Comments on: I Need Your Advice http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/ Sex. Relationships. Dating. That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 09:04:02 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: hunter http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7656 hunter Sat, 17 Nov 2007 02:27:04 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7656 .....romance novels are sometimes free at the library....sometimes at the smaller libraries... …..romance novels are sometimes free at the library….sometimes at the smaller libraries…

]]> By: Graham http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7647 Graham Sat, 17 Nov 2007 01:25:01 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7647 Taleda- Did you get my yahoo email? No faux pas. I was giving a light touch to an issue with heavy and serious undertones. Certainly didn't think you were promoting any uglinesses. Well, with Fabio, maybe he is the real life Oscar Wilde's Picture of Dorian Gray? Taleda-

Did you get my yahoo email? No faux pas. I was giving a light touch to an issue with heavy and serious undertones. Certainly didn’t think you were promoting any uglinesses. Well, with Fabio, maybe he is the real life Oscar Wilde’s Picture of Dorian Gray?

]]> By: Bertie http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7636 Bertie Fri, 16 Nov 2007 22:32:51 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7636 Taleda, hmmm.....its been so long since I read that series of books that I'd have to reread it, but yeah that sounds about right. I still say that you find the larger than life romantic hero in Dirk Pitt, but then I'm much more an action adventure kinda chick anyway. Taleda,
hmmm…..its been so long since I read that series of books that I’d have to reread it, but yeah that sounds about right.
I still say that you find the larger than life romantic hero in Dirk Pitt, but then I’m much more an action adventure kinda chick anyway.

]]> By: Taleda http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7622 Taleda Fri, 16 Nov 2007 19:25:22 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7622 uh oh ... did i faux pas somewhere? not understand something yet again? graham, in your last paragraph (beginning with Wow) i thought you were being, well certainly not serious. rape? sex against a person's will? nothing funny about that reality. nothing funny about it in fiction either, but as in reality, it does occur. in fiction it sells. in fiction they end up with each other. in reality one is scared for life and hopefully the other spends his time in prison getting proper Karma payback. i certainly NEVER meant ... shit ... i don't feel so good now. i'm gonna exit stage left and try to extricate both my feet from my mouth without evening knowing how they got in there. my apologies for any ugliness any of you thought i was promoting uh oh … did i faux pas somewhere? not understand something yet again?

graham, in your last paragraph (beginning with Wow) i thought you were being, well certainly not serious.

rape? sex against a person’s will? nothing funny about that reality. nothing funny about it in fiction either, but as in reality, it does occur. in fiction it sells. in fiction they end up with each other. in reality one is scared for life and hopefully the other spends his time in prison getting proper Karma payback.

i certainly NEVER meant … shit … i don’t feel so good now. i’m gonna exit stage left and try to extricate both my feet from my mouth without evening knowing how they got in there. my apologies for any ugliness any of you thought i was promoting

]]> By: Graham http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7620 Graham Fri, 16 Nov 2007 19:08:14 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7620 As I've already said, I don As I’ve already said, I don

]]> By: Taleda http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7618 Taleda Fri, 16 Nov 2007 18:23:00 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7618 OMG ... I'm acutally laughing Graham!! Not at you, with you :) Of course what I wrote above is a generic PLOT THEME for most romance novels out there! Oh my goodness really ... but honey my imagination is just as torrid and can be just as twisted as that. There are a couple of bloggers here who've read some chapter excerpts ... if they wanna pipe in with their thoughts on my fantasy writing, please do so. Everybody Please please do not take what I wrote above as real or my reality or what I want or whatever ... it is all fictional fantasy writing. Go to any bookstore, library or grocery store for that matter, and check out the nearly endless selections of just the "steamy" titles; Flame and the Flower, Wolf and the Dove, Sweet Savage Love, Wicked Loving Lies, Lost Love Last Love, Bound by Desire, Dangerous Man, What Price Love, Come Love A Stranger ... on and on and on. Covers usually depicting some Stud (Fabio has made his fortune being the male model for most of these covers) in outlaw, pirate or scoundral attire ravishing some falsely faint nearly naked damsel in torndress bent over his arm like a liquid contortionist. The books range in softcover price from $6.99 on up to hardcover of $15.99 ... the market is phenomenal and the steamier/ranchier/nastier the better. You are absolutely correct: soft porn for women. Hey ya wanna know something else? Zalman King's Red Shoe Diaries are unbelievably hot - and I mean just on the borderline silk thread of hard porn. His diaries have been cast with some of Hollywood's most "glamorous" stars - male and female. Whew ... you wanna curl up with some ... errrr .... popcorn one night? Go rent some of those!!!! Forget the books!! OMG … I’m acutally laughing Graham!! Not at you, with you :) Of course what I wrote above is a generic PLOT THEME for most romance novels out there! Oh my goodness really … but honey my imagination is just as torrid and can be just as twisted as that. There are a couple of bloggers here who’ve read some chapter excerpts … if they wanna pipe in with their thoughts on my fantasy writing, please do so.

Everybody Please please do not take what I wrote above as real or my reality or what I want or whatever … it is all fictional fantasy writing. Go to any bookstore, library or grocery store for that matter, and check out the nearly endless selections of just the “steamy” titles; Flame and the Flower, Wolf and the Dove, Sweet Savage Love, Wicked Loving Lies, Lost Love Last Love, Bound by Desire, Dangerous Man, What Price Love, Come Love A Stranger … on and on and on. Covers usually depicting some Stud (Fabio has made his fortune being the male model for most of these covers) in outlaw, pirate or scoundral attire ravishing some falsely faint nearly naked damsel in torndress bent over his arm like a liquid contortionist.

The books range in softcover price from $6.99 on up to hardcover of $15.99 … the market is phenomenal and the steamier/ranchier/nastier the better.

You are absolutely correct: soft porn for women. Hey ya wanna know something else? Zalman King’s Red Shoe Diaries are unbelievably hot – and I mean just on the borderline silk thread of hard porn. His diaries have been cast with some of Hollywood’s most “glamorous” stars – male and female. Whew … you wanna curl up with some … errrr …. popcorn one night? Go rent some of those!!!! Forget the books!!

]]> By: Graham http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7615 Graham Fri, 16 Nov 2007 17:47:59 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7615 Taleda- I think he has an interesting perspective; at least one that is likely to give anyone a momentary pause in their judgment of the roles men play in our society. HB=Hard Body. It's rating women on beauty. Men are more typically rated on success. After Robbs, " looking for attention, intensity, passion and maybe some drama" comment, I carefully re-read, "...and that odd generic plot theme: man woman meet man woman hate each other man rapes woman woman capitulates with virginal passion the first time and then man woman fall in love and live happily ever after. Say WHAT???? ...my own generic plot theme is as above!!! I understand all too well WHAT SELLS." Wow, I mean, WOW!! But I'd guess, of course, the man better be damn well sure he is the *right* rapist? Gawd help him if she changes her mind a few hours later. But this probably never happens in gothic "true romance" novels? It's saved for real life. Gulp! Sorry, Taleda... couldn't let this one slide past. It's the political beast in me coming out. Taleda-

I think he has an interesting perspective; at least one that is likely to give anyone a momentary pause in their judgment of the roles men play in our society. HB=Hard Body. It’s rating women on beauty. Men are more typically rated on success.

After Robbs, ” looking for attention, intensity, passion and maybe some drama” comment, I carefully re-read,

“…and that odd generic plot theme: man woman meet man woman hate each other man rapes woman woman capitulates with virginal passion the first time and then man woman fall in love and live happily ever after.
Say WHAT????
…my own generic plot theme is as above!!! I understand all too well WHAT SELLS.”

Wow, I mean, WOW!! But I’d guess, of course, the man better be damn well sure he is the *right* rapist? Gawd help him if she changes her mind a few hours later. But this probably never happens in gothic “true romance” novels? It’s saved for real life. Gulp! Sorry, Taleda… couldn’t let this one slide past. It’s the political beast in me coming out.

]]> By: Taleda http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7612 Taleda Fri, 16 Nov 2007 17:35:54 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7612 Robb, I can't speak for women, but I can speak for my Self; oh yes I want all that and more just not the drama which in my minds equals negativity (had way more than my share of that). Your clarification please on the word "drama" and what you mean by that. The Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines Drama (in a more theatrical definition) as: a: a composition in verse or prose intended to portray life or character or to tell a story usually involving conflicts and emotions through action and dialogue and typically designed for theatrical performance b: a state, situation, or series of events involving interesting or intense conflict of forces. This is a hard arena to really discuss the various types of intensities and passions capable between men and women but those "types" really belong (are owned) by each individual in the moment, you know what I mean? I feel that there is absolutely a time and place for every thing between two consenting adults. Operative word here: consenting. David teaches us foremost two key ingredients: communication and chemistry. And not necessarily in that order. Robb,
I can’t speak for women, but I can speak for my Self; oh yes I want all that and more just not the drama which in my minds equals negativity (had way more than my share of that). Your clarification please on the word “drama” and what you mean by that.

The Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines Drama (in a more theatrical definition) as: a: a composition in verse or prose intended to portray life or character or to tell a story usually involving conflicts and emotions through action and dialogue and typically designed for theatrical performance b: a state, situation, or series of events involving interesting or intense conflict of forces.

This is a hard arena to really discuss the various types of intensities and passions capable between men and women but those “types” really belong (are owned) by each individual in the moment, you know what I mean? I feel that there is absolutely a time and place for every thing between two consenting adults. Operative word here: consenting.

David teaches us foremost two key ingredients: communication and chemistry. And not necessarily in that order.

]]> By: Taleda http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7609 Taleda Fri, 16 Nov 2007 16:57:42 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7609 This is excellent Graham! Having never heard of Dr. Farrell (though I now know a bit about him having gone to his website prior to typing this) I shall be going today to the library to check out his books if there, and if not, to the bookstore to buy the above mentioned book because my interest/curiosity is now heightened. I gotta read this The Myth of Male Power - just looking at the chapter titles got me going. And I can't help but wonder right this moment what the heck is a HB9 or HB10 ... So thank you Graham for this input and for stimulating my brain and curiosity. I likey that very much :) This is excellent Graham! Having never heard of Dr. Farrell (though I now know a bit about him having gone to his website prior to typing this) I shall be going today to the library to check out his books if there, and if not, to the bookstore to buy the above mentioned book because my interest/curiosity is now heightened. I gotta read this The Myth of Male Power – just looking at the chapter titles got me going. And I can’t help but wonder right this moment what the heck is a HB9 or HB10 …

So thank you Graham for this input and for stimulating my brain and curiosity. I likey that very much :)

]]> By: Robb http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/i-need-your-advice/288/#comment-7608 Robb Fri, 16 Nov 2007 16:52:24 +0000 http://blog.davidwygant.com/i-need-your-advice/#comment-7608 Thanks for your insight, Taleda. Can I perhaps say then that when women want to be "swept off their feet", they're actually looking for attention, intensity, passion and maybe some drama? Thanks for your insight, Taleda.

Can I perhaps say then that when women want to be “swept off their feet”, they’re actually looking for attention, intensity, passion and maybe some drama?

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