We acutally enjoy the company of men in our league; clearly, most of you are boys.

Let me start from the beginning.
I’m 17, just graduated High School, about to start college to major in Business. I have a job at Steak N Shake, and am going to soon start working the “10pm-7am” shifts.
Pretty much all my friends like to dance, party, drink, or club.
Yeah it’s not that great of a network, but whatever.
So being 17, I can’t get in the clubs. The requirement is to be 18, (and 21 to drink, of course).
So a couple months ago I acquired an ID from a friend who looks similar to me, and he’s 22. The clubs I got in no problem and I would occassionally buy drinks wherever. Last night, and Friday night, I went to a club armed with new guns (which I mostly learned from you guys and David).
Friday, I was in the outside bar patio, socializing with random people about whatever for a little and the bartender strikes up a conversation with me. We talk about where we’re from and how she’s new to Flrodia and such. I put my phone in front of her chest and commanded her to give me her number to perhaps have a nice drink or coffee or something sometime as I liked her personality (& would like to get to know her better/or something else… Blah blah blah.) But she said she doesn’t give her number out like that blah blah blah, then said I can come back tomorrow on Saturday (which then on Saturday, I found out she had a kid 2 years old already… Single mother) and I smiled and said well thank you nice meeting you and shook her hand and took off.
After that I went up to a girl, introduced myself with a few lines and such, gave her a kiss on the hand, and danced with her to a sad Bachata song (she was reluctant because she didn’t like the song [it's about a guy being a loser to a girl, not able to win her over. "El Perdedor by Aventura."] but I said I’d make it fun, which afterwards she said I did make it fun).
Afterwards, I told her she can either give me her number to hook up on correct terms or to leave with me for a bite to eat (which was impossible I was driving for three of my girlfriends.) She said something how she was in the Air Force and is leaving Wednesday and as a result, has her phone turned off as it’s not needed if she’s leaving so soon. (Excuse or not, w/e…) So I was like okay nice meeting you thanks and she said to come back tomorrow on Saturday and she’ll be there. I told her well maybe, I’ll try to convince my friends to stop by since I already have plans, okay? Gave her a kiss on both cheeks and took off.

So just tonight I went back to the club, said hi to the bartender and chatted a little, I flirted with her to the extent of saying she’s new to town and a new bartender I doubt she can make a good drink. (I also thought perhaps she only chatted with me to hustle me out of a tip, since she doesn’t get paid by the hour, rather only getting tips).
Air Force girl wasn’t there and I was walking around the dance floor and some guy goes up to me like, hey man, wassup! So I slapped hands with him said yeah, what’s up? And he was like have you seen Air Force girl (I forgot her name.. at the moment, but at the time I knew who he was talking about), and so I said nahh I haven’t been looking for her, why don’t you call her, which he replied to that he doesn’t have her number. So I said well alright man take it easy I’ll see you later, exchanged names, another hand slap, and went on my way to another girl who was pretty cute and started asking her stuff like what do you look for in a guy and what do you have to offer? She didn’t answer the offer part, saying instead that the questions were making her nervous (but she was smiling all the while, and kept grabbing my hand which was outstretched palm up, in a questioning way). So I did a walk away, said oh it’s fine you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to nice meeting you, and gave her a nice kiss on the hand, and walked off. (Later I passed by her again I looked for a second if she would notice me or something but she didn’t so I w/e-ed it and walked by her again [which was lame. But I didn't want to do the whole "Enjoying yourself?... Having a good night?" because that's the only thing at the time I could come up with to talking to her about.])
At the end of my night after I said goodbye to the bartender I saw this girl dancing alone with her girlfriend and some guy dancing. I went up to her…
Me:What do you have to do for me to love you (It was supposed to be What do I have to do for you to love me, but I was a little tipsy, plus you couldn’t hear anyways so w/e.)
Her:Hahahaha woww
Me:Well my name’s Syd nice to meet you (grabs her hand). What’s your name?
Her:Blah Blah!
Me:What?!
Her:Blahhhhhhhh
Me:What????
Her:Something something something
Me:I’m sorry… What are you saying?
Her:MY NAME’S (fake name=) Shaniqua.
Me:Ohhhhhh nice to meet you!
Her:Yeah! Haha
She then turned around and we danced for like a good minute and her friends were all like Omg laughing and stuff and then I was doing some slow-mo moves and stuff which made her crack up (because not too many guys break it down slow. They usually just dance…. Left. Right. and so on. Me- Left (hold) right up left down right going down a couple inches and so.)
I used to have really good faith in my dancing skills but somehow I didn’t dance for a month or so and I lost all confidence in my dancing. I’m still not TOO bad…. :\

So we talked again after that dance
Me:So what do you look for in a guy
Her:What???? What do you mean? Haha
Me:Like personality, a good outlook on life, some really good looks… etc. (Yeah… Oops. I gave her the answer.)
Her:I don’t really have a specific type (rare for Hispanic girls in my past experience)… It would have to be the personality.
Her:How old are you
(This is where I am fu*ked)
Me:Well, how old are you??
Her:Oh.. 20!
Me:Well I’m 22 (I just COULDN’T say 17, not only that it’s illegal but wouldn’t she immediately be like… FU*K! Bye.)
Her:OHhhhh cool!
Me:So what do you have to offer a guy?
Her:Well… I’m awesome!
Me:That’s it?!
Her:Yeah!!
Me:Well… That IS a lot to offer! >:)
(she didn’t catch the sarcasm but hey I forgive her I’m REALLY slow with sarcasm myself.)
Her:You should get my number
Me:Hm.. Alright sure (pulls out phone gives to her)
I kinda grinned at my friend who was watching (which I think was a little too cocky she caught me doing the grin =\ )
Me:Alright cool it was a pleasure meeting you
(kiss both cheeks, and walk off no looking back)

Sooo… If I have any errors in my ways I did things, please tell me (I know I messed up a lot but how could I improve?)
Also, what am I to do? Call her?? Text her?? How am I supposed to tell her that I’m really 17 a freshmen in college and working at Steak N Shake
(I decided if she asks me what I do I’ll play with her and just say I’m a Men’s Leg model for jean magazines or w/e and constantly avoid the question).

So.. What should I do?!?!? :[[

David… If you happen to read this, please e-mail me or leave a comment here or both, please! I also have no clue how to call or text her back about what and how to meet up with her..!

and yes, they’re metaphors not to be taken literally.

Women in their 20s are “takers” because they can afford to be. When they can no longer afford to be, they often develop into very interesting women who have something to give in return.

Just You, you being you I think you’ll love it and be warned for it will amplify your restlessness and make you very impatient…

one little thing though – i was thinking at the expense of “someone else”, no emphasis on the gender

oor perhaps i’ll just shut up now. (and go read that book of yours!)

I used the word “Superior” as a referenced to David Deida’s book “The Superior Man” where he talks about the essence of being a great man who understands masculine and feminine energy in the relationship.

So put your concerns aside, superior does not mean self-awareness at the expense of the woman. It means “superior” compared to the “average” man.

I’m glad we could help you with the women stuff.

In regards to knowing what you want to do, just realize that you still have plenty of time. When I graduated from college, I wasn’t quite sure what I wanted to do either. My family were mostly in the medical field and I didn’t want to do that. So I had a few jobs after college but I can’t say that any of them really inspired me in any meaningful way.

Now, I believe I know what I want. It took me longer than your average guy perhaps… but now, i also have a much clearer vision of the future because i took my time.

And for JustMe,

I’m thankful to know what I want now. For a guy to “mature” and think the way Tony and I do…. the guy has to do a lot of self-work. Any guy who achieves a certain level of self-awareness can become a “superior man”.