Comments on: I Was Eliminated

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 20:39:26 +0000

Resurrecting this post: I removed my ex and all her friends from my lists for the sole purpose that it was painful to see her life as she moved on. Completely different issue, but it’s not the petty punishment that you talk about here.

By: Stevooooo

Stevooooo — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 23:19:38 +0000

I just wana say that i have in the passed taken an ex off my facebook, but i was the one who broke with her. The only reason i did it was becuase she was the type of person who would look at my wall and comments and what not and than msg me saying whose this, whose that and intarrogate me, so to avoid that, i just took her off.??? make sense or no??

By: Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 03:35:52 +0000

Here’s the thing – on these sites, when you log in, it shows you a list of all the updates your friends have made, what they’re up to, and any activity since the last time you logged in. If this girl is truly checking these pages every day, she probably did hit a point where seeing updates and tidbits on her ex every single day was no longer relevant/necessary in her life, hence the deletion. It’s not the same as deleting someone’s phone number or saying you never want contact again – it’s just a way to get a little breathing room in an increasingly digital age. No need to feel so stricken, I think…

By: Mariana

Mariana — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 09:03:05 +0000

Hey, wait.. when it did not work… isnt great just to forget about it as quick as possible?
What is the point of keeping you on facebook and be kind of forced to see your new pics, updates, contacts, wall posts and whateverelse might keep prompting on her screen everytime she logs in?
Prob nothing against you as a person, she just want to think about you as less as possible..

By: Jordan

Jordan — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 07:06:14 +0000

Maybe she took it too seriously. I had a myspace account before and I used to delete people who ignored my messages. Now it sounds funny but back then it did really upset me!

By: victoria

victoria — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 18:11:27 +0000

Hi, the cyberspace is not real life. A lot of people there we will never meet in person. what the difference that someone has 50 friends there or none friend there? Do people compete on that? do you really have nothing to do in life? amazing!

few days ago, I was curious and went to a chatting room and I can’t believe what people were chatting on. None sense. I would think those people miss part of their brain.

well I am on facebook too. It helps me to find a friend from 10 years ago. Yes, I went out with him before, but now, we just exchanged couple emails and it is good to know that he is doing fine. why do people use this good tool to play mental games? it is also very silly to try to be popular on cyberspace!

By: Surly Bastard

Surly Bastard — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:26:04 +0000

I dated a “girl” that would take me off her Myspace page or Facebook whenever she got upset with something I did (or didn’t do). It was hilarious! And then she’d call me and say, “I added you back to my friends, go online and accept.”

It got really tiresome, and I finally just deleted the pages without warning. She took it personal that I deleted my pages and our relationship went out the window after that.

If you live in cyberspace, you must be a social retard. If you are, that’s okay. Just don’t involve people who can actually hold a real-life conversation.

By: Infinity

Infinity — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 19:44:14 +0000

Haha, my ex took me off FB, and AIM…I mean, that must mean I’m not even in her phone…right?

Not so much…

It’s so childish but at the same time, FB and AIM and other social media platforms are so much a part of our lives that people almost see it necessary to release someone from every aspect of their lives.

Oh well, maturity.

By: Bertie

Bertie — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 08:00:09 +0000

Well…no offense intended, but ahh…I thought the Myspace was for kids. Yes, I too have a page, but I’m not on it often merely because the kid I was keeping tabs on when he was away now lives with me full time. Mostly I just look at my daughter’s pics on her page. I suppose I should be a lot more butt-hurt over the fact that I’m not on someone’s top ten list… lol!
It’s only the internet. I suppose it depends on how long the relationship lasted, and on what terms you parted company so to speak. I could be friends with my ex, but his third wife gives me the evil eye a lot and if I weren’t so tall I’d have a good view of her nose hair. It would be really funny if she didn’t creep me out.

By: K

Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:39:11 +0000

Jonsi – Maybe she thought that her version of why she ended the relationship was less hurtful than telling you that the ex proposed and arousing your jealousy, causing you to compare yourself to him – and giving her already painful departure a face – his face. I’ve said it before on this blog, some people are really crappy at closure and you shouldn’t beat yourself up just because others passed judgment on your method of dealing with it. Hurt is hurt and you have the right to heal by any sane and sensible means necessary, including deleting her and removing your access to torture yourself after the fact by viewing her page. Sometimes if you leave a former flame on your page, new people think that you are trying to keep your options open and it may prevent you and them from moving to the next level. Others think that it is a great attribute to be able to maintain a friendship with an ex. I say, to each his own. You shouldn’t judge another’s healing methods unless you were there for the duration and know first-hand what they experienced. You must be a pretty good guy if she at least tried to soften the blow, even if she did it badly.