Thanks for the words of wisdom man, its much appreciated.

To answer your question, no, showing the lover side of me has always been a struggle. For most of my life every time I told a girl I had feelings for them, they would disappear. So my life experiences had taught me that if you want to keep a girl around, you should never tell her that. I know that’s f’d up, backwards thinking, but that’s what I learned.

Only recently have I become more comfortable in letting my lover side show, and my success has risen as a result. I’m no super ladies man or anything like that, but now flirting with women doesn’t seem like the scary, bid deal it used to be.

Its something I still struggle with. But I’m getting better.

I was you. I was the opposite of David. I never was the guy trying to bed every girl… but I was the that was always close to women… but didn’t know how to “close them”.

I did go through my phase of going to the bars just to meet people, to learn to be social… and to see where it goes….

But I’ll tell you this my friend, if you can’t get the girl… it’s because you aren’t having enough self-respect for your “man” side.

You got to learn to be more honest with your desires (especiallly your animalistic sexual side). Once you learn to own the fact that you ARE man… and that you like to hang out with women because they ARE women, then you’ll realize that it’s easy.

It’s about learning to express out your sexual desire, your romantic intent to women without fear of the outcome. Women WANT you to WANT them.

So do you let them know (through all your behaviors)? Do you show them the lover side of you, even in your daily interactions?

You can talk to David or any of his coaches thru Skype since you live in Romania.

As we open our hearts, we allow the great river love to flow through us, and as it does so, all kinds of detritus gets loosened from the river banks. The broken toilets of emotion, the rusted Ford Fairlane chassis of regret, the dead batteries of despair, and old tires of bruised ego. Why does this happen? All I can think of is that the purpose of love is to heal, and wounds cannot be healed if they are buried under layers of personal silt, rubble and roots.

As our flaws and walls and wounds become exposed, we begin to see this in the other person. A rude awakening. Suddenly, the thrill is gone, and the high of experiencing, well, God, seems to evaporate. This, too, is a completely natural part of every relationship. Really. We are both divine and human.

I noticed that at this stage of a relationship, what we often do is squeeze our hearts closed out of fear. We want the churning crap to stop so it doesn’t keep banging and knocking around, causing us pain. We think we are protecting ourselves, but really, we make it harder to heal. And because less love comes through, our ability to feel and give love is diminished.

Getting beyond this means working through our need to be validated by our partners, and learning to validate ourselves. It’s a lot to ask a partner to constantly validate us 24/7. We all have our issues.

Getting beyond this also means keeping our hearts open, and that takes a huge amount of courage.

Ooph. Sorry for the lengthy and heavy tome. You’ll have to excuse me. We Topangans can be light and fluffy, but never on Sundays.

BUT I AM THINKING THAT IT’S MY EGO..MY BIG TIME EGO….I’VE ALWAYS BEEN THE TYPE OF PERSON WHO ALWAYS WANTED THE BRIGHT SPOT LIGHT ON ME…AND KNOW SINCE I’M GETTING OLDER IT’S NOT ON ME ANYMORE…AND THATS WHERE I HAVE LOST MY COMPOSURE
CONNECTING WITH WOMEN,WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND EVEN MYSELF..

BTW love the new redesign again. Now I can see your handsome mug. Cool!