will notice and learn one day. By the way, your "Just the Tip" Newsletter is hilarious. I was ROFL for a minute or two and it brought back sweet memories... ;-) Hey David,

this “Don’t Be Boss Woman At Home” is so true!!! I mean, most men who have lived alone for a while have figured out how to wash their cloths and how to vacuum their flat. And even if a woman does this much better…. Let your man do his thing and let him do it his way. If your way is better or more effective, he will notice and learn one day.

By the way, your “Just the Tip” Newsletter is hilarious. I was ROFL for a minute or two and it brought back sweet memories… ;-)

]]> By: Mee http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/is-commitment-phobia-an-incurable-disease/1692/#comment-29863 Mee Sun, 26 Jul 2009 02:45:54 +0000 http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/?p=1692#comment-29863 Shit, David! You just hit the jackpot! I mean... my girl friends would do lots of nice things for me... And when I wanna help them out, they would reject me... And I know they want me but they act like they don't need me... And that makes me feel like a boy! Girls, this is some awesome advice! Do it! Shit, David! You just hit the jackpot! I mean… my girl friends would do lots of nice things for me… And when I wanna help them out, they would reject me… And I know they want me but they act like they don’t need me… And that makes me feel like a boy! Girls, this is some awesome advice! Do it!

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