Have you ever seen the movie The Sixth Sense in which the little kid utters that now famous line, “I see dead people?” I sometimes feel like I see bullshit.
I read my emails every day and I listen to what people are saying, but when I read between the lines what I really see is bullshit. Every day someone emails me and tells me that they can’t do something, or they won’t do something or that change is too hard.
The truth is that they don’t want to do the work because the work is too hard. A lot of people are lazy. A lot of people don’t want to do the work.
A friend of mine has been complaining for the last fifteen years about how fat he is. Every year when I go see him in Manhattan he complains about this and tells me that he needs to lose weight.
Then he’ll go on some miracle 48 hour diet expecting it to fix the problem. I tell him all the time that if he’d just go to the gym and do cardio four days a week, that he will lose weight. I tell him that if he’d just eat healthy that he would look good.
I’ve had this same conversation with him probably at least one thousand times, but he’s always looking for the miracle cure to the problem. We’re all looking for the miracle cure, which is why I see bullshit.
There is no miracle cure to losing weight. The only way to lose weight and get great muscle tone is to work out.
There is no miracle cure for anything. There is no miracle way to meet men or women unless you practice and do the things necessary to develop the muscles in your brain (your personality and inner confidence).
There are no shortcuts. So when I find a person who is looking for a shortcut or who falls for shortcuts, I usually say to them “I see bullshit.” I see bullshit every single day.
You want to be a great lover? What you need to do is practice. How do you practice? You learn, you read and you practice with people. You open yourself up and you tell the truth.
I recently had a client at a Bootcamp who is a fantastic guy, but didn’t have much sexual experience at all. I told him he needed to practice. I told him to find some great women that are attracted to him and learn how to be a great lover.
You’re never going to become great at anything unless you practice. Ask any athlete about this and they will tell you the same thing.
Do you think Lance Armstrong wanted to ride his bike 35 miles every day? No, he didn’t. Do you think Peyton Manning wants to throw the same route over and over again to Reggie Wayne in practice when he’s already done it 10,000 times already? Probably not.
I remember reading on the Internet one time that Peyton Manning had thrown something like 123 touchdown passes to Marvin Harrison. Really, though, he’s thrown over 10,000 touchdown passes to him if you count all the times he’s thrown those same passes to him in practice (so that those passes would be successful in the games).
Do you want things in your life to work for you? Then you’ve got to work at it.
Whether you want to lose weight, meet women or be a better lover doesn’t matter. Whatever you want to achieve in life, you need to go out and practice. You need to work hard.
You need to be willing to do things you’ve never done before. Otherwise, all you’re going to hear me say is, “I see bullshit.”
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2:21 pm
You speak truth. I have had to figure this same thing out for myself over the last year.
And to be honest… I am happy that I figured it out.
And now, I am seeing bullshit all over the place, when dealing with family and friends.
Any advice on how to get them to understand the bullshit they are spewing? Cause I am getting sick of holding my tongue with them.
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2:46 pm
I think that what would help a lot of people with this issue is understanding that everyone (even someone like you David that would appear to have had things come very easily to him in life), had to work for things.
That no one has it totally easy.
And that while some things do come more easily to some than others, that you still have to believe you CAN achieve anything you want if you are willing to work hard enough to get it.
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4:10 pm
The beach: Arrange a picnic, a bottle of wine, a blanket and spend the whole day on the beach to have sunbathed. Of course you can go swimming.
Picnic at the creek: Prepare something edible in a cool bottle of wine and enjoy the day with your dating partner.
A film: Let others choose the film. It’s a nice gesture if you do not have the same taste in movies. Select a special film made to promote the ambience. Before the beginning of the movie take something to eat and drinks so that you both can enjoy the movie on dating.
Whether big or small – everyone loves theme parks. Roller coaster or bumper cars are Ideal place for the child in us.
Home to eat: Show off your cooking skills and invite the partner to dinner. Please do not overdo the candles and music. Indoor ice-skating or roller blade in the park, you can lean on each other for balance and warmth.
A sporting event that you love: Are you a football fan? Then have a look together for a game. Send up kites. It’s more fun than you imagine
A visit to the zoo: Everyone loves animals. A zoo may be the perfect place for a first contact. Looking for a nice zoo, where there are nice and clean enclosures for the animals. A nice restaurant in the zoo would always have something to drink.
These are the most effective tips for a perfect date with your partner.
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4:12 pm
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7:32 pm
Hey David. Great post, funny title. ‘I see bullshit’, and i hear it all the time too, ever since I started work on myself then started listening to you. Bunch of listers out there, like you said the other day. They’re really good at the bullshit list though; they work on that list everyday! Thanx David.
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7:33 pm
Tina-
What does this have to do with todays blog?
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11:15 pm
Great message from David.
I find that when you are content with your vocation in life, other things will fall into place. Feeling good about yourself inside really is the bottom line.
Everyone has there own thing to improve on and I am no exception. My issue has long been having too much time on my hands and not using it wisely. Though I have had a ’semi-full time’ music career going for a number of years, I am turning 25 soon and am not finding myself making a reasonable living at this. It seemed that when I was working very hard at music, ie in my late teens, I was a real introvert. Now as a young adult I realize what I’ve missed out on socially and am working hard to make up for the lost time. My passion seems to be more in socializing and less on hard work.
I’m a healthy guy in good shape, and though I still can improve, confident in meeting women. I am not happy with where I am at right now, however and am taking a good look at what I value to better use my time.
My point is, though yes you need to work hard, perhaps of greater importance is finding where to apply that hard work.
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6:33 am
Excellent wake up call
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3:34 pm
12-1. I’m starting to trust your football picks as much as your dating advice!
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10:05 am
This made me laugh, but he is correct. Dating and relationships take work, patience and a little sacrifice. I had a problem with patience with men. I wanted to know too fast whether or not we were going to “be together” and it usually scared him off. So, I am patient. I date multiple men, when I don’t have a date I do things that I like to do by myself or with girlfriends. And when I find someone that I do like, I remain calm and just allow things to progress naturally. For me this is no small feat, and sometimes I do get frustrated but I share my issues with a trusted confidante who usually re-affirms my need to be patient, and most of the time they are correct.
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